Or to say the same thing a slightly different way... no-ones' identity, self-knowledge, marriage or experience of love or sexual desire had to be redefined or denied in order to accept the existence and validity of LGB identities, self knowledge, marriage, love or sexual desire.
In order to accept TWAW and TMAM, the meaning of "man" and "woman" has to be written for all of humanity, imposing on to every single one of us the assumption that our minds are "womanly", "manly" or "non-binary" regardless of whether this aligns with our actual self knowledge and life experience.