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Merrymouse · 12/09/2025 19:39

TheJoyOfWriting · 12/09/2025 19:30

He should ve expelled.

If the past decade has shown us nothing else, it is that poor impulse control and judgement is no bar to progress in politics and government.

ArabellaSaurus · 12/09/2025 19:40

OneAmberFinch · 12/09/2025 19:34

Agree about the mixed/incoherent ideologies, but transgenderism is interesting in that it doesn't get you a Prevent referral (and maybe even protects you from it?). "My son is hanging out on these weird trans discord channels" probably gets you and your son sent down a gender dysphoria helpline pathway which ignores or dismisses the extremist content. "Ah, they are just talking about killing terfs as a cry for help" or something. At most the system probably acknowledges that "some murderers happen to be trans, coincidentally" without acknowledging that the trans community was the radicalisation pathway.

I'm wondering how long that will last, especially in the US with the Zizians and other recent antifa violence.

ThatBlackCat · 12/09/2025 19:40

nomas · 12/09/2025 19:39

Single sex places are an absolute necessity but black women are dealing with much worse challenges than that, like institutional racism.

The thread is being derailed, btw, this should be moved to a separate thread.

It's not a competition. Black women still need single sex spaces, all women do, no matter what colour they are.

SionnachRuadh · 12/09/2025 19:43

OneAmberFinch · 12/09/2025 19:34

Agree about the mixed/incoherent ideologies, but transgenderism is interesting in that it doesn't get you a Prevent referral (and maybe even protects you from it?). "My son is hanging out on these weird trans discord channels" probably gets you and your son sent down a gender dysphoria helpline pathway which ignores or dismisses the extremist content. "Ah, they are just talking about killing terfs as a cry for help" or something. At most the system probably acknowledges that "some murderers happen to be trans, coincidentally" without acknowledging that the trans community was the radicalisation pathway.

"Extremism" in the modern UK can mean something as absolutely mainstream as reading Tolkien or having a subscription to the Spectator. Once PC Plod says "we'd like to check your thinking, extremism wise" anything is fair game.

Trans probably does protect against a referral because trans seems to trump every other characteristic and leads a certain sort of person to focus exclusively on how vulnerable the young person is. I tried to have a conversation with a TRA friend about the threats to Kathleen Stock, pointing out that she's the most moderate and respectful interlocutor you can imagine, and all I got in response is "these young and oppressed and vulnerable people, maybe they don't always choose their tactics wisely, but it's just them standing up to a bully." Seriously.

It's the only example I can think of where you say "my child has gone down an internet rabbit hole and is interacting with all these weirdos" and you're automatically the villain.

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 12/09/2025 19:44

ThatBlackCat · 12/09/2025 19:40

It's not a competition. Black women still need single sex spaces, all women do, no matter what colour they are.

Exactly, we are capable of being involved with more than one thing at a time, it’s not up to anyone to tell any woman what she should be concerned about.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 12/09/2025 19:46

nomas · 12/09/2025 19:36

I don’t think @FuckOffWithYourEllipses is being patronising at all. Feminist doesn’t automatically mean non-racist, as show by the Sandie Peggie case.

I agree, I didn't read it as patronising because it has more than a grain of truth.
There are bigger issues troubling black/brown women today, bigger than a man in a skirt.
Racism is off the scale, women are vulnerable facing angry men.

ThatBlackCat · 12/09/2025 19:48

EmeraldShamrock000 · 12/09/2025 19:46

I agree, I didn't read it as patronising because it has more than a grain of truth.
There are bigger issues troubling black/brown women today, bigger than a man in a skirt.
Racism is off the scale, women are vulnerable facing angry men.

No, there are not bigger issues. Our ability to participate in society and that means using facilities where we are safe, is most likely the biggest issue of all.

FuckOffWithYourEllipses · 12/09/2025 19:50

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 12/09/2025 19:14

You won’t keep engaging because several posters have called you out for being offensive and racist.

To be clear, I was called “racist” for pointing out that white feminism minimises anti black racism.

Those polite posts were deleted, while the actual minimisation of racism sails through unchallenged.

That says it all. No point continuing.

SionnachRuadh · 12/09/2025 19:50

Ben Sixsmith was quite good, I thought.

Will America choose violence? | Ben Sixsmith | The Critic Magazine

EmeraldShamrock000 · 12/09/2025 19:53

ThatBlackCat · 12/09/2025 19:48

No, there are not bigger issues. Our ability to participate in society and that means using facilities where we are safe, is most likely the biggest issue of all.

Of course, two important issues can run alongside each other.
Facilities should be safe, like public transport or walking an around the area should be safe, it isn't safe lately while racists are raging.
My colleagues from India are abused daily in everyday life, I rarely if ever suffer verbal abuse.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/09/2025 19:53

There is no “minimisation of racism” here, just people who want to discuss a brutal murder of a prominent commentator and the reaction to it online without being derailed by tedious purity spirals about whether we’ve denounced him enough.

nomas · 12/09/2025 19:53

ThatBlackCat · 12/09/2025 17:41

Re trans, yes. Which is what 99% of people believe.

