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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

"Lesbians being anti-trans is a lesbophobic trope"

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MerlinsLostMarbles · 01/05/2023 13:36

https://www.gaytimes.co.uk/originals/lesbians-are-not-anti-trans/

I think this helps give another viewpoint to the "gay people are anti-trans" trope that is often used by the LGB-Alliance and Julie Bindel etc.

Lesbians often have to put up with harmful stereotypes that may deter them from coming out, and in recent years the "lesbians are anti-trans" is another stereotype on top of the existing ones.

'Lesbians being anti-trans is a lesbophobic trope'

Amy Ashenden, Interim CEO of Just Like Us, is dispelling the harmful trope that lesbians are against the trans community. 

https://www.gaytimes.co.uk/originals/lesbians-are-not-anti-trans

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crosstalk · 01/05/2023 14:31

@aseriesofstillimages I am sure lesbians are ok about having transwomen in their community and welcome them but not when being asked to have sex with entire males. And, like most natal women, many if not most will be disturbed about single sex spaces, no women-only rape clinics, sports competition (Navratilova) ... lesbians are women.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 01/05/2023 14:35

@MerlinsLostMarbles - do you think it is OK for a lesbian to refuse to have penis-in-vagina sex with a biological male, even if he does ‘identify’ as a woman and a lesbian?

Are you comfortable with the idea of the cotton ceiling - ie. lesbian women’s knickers - and trans women sharing tips on how to breach it - ie. how to manipulate, cajole or pressure lesbians into having sex with them?

PronounssheRa · 01/05/2023 14:38

OK, I mean accusing lesbians of being prejudice because they won't have sex with men is so much better isn't it, especially coming from the head of Stonewall. Because let's be honest that is what Kelley is talking about here. In her world TWAW and should be in the lesbian dating pool if that is how they identify

MerlinsLostMarbles · 01/05/2023 14:46

yourhairiswinterfire · 01/05/2023 14:30

I think this helps give another viewpoint to the "gay people are anti-trans" trope that is often used by the LGB-Alliance and Julie Bindel etc.

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Fact: LGB Alliance supports trans rights
We fully support trans people in their struggle, for dignity, respect and a life lived free from bigotry and fear. We believe that the issues and priorities for people who are attracted to the same sex (homosexual/bisexual) are different from those of transgender people, and so, with a number of organisations focused on trans people and trans issues, our focus is simply on lesbians, gay men, and bisexual people instead.

https://lgballiance.org.uk/facts/

The only people I've seen calling lesbians ''anti-trans'' are heterosexual blokes who think slapping on some lipstick means lesbians should suddenly desire their dick.

And lets not forget Nancy Kelley telling homosexuals to have a long, hard think about how ''societal prejudices have shaped your attractions''.

And who was it from Garden Court Chambers that said lesbians who won't sleep with men who identify as women is apartheid?

So if this lesbophobic trope is bothering you Marbles, pop over to a TRA forum and tell them to stop it then 🤷

When the LGB-Alliance applied for charity status, over 50 LGBT orgs protested against their application.

LGB-Alliance isn't actually for LGB people as you may think by its name, it's only purpose is anti-trans. This isn't even a secret as the founder Allison Bailey said it was setup to oppose LGBT charity Stonewall (whom she failed to sue).

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CoozudBoyuPuak · 01/05/2023 14:46

MerlinsLostMarbles · 01/05/2023 14:16

@CoozudBoyuPuak, noone is being called "anti trans" or "transphobic" for who they do or don't want to sleep with.

That would be lovely if it's true, but I have never yet seen a single example of this so-called "trope" of lesbians being called anti-trans that doesn't define it as "won't accept male people as fellow-lesbians" so if examples can't readily be found then it's hardly a trope is it? Can you find an example?

Hawkins003 · 01/05/2023 14:49

If lesbian's said they don't date anyone with penis's would that get around the anti trans label ?

HermioneWeasley · 01/05/2023 14:53

@MerlinsLostMarbles the CEO Of stonewall said exclusive samesex attraction was “sexual racism” and an abhorrent prejudice akin to anti semitism. The BBC used the phrase “transphobic cis gay men” to describe gay men. Gay people are absolutely shamed for their exclusive same sex attraction

crosstalk · 01/05/2023 15:07

Transphobia is rising at an alarming rate in our society. I find it surreal when people fail to see the parallels between the tactics of promoting homophobia and the fear of the unknown used against us in the past, and the ways that trans people are being talked about today. This fear mongering led to Section 28, and to the generations of LGBTQ+ people suffering because of those attitudes. Now, we’re seeing history repeat itself.
So we must push through this fear of the unknown. That’s why LGBTQ+ inclusive education in school is so vital – we must create a brighter future for young people who can know there is no shame in being a butch dyke like me, trans or non-binary, or whoever they grow up to be.

