Cosmopolitan - Bleeding after anal sex

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""It's not unexpected that [anal sex] would cause bleeding." Does that mean you should never put anything up your butt hole? No! It just means you need to take some extra precautions, like, say, a little thing called a shit-ton of lube"

"It's not a sprint, it's a marathon back there. And you want to make to the finish line without any bleeding or discomfort."

FFS

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I know people who lived through the hippie 60s and the disco era, and there was a lot of sex happening. If anything AIDS made my generation more cautious than the previous one.

I've explained several times why associating attractiveness and how grateful your partners should be about you is not good, you just aren't listening.
Can you reiterate please, I've read the thread and I'm still not clear what you mean.
Ta

You are seriosuly asserting that men and boys don't go bonkers over beautiful women?

Because of the bay city rollers and peter andre or similar?

Well OK then.

If men aren;t that fussed why are there naked and semi naked women over everything?

As far as I can see, the vast majority of art, including painting literature music,revolves around men fawning over / lusting after / beign obsessed with / pining over beautiful women?

Beautiful women are said to have been the cause that entire empires have fallen, for gods sake! Because the men fell under tehir spell....

Reality helllooooo nonono

Y/N women are far more affected by male beauty than vice versa

Nothing you obviously think that being attractive has a bearing on the gratefulness otherwise you wouldn't have said it. I think we can safely assume everyone reading this has had partners who thought they were the bees knees. I don't understand how you think that your attractiveness has anything to do with how grateful or appreciative men were of you.

All fair points flyingoink

As much as my instinct was to rebut I am saying, all fair points.

"Women fawn too much over beautiful men" has always been my favorite misogynistic trope. It's the not very well concealed hint of "and that's not fair!" that makes it so delicious.

"Look, previous generations did not have as much sex as we think we are entitled to because there was no contraception. Even if they were married."

Agian with the equating sex with PIV.
There are lots of other ways to have sex.
I saw a documentray that suggested olden days people did just that

I'm starting to think that the only thing that could explain this thread is lots and lots of acid. Speaking of ye olde days.

I don't understand how you think that your attractiveness has anything to do with how grateful or appreciative men were of you.

I thought you were going to explain for me? This is not an explanation. Also it shows you haven't read my posts either

Is it because I'm not pretty enough?

Seriously I'm barely old enough to remember the 70s and even as a kid I was aware that the grownups were shagging like bunnies.

I liek the way we are shifting ever further from everyday reality with all this

It is MY FAULT and a BAD THING that some (many) young men feel (used to feel?) lucky when they pull a pretty girl.

Oh lord acid

Used to love a bit of acid

And since I was always delighted to pull a beautiful man I'm a man too, clearly. My DH will be a bit confused about this, will have to figure out the right moment to break it to him.

So how does all this relate to young women beign told bleeding is normal
And not bothering them with stuff abtou STDs or condoms or consent

?

Are we supposed to be equally grateful no matter what the person looks like? Is that it? That seems a worthy assertion.

It's not realistic, but it's certainly worthy. Is that what you meant Elon?

I think you'll find you were fawning AAK
Did you put his poster on your wall and scream

This is proof of something or other

Or wait, no, I'm assumed to fawn over beauty because I'm female, but it's still a bad thing because...I'm not sure actually.

I'm going to put the cat amongst the pigeons now

A couple of times I managed to pull men who were very good looking
I was really quite pleased with myself

Dan dan DAAAAAAAAAAAANNNNNNNNNNNNN

Boys and men certainly do go nuts over beautiful women, I didn't say they werent fussed what I said or meant was that they don't idolise them the way women do men. They find them sexy but they don't not wash their hands for a week after touching them etc etc.

By previous generations I'm talking about before contraception. There is no question that me and I suspect all women on here have had many more sexual partners than their ancestors from 70 odd years ago. You said you put it about yourself Nothing I assumed you had PIV, mistake.

Flying

The context is that young women are being pressurised by unrealistic societal expectations. Many young women struggle with body image and self worth. This is well known. In this context, saying your sexual partners are grateful if you are attractive is not helpful.

"Sorry, DH, I must never keep a photo of you on my desk at work again lest I be considered insufficiently serious by people who don't think it's not necessary to warn young people that rectal bleeding is generally a sign of potential injury"

So if we take this to it's logical conclusion, boys treat girls awfully in bed because the boys are not grateful. The boys shouldn't be grateful according to Elon because that's shallow and bad.
Neither party is affected by the ubiquity of hardcore anal pornography, or course.
There is no difference in sexual behaviour due to porn.
Middle aged women shouldn't get their knickers in a twist.
There are a few sexual heros earlier in the thread who have let us know how much they like anal. I'm very grateful they have told us this.

Am I up to date?

Nobody tell Elon what some men do with pre-worn women's knickers...

On another note, I don't think I've ever known a woman who could go a week without washing her hands. Sounds like an excellent way to catch the Norovirus.

"By previous generations I'm talking about before contraception. There is no question that me and I suspect all women on here have had many more sexual partners than their ancestors from 70 odd years ago. You said you put it about yourself Nothing I assumed you had PIV, mistake."

What does this mean?

What does it mean?????????

It doesn't relate to any of the actual content of the previous posts.
It doesn't make sense.

Can anyone help?

Y/N