Men who buy sex don’t want access to women with dignity and self-respect. The whole point for both punters and pimps is looking for (and controlling) women who don’t feel safe, secure or dignified, or who don’t have viable alternatives. Men who pay to have sex don’t see any women as worthy of respect; a man who respects women wouldn’t want to pay for sexual access to women’s bodies.
Men who buy sexual access to women don’t want women who enjoy what they’re going through, they actively want women to fake enjoyment despite what’s being done to them. They complain about women being lethargic or not putting in enough effort. Men don’t want to treat prostitutes well, the whole point of a society allowing prostitution is having a class of woman who can’t say no to sex and have 'No' that be respected.
I’ve listened women in prostitution, both street and brothel, describe their days and how relentless and awful it is. I’ve seen adverts by brothels and pimps, I’ve read reviews by, and interviews with, men who buy sex. None of it speaks of a culture that sees women as equal human beings or of wanting to treat women with dignity, respect, or to reduce stigma. None of it speaks of seeing these women as providing a service. Degradation is the whole point. And men know that women are commonly trafficked and/or forced into prostitution by circumstances and pimps, and these men don’t care - they just complain that the women cry, or scream, or struggle all the way through what they do to them.
I’ve even seen reports and interviews with women who went into prostitution with a sex positive attitude, thinking that they just need to frame the whole experience 'correctly' i.e. "I enjoy casual sex so why not get paid for it", and these women come out of brothels shocked at how men treated them and what men expected them to do and the lack of respect men had for them. Reframing their participation in prostitution as a job or service didn’t protect them.
By all means, continue to think prostitution is a service provided by women (tell yourself that women can have power or dignity in the exchange) but I’ve seen ads from German and NZ brothels advertising gang bangs with heavily pregnant women and 'all you can eat' deals that encourage men to live out depraved fantasies. I’ve listened to the testimony of women trafficked from poor countries into the West and how they’ve been abused and forced into prostitution. I’ve listened to the women who had to actually live up to that description of yours that selling sex is a service and they hated every minute of it.
Throughout history men have justified prostitution: women of their vanquished enemies, temple prostitutes, courtesans, concubines, child brides, geisha, arranged marriage. Male-dominated societies just want a class of women who can’t say no to them and who can be abused without social censure. And some women in those societies are happy to go along with it, "better her than me", "that’s all she’s fit for", "she brought it on herself". The modern version of this attitude is,"it’s a job, and no worse than any other shitty job".
If you don’t know about any of this information then read about it - none of it is hard to find. And if you do know about stories like these and still think selling sex is a service that men can expect from women then I suggest you have a problem in seeing women as people rather than objects.
Telling people that they’re Victorian prudes because they see this issue differently than you is puerile.