My mum goes to aqua aerobics classes at a sports club in a private school. Recently, a transwoman has joined the class. My mum was told that they use a different changing room to the one next to the pool but today they came out of the pool and put their swimming hat into a locker before returning to the pool to join the class (there is adult free swim beforehand).
The club has a safeguarding policy which states they will: prioritise the safety and well-being of children and adults at risk
I'm not sure if my mum is considered at risk? She is 88 and nearly all the women in the class are in their 70s and 80s.
The changing room has a communal area with only four cubicles so most women get changed in the communal area. Now they are reluctant to do so.
My mum has asked me to help her draft a letter from the women in the class saying how uncomfortable they are that this person is in their changing room but doesn't know how to word it.
Can anyone help please?
Feminism: Sex and gender discussions
Transwoman in the changing room at school pool
PoolFloat · 05/08/2022 14:57
Noonecaresifyounamechange · 05/08/2022 15:19
I think the reasons you’re finding it hard to word is because you’re wrong. The “person” is a women, who has ever right to be there.
Out of curiosity, how do you know she is trans?
Does her being trans make her more of a threat than any other women? Would a lesbian, for example, be treated with the same assumptions?
Lollypip · 05/08/2022 15:39
This is very presumptive. So, even if she is biologically male (have they seen the naked parts?) who says she is interested in women? Or assaulting elderly ladies? I know women who share beds etc with gay male friends. Should they be terrified incase those friends decide because they have a penis they should assault someone? Maybe they should attempt to say hello to this person and see them as a person who just wants a quiet swim. I'm sure life has been cruel enough to them. Fair enough if she was making advances or being threatening but... Using a locker?!
CatsOperatingInGangs · 05/08/2022 15:24
Humans, like all mammals, instinctively sex people they come across. It happens without us thinking about it.
picklemewalnuts · 05/08/2022 15:31
Women have all sorts of crap thrown at them from morning to night, and go to women's swimming groups to escape it.
Lollypip · 05/08/2022 15:39
This is very presumptive. So, even if she is biologically male (have they seen the naked parts?) who says she is interested in women? Or assaulting elderly ladies? I know women who share beds etc with gay male friends. Should they be terrified incase those friends decide because they have a penis they should assault someone? Maybe they should attempt to say hello to this person and see them as a person who just wants a quiet swim. I'm sure life has been cruel enough to them. Fair enough if she was making advances or being threatening but... Using a locker?!
Noonecaresifyounamechange · 05/08/2022 15:19
I think the reasons you’re finding it hard to word is because you’re wrong. The “person” is a women, who has ever right to be there.
Out of curiosity, how do you know she is trans?
Does her being trans make her more of a threat than any other women? Would a lesbian, for example, be treated with the same assumptions?
hearmywomanlyroar · 05/08/2022 15:41
For the faux confused. Here are the reasons to exclude trans women from women's changing rooms:
- Women are entitled to single sex spaces.
The end.
Bodice · 05/08/2022 15:41
What about the fact they weee actively staring at the little girls. Do we just have to ignore creepy behavior now because it’s their right?
Noonecaresifyounamechange · 05/08/2022 15:19
I think the reasons you’re finding it hard to word is because you’re wrong. The “person” is a women, who has ever right to be there.
Out of curiosity, how do you know she is trans?
Does her being trans make her more of a threat than any other women? Would a lesbian, for example, be treated with the same assumptions?
Aurora231 · 05/08/2022 15:45
As far as I can tell she (I don’t believe you can change biological sex but I am happy to use somebody’s preferred pronouns) hasn’t actually done anything at all other than use a locker?! She didn’t get changed with your elderly mother, she didn’t get naked in front of the other biological women, she just quickly put a swim cap in a locker? Maybe there weren’t any other lockers available where she did get changed?
you’re all assuming she’s about to assault somebody, which is unfair.
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