No, they didn’t qualify it to just his trans views. They said that his views have merit.

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 12/09/2025 19:54

EmeraldShamrock000 · 12/09/2025 19:46

I agree, I didn't read it as patronising because it has more than a grain of truth.
There are bigger issues troubling black/brown women today, bigger than a man in a skirt.
Racism is off the scale, women are vulnerable facing angry men.

How about you and @FuckOffWithYourEllipses listen to the black woman you are lecturing and accept that she knows what’s important to her and you don’t.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 12/09/2025 19:57

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 12/09/2025 19:54

How about you and @FuckOffWithYourEllipses listen to the black woman you are lecturing and accept that she knows what’s important to her and you don’t.

How is responding to a post lecturing someone?
I didn't say the single sex space wasn't an important.

nomas · 12/09/2025 19:58

ThatBlackCat · 12/09/2025 19:40

It's not a competition. Black women still need single sex spaces, all women do, no matter what colour they are.

But they are not the biggest priority for women of colour. We have much bigger hurdles to face.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/09/2025 19:59

Feminism is about women’s rights. Women and girls. All women have the right to participate. Division isn’t helpful. Other rights movements aren’t constantly harangued to prioritise other issues over the central issue they’re organised around. You disagree, fine. But don’t presume that I will be engaging with predictable, derailing smears about FWR.

LondonLady1980 · 12/09/2025 20:01

nauticant · 12/09/2025 17:52

I have a suspicion that when more of the story comes out, what's going to emerge is an inadequate young man who rapidly radicalised himself without any clear idea of what he was doing except indulging in his righteousness and hatred, that he hadn't spent time formulating into a clear set of ideas.

Some people are going to be looking for a committed warrior for one cause or another. I think they're going to be disappointed.

I agree with this.

I think many people will have a preconceived idea about the type of person the murderer is, he will have been stereotyped in some way, and when it comes out that he doesn't fit that narrative it will disappoint a lot of people.

I really liked Charlie Kirk (although I didn't agree with everything he said or believed in), but as a person I cannot see anything about him that would incite such hatred that somebody would want him dead, and then kill him in such a violent manner.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/09/2025 20:02

nomas · 12/09/2025 19:58

But they are not the biggest priority for women of colour. We have much bigger hurdles to face.

No one is telling you what you have to prioritise. Likewise, I’ll prioritise what I want to.

nomas · 12/09/2025 20:02

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/09/2025 19:53

There is no “minimisation of racism” here, just people who want to discuss a brutal murder of a prominent commentator and the reaction to it online without being derailed by tedious purity spirals about whether we’ve denounced him enough.

As opposed to the posters complaining that people haven’t denounced anonymous social media accounts enough?

ThatBlackCat · 12/09/2025 20:03

nomas · 12/09/2025 19:58

But they are not the biggest priority for women of colour. We have much bigger hurdles to face.

Yes, they are. Toilets, as well as female facilities, affect us every single day. There is no greater struggle.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/09/2025 20:03

LondonLady1980 · 12/09/2025 20:01

I agree with this.

I think many people will have a preconceived idea about the type of person the murderer is, he will have been stereotyped in some way, and when it comes out that he doesn't fit that narrative it will disappoint a lot of people.

I really liked Charlie Kirk (although I didn't agree with everything he said or believed in), but as a person I cannot see anything about him that would incite such hatred that somebody would want him dead, and then kill him in such a violent manner.

I agree. I think he just sounds a bit of an internet edge lord rather than motivated by fervent ideology. But the points around online culture stand I think, it is concerning.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/09/2025 20:04

nomas · 12/09/2025 20:02

As opposed to the posters complaining that people haven’t denounced anonymous social media accounts enough?

I don’t care who you denounce or don’t denounce. I’m saying why I, personally am concerned about online violent rhetoric. But I’m sure you thought you had a gotcha.

EweSurname · 12/09/2025 20:05

EmeraldShamrock000 · 12/09/2025 19:46

I agree, I didn't read it as patronising because it has more than a grain of truth.
There are bigger issues troubling black/brown women today, bigger than a man in a skirt.
Racism is off the scale, women are vulnerable facing angry men.

As a brown woman, it’s not a “man in a skirt” that I find troubling, it’s the complete eradication of my sex-based rights, along with the huge swathes of people who think I’m a bigot who deserves violence for objecting to it.

GoldThumb · 12/09/2025 20:07

So apparently during a press conference earlier, it was stated that Tyler Robinsons roommate, while cooperating with authorities , a ‘joke’ he made via discord.
Part of it was “Tyler stating a need to retrieve a rifle from a drop point, leaving the rifle in a bush and a message referring to having left the rifle in a towel.”

Discord deny this, and say it wasn’t on their platform, and his account has now been deleted.

It doesn’t surprise me though, if there were more people involved, given this posted the day before it happened:

Charlie Kirk shot during a debate about trans people
Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/09/2025 20:10

There was a TikTok with similar rhetoric from someone else too.

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