No. (1) there is no transphobia rising at an alarming rate, just people questioning why there has been no discussion and concerned about safeguarding the preponderance of girls wanting to transition versus the demands made by the very few entire males who want to be accepted as women. And questioning the hormone/surgical route for non-adults. Losing their jobs for questioning it. (2) it is nothing like the tactics of homophobic movements in the past apart from the conjuring up of predatory homosexuals. Despite that, homosexuality was made legal (lesbians were never illegal) over 50 years ago. Same sex marriage this century. There are still yards to go with making children comfortable in school including girls and boys being taught about respect. (3) of course that respect should apply to everyone of whatever sexual persuasion unless predatory eg the rise in the 70s of those supporting the idea children were sexual beings from birth.

RoseslnTheHospital · 01/05/2023 15:08

See, this constant sniping at the LGB Alliance just goes to show that you really can't have anything without the T as the outrage at lesbians organising (with G and B) separately is off the scale.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 01/05/2023 15:13

Hawkins003 · 01/05/2023 14:49

If lesbian's said they don't date anyone with penis's would that get around the anti trans label ?

No it wouldn’t, @Hawkins003. Lesbian women are already being told they must ‘get over their genital preference’, and there are trans people talking about how to ‘break the cotton ceiling’ - ie. how to get into lesbian women’s knickers.

Basically, it is transphobic to be a biological woman who only wants sex with other biological women.

And yet trans women who call themselves lesbians are absolutely allowed to say they only want sex with biological females. They are allowed to reject trans-penis, but women are not.

dropthevipers · 01/05/2023 15:17

MerlinsLostMarbles · 01/05/2023 14:16

@CoozudBoyuPuak, noone is being called "anti trans" or "transphobic" for who they do or don't want to sleep with.

Think you need to tell Nancy Kelly that. `perhaps you missed it? Funny that.

wombridgewalkabout · 01/05/2023 15:22

MerlinsLostMarbles · 01/05/2023 14:46

When the LGB-Alliance applied for charity status, over 50 LGBT orgs protested against their application.

LGB-Alliance isn't actually for LGB people as you may think by its name, it's only purpose is anti-trans. This isn't even a secret as the founder Allison Bailey said it was setup to oppose LGBT charity Stonewall (whom she failed to sue).

For goodness sake, accusing LGB people who want an organization to Centre their rights as ‘anti-trans’ is the same as the men who called women rights campaigners in the 70s ‘anti-men’.

Those 70s feminists were not anti men but anti misogyny. LGB are not anti trans, they are arguing against homophobic, lesbo phobic and misogynistic gender ideology and want to get back to a movement in which gays and lesbians can unashamedly call themselves exclusively same sex attracted.

Or to paraphrase, ‘some people are same sex attracted. Get over it’

yourhairiswinterfire · 01/05/2023 15:24

This isn't even a secret as the founder Allison Bailey said it was setup to oppose LGBT charity Stonewall

Perfectly reasonable to want an org for LGB people that doesn't call lesbians 'sexual racists' and promotes ''cotton ceiling'' workshops to train heterosexual men in how to coerce lesbians into sex with them.

The judge at AB's employment tribunal found that everything Allison had said about Stonewall was part of her protected belief, therefore worthy of respect in a democratic society, which wouldn't be the case if anything Allison had said about Stonewall was ''anti-trans''.

290. Applying the Grainger criteria to the beliefs she held, we concluded that her beliefs, not just about gender self-identity, but about the pernicious effect of Stonewall’s campaign promoting gender self-identity were genuine. We also found that these amounted to beliefs, not just opinions which might change with further evidence, because at the core of her opposition to Stonewall, frequently stated, was her understanding that their stance on gender theory – transwomen are women – a matter of their belief, underlay and was driving forward the erosion of women’s rights, access to single sex spaces and lesbian identity; it also underlay the characterisation of gender critical belief as transphobic and a hate crime, which was leading some to violence against gender critical believers.

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292. Finally, we concluded that expressing hostility to Stonewall campaigning on the basis of gender self-identity did not seek to destroy the rights of others, in a way that would not be worthy of respect in a democratic society. It was part of the “dust and heat” (Milton: Areopagitica) generated by the conflict of opinion that must nonetheless be tolerated to avoid the greater evil of censorship.

293. We concluded that all the claimant’s pleaded beliefs, not just the belief that woman is sex not gender, are protected.

HermioneWeasley · 01/05/2023 15:26

As you can see @MerlinsLostMarbles nobody here is buying what you’re selling. We are well informed and capable of critical thinking.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 01/05/2023 15:27

Does that make us Marbleophobic, @HermioneWeasley?

Fukuraptor · 01/05/2023 15:35

Stonewall doesn't get to single handedly redefine homosexuality as same gender identity attraction.

It is morbidly fascinating that they have attempted to see how far their history and social capital with homosexual people will allow them to get away with and it is impressive/terrifying how many people have gone along with it in such a short period of time but that doesn't mean they get to change what something as intimate as sexuality means and label everyone who disagrees prejudiced or transphobic.

At some point the right on inclusive gay folk will notice that everything set up for gay people is populated by heterosexual people with interesting gender presentations or sexual kinks. And maybe they'll wonder where all the regular lesbians and gay men went.

