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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Is it too early for a post mortem?

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Appalonia · 15/11/2024 17:22

So, now that America has categorically rejected transgender ideology, which I do think will affect the rest of the world, is now the time to ascertain HOW did so many institutions, including the Democratic and Labour Parties get so completely bamboozled by this ideology? Which is crazy, not based in material reality, disadvantages half of the population, has physically damaged thousands of young people, and that they didn't think that people would see through it?

I know a lot of people dislike Matt Walsh, but his documentary, What is a Woman, was jaw dropping! We must NEVER let this dangerous idiocy happen again ( and yes I know it's not over...)

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Shortshriftandlethal · 04/12/2024 14:56

ButterflyHatched · 04/12/2024 10:00

And again, you snap straight back to wielding nuance-free axioms like a sledgehammer, claiming they solve the problem.

They do not solve the problem. They allow you to ignore your problem. They also allow you to cynically weaponise the suffering of marginalised people against themselves while giving you a satisfying rush of power. It feels good to bluntly deny other people's lived reality; make them suffer as you have suffered. You have incorporated this into your entire personality and made it an article of faith.

Accepting that a single trans woman has needs or experiences similar to yours brings the entire house of cards crashing down. Much like your endless dismissals of evidence that human minds and experiences are far more complicated than the reductionist metaphysical categories you have backed yourself into a corner over, you now cannot allow for exceptions to the rule.

It is pure, callous, cruel rigid thinking serving as the load-bearing pin for your worldview. You have forced yourself to deny the lived reality of certain types of woman over it despite their cases clearly requiring flexibility and compassion to any reasonable person.

It doesn't matter to you, though. You have to be ideologically correct and pure and if that means denying the womanhood of groups of strange women whose existence confounds the axiom, then so be it. Your need for purity trumps human reality.

It is completely unreasonable and inappropriate to ban people who transition from facilities they are legally entitled to use and have been using for decades. We are a compassionate and humane forward-thinking society who has long ago decided that people who transition are who they say they are.

We have regressed so horrifyingly as a society under the influence of evangelist wedge issue attacks on all human rights that we are are in all seriousness back to beating trans women over the head with their own pain.

Your ideology does not render irrelevant other people's real lived experiences. Your need for purity does not trump other people's need for humanity. Weaponising trans people's pain to effectively ban them from basic human services and facilities is inhumane and while technically a solution to your problem with them, is not a solution to the problem.

All human beings, the world over, tend to have the same basic needs.....but a transwoman ( who is male by definiition) does not have the same needs and requirements as a woman. 'Woman' is a distinct human category based on biological sex and all that stems from that.

If you find people pointing this out to be cruel or heartless it can only speak to an unhealthy psychological fragility - which requires the subservience of others for its survival.

'Sex' is not an ideology - it is a blood and tissue factual reality that shapes the lives of people in various ways. What is an ideology is the idea that one is really the opposite sex to that which one is, or that sex itself is performative - and that the whole world needs to be ordered around this idea.

Helleofabore · 04/12/2024 15:25

ButterflyHatched · 04/12/2024 10:00

And again, you snap straight back to wielding nuance-free axioms like a sledgehammer, claiming they solve the problem.

They do not solve the problem. They allow you to ignore your problem. They also allow you to cynically weaponise the suffering of marginalised people against themselves while giving you a satisfying rush of power. It feels good to bluntly deny other people's lived reality; make them suffer as you have suffered. You have incorporated this into your entire personality and made it an article of faith.

Accepting that a single trans woman has needs or experiences similar to yours brings the entire house of cards crashing down. Much like your endless dismissals of evidence that human minds and experiences are far more complicated than the reductionist metaphysical categories you have backed yourself into a corner over, you now cannot allow for exceptions to the rule.

It is pure, callous, cruel rigid thinking serving as the load-bearing pin for your worldview. You have forced yourself to deny the lived reality of certain types of woman over it despite their cases clearly requiring flexibility and compassion to any reasonable person.

It doesn't matter to you, though. You have to be ideologically correct and pure and if that means denying the womanhood of groups of strange women whose existence confounds the axiom, then so be it. Your need for purity trumps human reality.

It is completely unreasonable and inappropriate to ban people who transition from facilities they are legally entitled to use and have been using for decades. We are a compassionate and humane forward-thinking society who has long ago decided that people who transition are who they say they are.

We have regressed so horrifyingly as a society under the influence of evangelist wedge issue attacks on all human rights that we are are in all seriousness back to beating trans women over the head with their own pain.

Your ideology does not render irrelevant other people's real lived experiences. Your need for purity does not trump other people's need for humanity. Weaponising trans people's pain to effectively ban them from basic human services and facilities is inhumane and while technically a solution to your problem with them, is not a solution to the problem.

I don't believe that after all your posts on the other thread about sex by deception, that you can ever take any kind of moral stance again.

For those who wish to read the posts, here is the link.

