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Merrymouse · 12/09/2025 17:52

FuckOffWithYourEllipses · 12/09/2025 17:49

Can you point out where, in any of my posts, I’ve defended trans ideology?

I haven’t expressed any opinions about trans ideology whatsoever.

I’ve criticised the way White Feminism focuses on the trans thing to the exclusion of virtually everything else.

And pointed out the way Charlie Kirk’s racist white supremacist advocacy has been consistently dismissed on this thread because he was “polite” and “he engaged”.

That’s all.

I’ve criticised the way White Feminism focuses on the trans thing to the exclusion of virtually everything else.

And in doing so displaying a rather patronising attitude to all the non-white women who also quite like to have words to defend women's rights.

FuckOffWithYourEllipses · 12/09/2025 17:55

Merrymouse · 12/09/2025 17:45

I'm rather confused - you think that only white women require sex specific services?

Leaving that aside, how do you think equality law works if 'woman' can't be defined?

No, that’s not what I said.

What I said is that treating single sex spaces as THE fundamental issue while minimising or ignoring racism is textbook White Feminism.

Trying to frame it as me saying only white women need single sex spaces is a straw man.

ThatBlackCat · 12/09/2025 17:56

FuckOffWithYourEllipses · 12/09/2025 17:55

No, that’s not what I said.

What I said is that treating single sex spaces as THE fundamental issue while minimising or ignoring racism is textbook White Feminism.

Trying to frame it as me saying only white women need single sex spaces is a straw man.

For many of us black rape survivors, it IS the most fundamental issue. So you can take your 'White' Feminism slur and your racism and go away.

FuckOffWithYourEllipses · 12/09/2025 17:57

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 12/09/2025 17:51

How on earth would you know anything about my race? That is textbook juvenile thinking and astonishingly insulting.

You’ve misunderstood (or chosen to).

White feminism doesn’t mean “all white women” or that I know your race.

It means centring feminism around the issues that affect white women most, while treating racism as secondary.

That’s what your comment illustrated.

Merrymouse · 12/09/2025 17:58

FuckOffWithYourEllipses · 12/09/2025 17:55

No, that’s not what I said.

What I said is that treating single sex spaces as THE fundamental issue while minimising or ignoring racism is textbook White Feminism.

Trying to frame it as me saying only white women need single sex spaces is a straw man.

Single sex spaces is not THE fundamental issue.

You can argue the toss about when spaces should and shouldn't be single sex, and I'm sure feminists will continue to do so. There was quite a furore when Corbyn suggested single sex trains carriages a few years ago.

I hope you don't mind if I put this next bit in caps, because it really is the fundamental issue.

YOU CAN'T PROTECT WOMEN'S RIGHTS IF YOU CAN'T EXPLAIN WHAT A WOMAN IS.

SionnachRuadh · 12/09/2025 17:58

nauticant · 12/09/2025 17:52

I have a suspicion that when more of the story comes out, what's going to emerge is an inadequate young man who rapidly radicalised himself without any clear idea of what he was doing except indulging in his righteousness and hatred, that he hadn't spent time formulating into a clear set of ideas.

Some people are going to be looking for a committed warrior for one cause or another. I think they're going to be disappointed.

We still know very little about the Pennsylvania shooter from a year ago. His online activity seems to have been politically all over the place, and kids who were his contemporaries at school barely remembered him. All the indications are that he was just a depressive incel who hated his life and saw the opportunity to make himself famous with a Grand Gesture, even if he got killed doing it.

ThatBlackCat · 12/09/2025 18:00

FuckOffWithYourEllipses · 12/09/2025 17:57

You’ve misunderstood (or chosen to).

White feminism doesn’t mean “all white women” or that I know your race.

It means centring feminism around the issues that affect white women most, while treating racism as secondary.

That’s what your comment illustrated.

If you think access to safe single sex toilets affects white women the most, more than black women, you're beyond brainwashed with racism.

Edit: black women like myself don't appreciate you weaponising our race/skin colour. It's racist and demeaning and offensive. Please stop it. We are not your tool or weapon to attack white women with.

