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Cosmopolitan - Bleeding after anal sex

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ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 03/02/2019 12:25

""It's not unexpected that [anal sex] would cause bleeding." Does that mean you should never put anything up your butt hole? No! It just means you need to take some extra precautions, like, say, a little thing called a shit-ton of lube"

"It's not a sprint, it's a marathon back there. And you want to make to the finish line without any bleeding or discomfort."

FFS

www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/amp9230630/is-bleeding-after-anal-sex-normal/?__twitter_impression=true

OP posts:
NothingOnTellyAgain · 04/02/2019 14:18

durex

FlyingOink · 04/02/2019 14:18

You don't owe a man sex just cos he's nice to you / tells you that he's mad about you and etc
Oh I agree with you on that, I thought Elon meant that everyone should be having sex with someone who is at least enthusiastic about doing it with them.
I stand by what I said in terms of the fact there might be fewer people who are excited about Mary than about Helen, but Mary shouldn't end up compromising because she isn't as good looking as Helen.
And neither Mary nor Helen owe anyone anything. Least of all anal.

NothingOnTellyAgain · 04/02/2019 14:19

"I've never got rid of pubes and never had a complaint

I suppose that is a change

Men used to be grateful. They were so pleased to find a woman who'd have sex with them they weren't worried about that stuff

Last dting I did was 14 years ago

So that is a change?

And I did put it about so it's a large smaple size of grateful men

Only 1 ever tried for anal and that was a non UK chap when I was much younger. None of the others even asked."

AngryAttackKittens · 04/02/2019 14:20

My starting point is "young women and girls are being pressured into something they say that they don't want when surveyed, so the most important thing is to let them know that they don't actually have to do it if they'd rather not".

Apparently this is wrong, somehow, because some women like the thing that most young women and girls don't like and are being pressured into.

NothingOnTellyAgain · 04/02/2019 14:20

Lots of other posters share this experience.

Sorry that it upsets you but life doesn't always mould itself to how you think it should be,

Men feeling lucky back in the day to pull a girl and especially if the girl is pretty is NOT NEWS nor any kind of revelation.

NothingOnTellyAgain · 04/02/2019 14:22

What is wrong with liking nice men?

I have always prefered nice men.

I know a lot of women find them boring.

I value kindness.

It takes all sorts, is kind of the point?

And you're kidding yourself if you think men don't prefer attractive women.

BlancheM · 04/02/2019 14:22

I've posted a lot on this thread and I'm 31 so not middle aged.
Elon I haven't agreed with a single one of your comments, that never happens. Even down to claiming previous generations didn't have as much sex- isn't the fact that families were much larger indicative of the fact they did?
Why don't you think a note on consent and safety on articles people will use for sex education would be useful at all? Why wouldn't it be?

NothingOnTellyAgain · 04/02/2019 14:23

Flying yes that makes sense

I find it hard to parse some (most) of elon's posts.

AngryAttackKittens · 04/02/2019 14:23

A description of a situation that exists is not an enthusiastic endorsement of that situation. Like, if you ask me who current Russian premier is and I say Putin that does not, as established earlier, mean that I like him (or approve of him as a world leader).

NothingOnTellyAgain · 04/02/2019 14:23

Flying yes that makes sense

I find it hard to parse some (most) of elon's posts.

NothingOnTellyAgain · 04/02/2019 14:24

|oops sorry double post.

ElonMask · 04/02/2019 14:30

^all women should sleep with men who feel grateful about them, not just the attractive ones
If that's your actual point, I agree with you.^

I disagree

Ok I give up. You raised that point that in the past men were grateful (because you are hot) and that this was a good thing, but now you don't think they need to be grateful at all.

You don't seem to understand why saying it was good in the past because men were grateful to sleep with attractive women like me but it's not my problems..that they are apparently not as grateful for minters...could make you come across like amco complete asswipe.

BlancheM

I said all women should have sex with men who feel grateful to be having sex with them. And you disagree with this ? Controversial.

ElonMask · 04/02/2019 14:34

BlancheM

Are you serious that people have always had the same amount of sex as after the advent of reliable contraception ? That it's had little effect on the amount of sex? Some people would argue black was white.

OdeToDiazepam · 04/02/2019 14:34

What the fuck Confused

BlancheM · 04/02/2019 14:43

What Ode said.

AngryAttackKittens · 04/02/2019 14:47

My "lots and lots of acid" theory still stands.

littlbrowndog · 04/02/2019 14:56

Yeps kittens 😂😂
And what the fuck

NothingOnTellyAgain · 04/02/2019 15:02

I misread what you said
I thought you said that women should have sex with men who are grateful
As in, they should have sex with any man who is grateful
I misunderstood, and this has been fully covered upthread.

You aren't actually reading much of it, are you.

NothingOnTellyAgain · 04/02/2019 15:03

amco complete asswipe.

what is an amco?

This is a new insult levelled at me -

NothingOnTellyAgain · 04/02/2019 15:04

urban dictionary says

AMCO
A random collection of nerds put together to work but tend to achieve very little in a day.

???????????????????????

NothingOnTellyAgain · 04/02/2019 15:06

other options are

Acronym Definition
AMCO American Coot (bird species)
AMCO American Meter Company (Horsham, Pennsylvania)
AMCO Appraisal Management Company (Cleveland, OH)
AMCO Aviation Maintenance Company
AMCO Associated Male Choruses of Ontario (est. 1952; Ontario, Canada)
AMCO Air Movement Control Officer
AMCO Aerojet Manufacturing Company

?????????????

ElonMask · 04/02/2019 15:59

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NothingOnTellyAgain · 04/02/2019 16:05

Ah

So you are reinterpreting my posts in what is a very impressive literary effort

and you have called me "a complete asswipe".

Note:
I don't think anyone on this thread agrees with you

And you have confirmed your position that you don't see any reason to include any content about safe sex or consent in articles about sex (sex education you called it) aimed at young women
Further, telling them that bleeding is normal is AOK

Also, you don't think people had sex much in the olden days Confused

And you are VERY wed to the patriarchal definition of sex as "penetration with a penis"

Also, you have not denied fancying Putin

So there we have it.

NothingOnTellyAgain · 04/02/2019 16:08

Did you have a read of that BMJ piece yet?

Interested to hear your views.

Easily available via google and I know you were keen to see some stats and info.

NothingOnTellyAgain · 04/02/2019 16:09

Hold on a minute

Do you have other names you post under?

Just out of interest.

Your last post reminded me of someone else.