CONTENT WARNING: non-consensual sex

www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5221125-terfs-are-not-the-problem?page=7

Helleofabore · 04/12/2024 15:47

UtopiaPlanitia · 04/12/2024 14:55

Sall Grover discussing this issue (and others raised on this thread) with Jack Jewell is worth a watch because they have a very honest discussion:

Bloody hell. Another apposite link utopia. That is like a replay of the end of the thread...

Including the hyperbole, emotional manipulation, the catastrophising. It seems to be a feature for a particular sub group of male people.

Particularly the compassion, humanity and 'love' style buzzwords.

UtopiaPlanitia · 04/12/2024 15:52

I’m glad you found it worth watching Helle. For me it showed that the arguments we’re being met with on this thread, and others, are not someone’s personal interpretation of gender identity ideology, they ARE mainstream gender identity ideology and they are inimical to the existence of women’s sex-based rights and legal protections.

lechiffre55 · 04/12/2024 15:52

Helleofabore · 04/12/2024 15:25

I don't believe that after all your posts on the other thread about sex by deception, that you can ever take any kind of moral stance again.

For those who wish to read the posts, here is the link.

CONTENT WARNING: non-consensual sex

www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5221125-terfs-are-not-the-problem?page=7

Thanks for the link to the other thread @Helleofabore
This in particular blew my mind.

"There has been a consistent movement ever since, heavily centred on this board, to force the country to leave the EU in order to allow these basic human rights to be removed."

It wasn't Farage and the Brexit Party it was evil mumsnet Brexitnet all along!!!

Heavily centered on this board. I can't stop laughing :) :) :)

Brefugee · 04/12/2024 17:50

god that EU/Brexit stuff is making me angry. My username is the clue...

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 04/12/2024 18:13

lechiffre55 · 04/12/2024 15:52

Thanks for the link to the other thread @Helleofabore
This in particular blew my mind.

"There has been a consistent movement ever since, heavily centred on this board, to force the country to leave the EU in order to allow these basic human rights to be removed."

It wasn't Farage and the Brexit Party it was evil mumsnet Brexitnet all along!!!

Heavily centered on this board. I can't stop laughing :) :) :)

I didn't think it was possible for people like @ButterflyHatched to believe the world revolves around them any more than they already do.

The idea that Brexit was engineered purely so that we could withdraw from the ECHR (which does not technically have anything to do with the EU, and which we have not left) and go back to persecuting trans people with gay abandon is a whole different level of batshit.

Helleofabore · 04/12/2024 18:35

I am now looking forward to watching the recording of the United States v Skrmetti case. Apparently, Chase Strangio has admitted that transition does not impact suicide rates.

Doesn't that negate claims that medical treatment plans being advocated for are 'life saving'? Surely, if this is the case someone better inform the ACLU quickly. Or maybe, some people with transgender identities in positions of influence have to tell the truth under oath in a court case that is being broadcast to the world.

AlisonDonut · 05/12/2024 06:03

And again, you snap straight back to wielding nuance-free axioms like a sledgehammer, claiming they solve the problem.

An axiom, postulate, or assumption is a statement that is taken to be true, to serve as a premise or starting point for further reasoning and arguments

There you go again Helleofabore, using things that are true as a starting point for discussion.

What a fucking liberty.

Helleofabore · 05/12/2024 07:40

AlisonDonut · 05/12/2024 06:03

And again, you snap straight back to wielding nuance-free axioms like a sledgehammer, claiming they solve the problem.

An axiom, postulate, or assumption is a statement that is taken to be true, to serve as a premise or starting point for further reasoning and arguments

There you go again Helleofabore, using things that are true as a starting point for discussion.

What a fucking liberty.

I know, Alison.

This is what happens when facts meet theory.

However, I have noticed that the poster likes to reference maths and science in their definitions of the word woman. So I checked and what do you know, it is also a maths/science reference.

Cambridge says :
a formal statement or principle in mathematics, science, etc., from which other statements can be obtained.

You see, it is always important to use the terminology of a the physical science fields to prop up weak philosophical theory. I guess some people feel it lends credibility to their theories that they have built their life around.

RainWithSunnySpells · 05/12/2024 09:03

Helle posted:
'Cambridge says :
a formal statement or principle in mathematics, science, etc., from which other statements can be obtained'.

I think that the formal statement/principle is 'mammals cannot change sex'.

That's a simple foundational truth from which other statements can be obtained. For example, human beings are mammals, therefore, human beings cannot change sex.

Odense · 05/12/2024 21:03

God. My blood pressure is off the charts just reading this. A big thank you to the patient debaters.

JanesLittleGirl · 05/12/2024 22:41

In response to the OP, it would appear that a PM is currently premature but it does need to be conducted within the next 12 months and reach the right conclusions. Otherwise the Dems are toast and the GOP can do what the fuck they like for the next 2 terms.

Helleofabore · 06/12/2024 09:06

I personally think we should take a sledgehammer to the term ‘life saving’ being dramatically misused for describing the treatment plans for identities currently being advocated for by people using this term.

The only possible way these treatments can be described as ‘life saving’ is because they have immorally weaponised falsely overamplified suicide narratives. This is hugely irresponsible and frankly considering it has been well documented to be false, it has crossed over to being immoral to continue to use this term.