NotMyNigelFarage · 12/09/2025 18:03

moto748e · 12/09/2025 17:38

I haven't RTFT, and I daresay it's been mentioned, but

‘The Left is the party of murder,’ Musk posted on X

What a POS that man is. Let's have a civil war in the US, eh? Perhaps that's what he wants.

Is he wrong? Communism has killed more people than the Nazis.

Ratafia · 12/09/2025 18:04

wrongthinker · 11/09/2025 14:29

Anyone who can't condemn this murder has lost their soul to their ideology. Words are not violence, and Charlie Kirk did not deserve to be shot simply for speaking and sharing his words. I find the whole thing terrifying.

I completely condemn this murder, and I think any death by shooting is totally unacceptable. The only person I know of who thought shooting deaths could be acceptable was Charlie Kirk.

FuckOffWithYourEllipses · 12/09/2025 18:06

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FuckOffWithYourEllipses · 12/09/2025 18:08

ThatBlackCat · 12/09/2025 18:00

If you think access to safe single sex toilets affects white women the most, more than black women, you're beyond brainwashed with racism.

Edit: black women like myself don't appreciate you weaponising our race/skin colour. It's racist and demeaning and offensive. Please stop it. We are not your tool or weapon to attack white women with.

Edited

Just seen your edit.

I can see this has been twisted into claims I never made. I won’t keep engaging on bad-faith straw men. My point was simply that feminism that minimises racism while centring only one issue is White Feminism. I stand by that.

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 12/09/2025 18:09

Alexandra2001 · 12/09/2025 12:58

Yes a keen Tory i know, said similar, she didn't like his views on child rape victims forced to carry on with pregnancy and his grey area comment on date rape.
I must say he had some very odd ideas but no one deserves to be murdered for them.

It seems people like Tate and Kirk draw in many from the right, why?

Are you suggesting that Kirk was similar to Tate? I don't know a huge amount about either of them, so I may be wrong, but my impression is of very different men with considerable differences of viewpoint. I would have been reasonably happy for my son to listen to Kirk's opinions, which he would always have disagreed with, but very worried if he listened to Tate. I think there is a big difference between Kirk's conservative views on women's place in society and Tate's complete contempt for women.

WarriorN · 12/09/2025 18:10

SionnachRuadh · 12/09/2025 17:58

We still know very little about the Pennsylvania shooter from a year ago. His online activity seems to have been politically all over the place, and kids who were his contemporaries at school barely remembered him. All the indications are that he was just a depressive incel who hated his life and saw the opportunity to make himself famous with a Grand Gesture, even if he got killed doing it.

it sounds like he was active on discord.

Ive never been on the place but who knows what alternative ideas of the world are generated there. It’s certainly where a lot of people say they were led into trans genderism

ThatBlackCat · 12/09/2025 18:11

FuckOffWithYourEllipses · 12/09/2025 18:08

Just seen your edit.

I can see this has been twisted into claims I never made. I won’t keep engaging on bad-faith straw men. My point was simply that feminism that minimises racism while centring only one issue is White Feminism. I stand by that.

There is no feminism on this thread that "minimises racism". You are posting in bad faith now.

NotMyNigelFarage · 12/09/2025 18:11

FuckOffWithYourEllipses · 12/09/2025 18:08

Just seen your edit.

I can see this has been twisted into claims I never made. I won’t keep engaging on bad-faith straw men. My point was simply that feminism that minimises racism while centring only one issue is White Feminism. I stand by that.

It could equally be called 'privileged feminism' really because that's the suggested dynamic.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/09/2025 18:12

GoldThumb · 12/09/2025 17:44

Out of the many many thousands of mass shootings in the US, not one has been carried out by a trans woman

Robin Westman?

Yes, like a couple of weeks ago, no?

Merrymouse · 12/09/2025 18:15

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Wheeling out phrases like 'white feminism' is rather redundant on a board where you don't know anyone's race.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/09/2025 18:15

FuckOffWithYourEllipses · 12/09/2025 17:02

Obviously nobody has praised his hateful racist rhetoric.

But it’s been skimmed over and minimised because he engaged in debate and was “polite” and “kind” while he was saying stuff about the civil rights act having been a mistake, etc.

