Cosmopolitan - Bleeding after anal sex

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""It's not unexpected that [anal sex] would cause bleeding." Does that mean you should never put anything up your butt hole? No! It just means you need to take some extra precautions, like, say, a little thing called a shit-ton of lube"

"It's not a sprint, it's a marathon back there. And you want to make to the finish line without any bleeding or discomfort."

FFS

www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/amp9230630/is-bleeding-after-anal-sex-normal/?__twitter_impression=true

"Women certainly fawn over specific and beautiful so than men do."

Really?

You think women fawn over beautiful men more than vice versa?

Interesting.

That's not a question or an opinion by the way no need for everyone on the thread to respond.

Even the splainey bloke eventually admitted that the article is bad...

"The incels and etc are the ones complaining that all the women go after the same few guys I thought ? Women certainly fawn over specific and beautiful so than men do."

You believe the incels have a point?
Is how that reads to me.

Again, interesting.

I will respond, though. I definitely fawn over beautiful men. Is this allowed y/n? Because back in the day (married now) it definitely made a difference in how excited I was to have pulled that particular person.

AAK

After he actually read it lol

And then said it could be shortened just say bleeding after sex was a no-no
Completely missing that the whole point of the article was that bleeding after sex was fine

Well, yeah, I didn't say he was particularly bright.

But seriously, the reason I would assume that men would be extra delighted to have pulled someone gorgeous is because I always was. Have we somehow decided that men are less shallow than women now? Because, um, good luck making that argument.

how do you feel when you pull an unattractive women
I wouldn't pull someone I wasn't attracted to, so if I change your question to how I feel if I pull an average looking woman - pretty excited. If we've got to that stage it's because we like each other and there's something there. Does that mean that all circumstances and personalities being equal, I'd pick the average woman over the beautiful woman? No I wouldn't, and if that makes me shallow so be it.
Mind you, what I consider beautiful might be different to what others think. I don't find young women particularly attractive so anyone under 30 would not float my boat at all. The beauty "standard" would be young, beautiful, long blonde hair etc (and that doesn't attract me.)
This isn't my personal blog so I'll leave it there, but yes, I would be more excited and more grateful to have sex with someone who I found particularly attractive. I think that's normal.

Oh shit a y/n has been issued

Rigth thread

everyone needs to respond immediately

IMMEDIATELY!

Or, you know, whenever you get round to it, because I'm patient.

here's an article from psychology today about how people react to others who are very attractive

www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/habits-not-hacks/201412/the-surprising-power-beautiful-face

not exactly news?

There is a tendency for everyone to look back on their youth with rose tinted specs. Your grandmothers generation would be shocked and appalled at the antics you (and I) got up to. Horrified. My mother was a virgin when she got married, I remember the toe curling embarrassment I experienced when she told me that aged 16. Now we assume that it's all gone to hell in a handcart the same as most other generations do. It may be a different landscape but I don't think a bunch of middle aged women saying all sex articles should come with yellow warnings, and it was great it my day, is going to make anything better.

I don't like to think I fawn

But probably nobody likes to think that and there they are fawning for england

One observation

Men can aften react quite aggressively towards good looking women, thinking they are "up themselves" and need "putting in their place" etc. This is prob one of the reasons for porn displaying attractive women being (often, essentially) brutalised.

Some of us actually talk to young women about their relationships and listen to the things they complain about, which is why we're worried.

(Shuffles off, leaning heavily on my walker because I'm so old, you see, and that's why my opinion doesn't matter.)

Maybe off topic though.

I don't think writing articles aimed at a youngish demographic about anal sex and saying

bleeding is normal
no mention stds
only mention condoms related to making it easier (lube)
no mention consent / don't have to / not for everyone

is any good at all
especially in a climate where men and boys are gettign ever longer ticklists and women and girls are under more pressure than ever to "perform"

My mother was not a virgin when she got married, and very much enjoyed hearing about my youthful exploits. Was this because she was a time traveler?

I don't think a bunch of middle aged women ...
You're running out of ammo...click-click-click
Best fix the bayonet in place and hope for the best

Seriously, if you can't contribute to the actual point of the thread, why waste your time? You've not wound anyone up, changed anyone's mind or contributed something humanity will thank you for.

There's a difference in sexual behaviour due to porn. There are articles and studies on it, there is plenty of anecdotal evidence too.
It's reasonable to state that m/f sexual relations were less combative prior to society being soaked in 24/7 Gonzo.
It's reasonable to suggest that girls should be told of the health risks or anal sex, and that it is always optional.
I don't get what your issue is with any of this?

It's like writing an article about skydiving and focusing purely on how to make sure your harness isn't too tight to feel comfortable and whether or not it makes a difference that someone jeered at you and threatened to shove you out of the plane if you wouldn't jump.

In our grandmothers day rape within marriage was legal
There was little or no recourse around DV
Divorce was taboo

etc

I think we would very much be horrified at some of the things that they could tell.

Interesting.

Men got what they wanted with no recourse in our grandmothers day
Blip 80s-2010s maybe where we had contraception, rape was definitely bad, general trust in police in looking into stuff about abuse of women and girls
Now back to square 1
Men get what they want with little recourse> the method has changed teh result is the same. It's become obvious that actually the authorities aren' as interested in rape dv csa etc as we had hoped and assumed

Shame.

I've explained several times why associating attractiveness and how grateful your partners should be about you is not good, you just aren't listening.

And no, I don't think incels have a point at all, I'm showing how the opinions they attribute to you are the same ones.

And yes women do tend to fawn over beautiful men more so that vice versa. Groupies etc, how many young boys scream and become giddy at the sight of a female celebrity ?

I don't understand your point about people who are attractive Nothing.

Mine wasn;t either AAK and travelled all over the wrold

She didn't marry til age 30

Grandmothers, who can say.
For sure CSA existed then adn rape and so a blanket "oh they were all virgins" is a bit crass tbh
Women and girls have always faced the same issues and threats

I'm sorry, Oink, I'm so old that I can't hear you. Do you happen to have one of those old timey ear trumpet things handy? What is the anal that people keep talking about anyway, I thought they were talking about apples. Lovely wholesome fruit, apples.

Ah

"how grateful your partners should be about you"

I didn't say they should be

I said they were

From the way they behaved and some of the things they said
Others have said this was their experience too

I never had any expectation around that behaviour from them, at all.

Does that make better sense to you now?

Men can aften react quite aggressively towards good looking women, thinking they are "up themselves" and need "putting in their place" etc.
Yes and women can be scathing about "pretty boys" too. So men's toiletries have to be black and grey with "power ultra anti tiredness zoom" written on their moisturisers
Obviously the aggressive men are more dangerous but everyone can be catty about attractive people.
Also, many attractive women can be very dismissive - this is absolutely learned behaviour after being approached constantly since they were school age - so those women can cut off an approach spiel fairly quickly. Men who wanted the chance to go through their full routine see this as bitchiness. They never ever consider that they might be the twentieth guy to annoy her that day and that she really wants to just walk down the street and be left alone.

I'm a middle aged women myself flying it's not meant as an insult.

Look, previous generations did not have as much sex as we think we are entitled to because there was no contraception. Even if they were married. I would have thought this was obvious.