Even the ACLU has had to admit the evidence doesn’t show what the use of this term would indicate. They have had to admit under oath that it is, in fact, rare for someone to commit suicide (thankfully) due to this issue. And we know from the evidence coming from reviews and experts that hormones and surgeries doesn’t show a decisive improvement for patients and the suicide rate doesn’t improve at all after treatment.

It is past time for that term to stop being used. It is not fact. And it is emotionally manipulative.

DrBlackbird · 06/12/2024 16:08

ban them from basic human services and facilities is inhumane and while technically a solution to your problem with them, is not a solution to the <our> problem.

No one talks of banning TW from basic human services. If we’re talking about needs, then a solution to TWs problems is third spaces for toilets and changing rooms. Ditto rape centres and prisons (both exist). Even on the basis of TW having life experiences never possible to be fully understood by women and vice versa of course. No need to access female sports categories or rape relief centres or female prison estates. Accommodation is possible along those lines. Job done. Any quarrel with that solution?

Runor · 06/12/2024 19:45

Butterfly I’ve asked before, and I am really curious: why do you think you’re a woman? Why is it that, whatever feelings and identity you have, you believe you have that in common with women?

Nobody knows how other people feel, and the belief that a whole sex class can be encompassed in a ‘feeling’ or ‘identity’ seems completely ridiculous to me - all the women I know are different, all they have in common is their biology & the stuff that flows from that.

What on earth led you to label the feelings you have as ‘woman’? Wouldn’t a more reasonable choice have been ‘man who feels like xxx’?

Runor · 06/12/2024 20:08

Helleofabore · 04/12/2024 15:25

I don't believe that after all your posts on the other thread about sex by deception, that you can ever take any kind of moral stance again.

For those who wish to read the posts, here is the link.

CONTENT WARNING: non-consensual sex

www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5221125-terfs-are-not-the-problem?page=7

Blimey, that thread took a turn…..

so Butterfly thinks it’s perfectly fine to agree to have sex with someone without disclosing your actual sex.

Hypothetically, a transwoman who regards themselves as a lesbian could therefore agree to have sex with a (female 🙄) lesbian. Obviously once it becomes clear that her partner is actually male, there may well be no way out. But that is absolutely fine? And remember peeps, most transwomen are still attached to their penis.

There aren’t enough emojis in the world to express my horror that anyone thinks this is ok.

hihelenhi · 06/12/2024 20:28

Runor · 06/12/2024 20:08

Blimey, that thread took a turn…..

so Butterfly thinks it’s perfectly fine to agree to have sex with someone without disclosing your actual sex.

Hypothetically, a transwoman who regards themselves as a lesbian could therefore agree to have sex with a (female 🙄) lesbian. Obviously once it becomes clear that her partner is actually male, there may well be no way out. But that is absolutely fine? And remember peeps, most transwomen are still attached to their penis.

There aren’t enough emojis in the world to express my horror that anyone thinks this is ok.

And not just "okay" either. Morally righteous, apparently, and an inalienable human right.

(for the "identifying as" a lesbian male - aka heterosexual man - rather than the actual lesbian female, naturally. But as we know, women's human rights aren't nearly as important as the apparently "lifesaving" human right that males have to be validated by women as women on demand, according to their wishes.)

Helleofabore · 06/12/2024 21:04

DrBlackbird · 06/12/2024 16:08

ban them from basic human services and facilities is inhumane and while technically a solution to your problem with them, is not a solution to the <our> problem.

No one talks of banning TW from basic human services. If we’re talking about needs, then a solution to TWs problems is third spaces for toilets and changing rooms. Ditto rape centres and prisons (both exist). Even on the basis of TW having life experiences never possible to be fully understood by women and vice versa of course. No need to access female sports categories or rape relief centres or female prison estates. Accommodation is possible along those lines. Job done. Any quarrel with that solution?

We were told that it was a solution to OUR needs not Butters needs. That that individual ‘needed’ female single sex space that allowed select male people in, ie. them but kept other males with trans identities out. Only a case by case scenario where butters got in and others stayed out.

(With a whole heap of other accusations and sparple, of course )

Runor · 06/12/2024 21:54

Helleofabore · 06/12/2024 21:04

We were told that it was a solution to OUR needs not Butters needs. That that individual ‘needed’ female single sex space that allowed select male people in, ie. them but kept other males with trans identities out. Only a case by case scenario where butters got in and others stayed out.

(With a whole heap of other accusations and sparple, of course )

Yeah, but clearly this isn’t about access to a safe space is it - it’s about accessing the women in it

Helleofabore · 06/12/2024 21:57

Runor · 06/12/2024 21:54

Yeah, but clearly this isn’t about access to a safe space is it - it’s about accessing the women in it

Yep. It is very clear that.

JanesLittleGirl · 06/12/2024 22:50

Runor · 06/12/2024 21:54

Yeah, but clearly this isn’t about access to a safe space is it - it’s about accessing the women in it

Who the fuck knows what is going on in a PPs head? It might be reality adjacent or it could be completely Dagenham.

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