People are focussing on the brutal murder and general callous nature of online political discourse. It’s not up to you to decide they should be discussing what you want them to.

GoldThumb · 12/09/2025 18:16

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 12/09/2025 18:09

Are you suggesting that Kirk was similar to Tate? I don't know a huge amount about either of them, so I may be wrong, but my impression is of very different men with considerable differences of viewpoint. I would have been reasonably happy for my son to listen to Kirk's opinions, which he would always have disagreed with, but very worried if he listened to Tate. I think there is a big difference between Kirk's conservative views on women's place in society and Tate's complete contempt for women.

Nothing alike IMO

GoldThumb · 12/09/2025 18:17

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/09/2025 18:12

Yes, like a couple of weeks ago, no?

Literally.
Very recently

FuckOffWithYourEllipses · 12/09/2025 18:23

ThatBlackCat · 12/09/2025 18:11

There is no feminism on this thread that "minimises racism". You are posting in bad faith now.

No, I’m not.

I have a different opinion and perspective to you and seemingly most of the people on this thread.

This does not equal bad faith.

With regards to the minimisation of racism, I explained exactly what I meant by that, a few pages back.

Which was that Charlie Kirk’s white supremacist activism has been mostly brushed aside by the feminists on this thread. Because he was “kind” and “polite” while expressing his anti black views and he held the correct opinions re gender ideology.

SionnachRuadh · 12/09/2025 18:24

WarriorN · 12/09/2025 18:10

it sounds like he was active on discord.

Ive never been on the place but who knows what alternative ideas of the world are generated there. It’s certainly where a lot of people say they were led into trans genderism

There are a bunch of online spaces that are like this. Someone - Helen Joyce probably - was saying that there's an element of kids raising kids online and their parents not knowing what's happening.

For girls I think it's certain Tumblr or Reddit communities, since they've cracked down on the anorexia ones it's been trans and more recently spoonie communities.

For boys it seems to be porn, gaming or weird political subcultures, and with the political/cultural side it's a random throw of the dice whether they become wannabe fascists or wannabe communists or Andrew Tate followers or they pretend to convert to Greek Orthodoxy and start banging on about reconquering Constantinople. Any ideology will do if you can make it edgy enough.

This was one of the issues with Rudakabana, wasn't it, he'd been referred to Prevent multiple times but they couldn't deal with him because he didn't have a consistent ideology. In today's online world, trying to clamp down on specific ideologies starts to look like a very Tony Blair era analogue solution.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/09/2025 18:30

Merrymouse · 12/09/2025 18:15

Wheeling out phrases like 'white feminism' is rather redundant on a board where you don't know anyone's race.

It’s a thought terminating cliche. And stating “I’m a middle class white woman” before berating other women for their “white feminism” because they would rather focus on the brutal murder rather than performatively denounce someone they maybe don’t know much about and haven’t the time to research, is epic cringe.

Merrymouse · 12/09/2025 18:30

In today's online world, trying to clamp down on specific ideologies starts to look like a very Tony Blair era analogue solution.

Very much agree.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/09/2025 18:34

SionnachRuadh · 12/09/2025 18:24

There are a bunch of online spaces that are like this. Someone - Helen Joyce probably - was saying that there's an element of kids raising kids online and their parents not knowing what's happening.

For girls I think it's certain Tumblr or Reddit communities, since they've cracked down on the anorexia ones it's been trans and more recently spoonie communities.

For boys it seems to be porn, gaming or weird political subcultures, and with the political/cultural side it's a random throw of the dice whether they become wannabe fascists or wannabe communists or Andrew Tate followers or they pretend to convert to Greek Orthodoxy and start banging on about reconquering Constantinople. Any ideology will do if you can make it edgy enough.

This was one of the issues with Rudakabana, wasn't it, he'd been referred to Prevent multiple times but they couldn't deal with him because he didn't have a consistent ideology. In today's online world, trying to clamp down on specific ideologies starts to look like a very Tony Blair era analogue solution.

Yes, I don’t know what the answer is. I find it deeply disturbing how desensitised people are to violence.

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