CovertImage · 01/05/2023 15:37

There is no "gay people are anti-trans" trope that is often used by the LGB-Alliance and Julie Bindel etc"

CovertImage · 01/05/2023 15:38

Oh, and Stonewall isn't an "LGBT" charity, it's a QT organisation

DerekFaker · 01/05/2023 15:39

I think this helps give another viewpoint to the "gay people are anti-trans" trope that is often used by the LGB-Alliance and Julie Bindel etc.

The what, now?

GarlicGrace · 01/05/2023 15:44

Well, pro-women = anti-trans. Lesbians are unarguably pro-women.

So, yes, by one of the many definitions of anti-trans - all of which are set by transactivists - they are. Enjoy your resentment.

Consider this:
You love bacon sandwiches and don't like cake, or any sweet food.
It becomes fashionable to say a bacon sandwich is a cake.
You're not anti-cake, you just don't like them for yourself.
People keep pressing cake on you: "You love cake!"
You try to explain you don't like that sort of cake.
You are derided - "Victoria sandwich, bacon sandwich, what's the difference?!"
Trying a different tack, you request a bacon cake.
The unfortunate result is a vanilla sponge layered with jam, cream & bacon.
"You can't tell the difference," they jeer, "It's a sandwich. With bacon."
Patiently, you explain you like your bacon between slices of bread, not cake ...
And that's it, you're done for. "BIGOT!" they scream; "Anti-cake monster!"

So what do you do?
Mount a campaign for the return of the old, "normal" and "accurate" (bigot!) definitions of cake and sandwich?
Or do you eagerly embrace the Victoria Bacon Cake as your newly preferred food, consigning the cake previously known as a bacon sandwich to a murky history you'd rather not revisit?
I hardly need to tell you that even admitting you once enjoyed bacon sandwiches is social death. You'll just about get away with it if you refer to them as cakes and emphasise that you didn't know any better back then.

I realise this doesn't work perfectly, but I typed it so I'll post it Cake 🥓😏

JanesLittleGirl · 01/05/2023 15:47

Does anybody know a lesbian who identifies as "same gender attracted"?

aseriesofstillimages · 01/05/2023 15:49

JanesLittleGirl · 01/05/2023 15:47

Does anybody know a lesbian who identifies as "same gender attracted"?

Yup

aseriesofstillimages · 01/05/2023 15:51

CovertImage · 01/05/2023 15:38

Oh, and Stonewall isn't an "LGBT" charity, it's a QT organisation

So why are they campaigning for women in same sex relationships to have access to IVF on the NHS on equivalent terms to opposite sec couples?

GarlicGrace · 01/05/2023 15:55

aseriesofstillimages · 01/05/2023 15:51

So why are they campaigning for women in same sex relationships to have access to IVF on the NHS on equivalent terms to opposite sec couples?

When Stonewall says 'women' they usually mean men. So SW is campaigning on behalf of homosexual couples, it's just that they've reversed the sexes. Most "inclusively", they're also campaigning for heterosexual couples who have destroyed their fertility through hormones and/or surgery.

aseriesofstillimages · 01/05/2023 15:56

yourhairiswinterfire · 01/05/2023 15:24

This isn't even a secret as the founder Allison Bailey said it was setup to oppose LGBT charity Stonewall

Perfectly reasonable to want an org for LGB people that doesn't call lesbians 'sexual racists' and promotes ''cotton ceiling'' workshops to train heterosexual men in how to coerce lesbians into sex with them.

The judge at AB's employment tribunal found that everything Allison had said about Stonewall was part of her protected belief, therefore worthy of respect in a democratic society, which wouldn't be the case if anything Allison had said about Stonewall was ''anti-trans''.

290. Applying the Grainger criteria to the beliefs she held, we concluded that her beliefs, not just about gender self-identity, but about the pernicious effect of Stonewall’s campaign promoting gender self-identity were genuine. We also found that these amounted to beliefs, not just opinions which might change with further evidence, because at the core of her opposition to Stonewall, frequently stated, was her understanding that their stance on gender theory – transwomen are women – a matter of their belief, underlay and was driving forward the erosion of women’s rights, access to single sex spaces and lesbian identity; it also underlay the characterisation of gender critical belief as transphobic and a hate crime, which was leading some to violence against gender critical believers.

And also:

292. Finally, we concluded that expressing hostility to Stonewall campaigning on the basis of gender self-identity did not seek to destroy the rights of others, in a way that would not be worthy of respect in a democratic society. It was part of the “dust and heat” (Milton: Areopagitica) generated by the conflict of opinion that must nonetheless be tolerated to avoid the greater evil of censorship.

293. We concluded that all the claimant’s pleaded beliefs, not just the belief that woman is sex not gender, are protected.

This does not follow:

”The judge at AB's employment tribunal found that everything Allison had said about Stonewall was part of her protected belief, therefore worthy of respect in a democratic society, which wouldn't be the case if anything Allison had said about Stonewall was ''anti-trans''

The threshold is actually very low - homophobic, transphobic, sexist and racist views can be protected, and regarded as “worthy of respect in a democratic society” for that purpose.