Cosmopolitan - Bleeding after anal sex

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""It's not unexpected that [anal sex] would cause bleeding." Does that mean you should never put anything up your butt hole? No! It just means you need to take some extra precautions, like, say, a little thing called a shit-ton of lube"

"It's not a sprint, it's a marathon back there. And you want to make to the finish line without any bleeding or discomfort."

FFS

www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/amp9230630/is-bleeding-after-anal-sex-normal/?__twitter_impression=true

Starlightlady the Joy of Sex had chapters on most things, I never said it didn't. But there is a sense of joy and honest fun to it that I don't get from the front page of any mainstream porn site, where women are described routinely as "cum guzzling sluts" or "bitches" being "drilled" and "destroyed".

I think some people on this thread are really invested in missing the point.

Okay. I've clicked on Pornhub so you don't have to. Front page.

Mom is the neighbourhood whore

No, please stop! Extremely painful anal creampie f*d against her will.

Her first time! 19 year old virgin

Lots of creepy vids with stepdads and stepbrothers

It really is grim. And not the joy of sex at all, I don't care what you say.

I have done exactly that in the past, pachyderm - in fact for a previous thread about porn on here.

From googling 'porn' I found I was two clicks of the mouse from videos called "teen abuse" and other unsavoury titles. It's like they're constantly pushing the boundaries, constantly escalating.

This sort of content is blocked on the network my dc use at home - but I'm sure they must have seen it at school/away from home at some point. I have talked to them about porn, and respect for women, and so has DH.

There was also a "Don't Date Men who Watch Porn" group on Facebook - but apparently they were banned. God knows why - obviously not sufficiently deferential to the whims of the penis.

Our TV provider doesn't hide the porn channels away at the end of the list, they are right in the middle. So you can flick through the cooking shows, past the home improvement shows, into the porn, and then onto the sports section and kids channels. I suppose it's a blessing that they aren't directly next to the kids channels, especially with titles like

"She doesn't know she's being watched"

"Cheerleader virgin slut"

"Bored sexy momma takes it up the ass"

"Teen girls sleepover"

^^ That is what is available for my viewing pleasure right now

Just seen this tweet about a future article which is being written for Cosmo.

Jennifer Savin
‏Verified account @JenniSavin
Feb 4

hi all, I'm looking to speak with female teachers who've been sexually harassed by students (be it name-calling, being filmed without consent etc.) for a @CosmopolitanUK feature. all retweets appreciated and my DMs are open if anyone would like to get in touch. thank you

I remember the Joy of Sex, going into WH Smith to buy it. We had so much fun with it. OH enjoyed a BJ but no way would he return the favour he just did not feel comfortable with it. We fumbled, bumbled our way around sometimes collapsing with laughter at some of the more acrobatic positions.

Articles like the one the OP posted imo. rob you of the fun of it all.

Wow, this thread... Who would’ve thought the idea of educational material in a sex ed piece could be so enraging? Honestly MN should start advertising Kleenex. Some posters must get through an awful lot, which can only be good news for women.

pachyderms list

all the people who say i watch porn it's fine what's wrong with it

they know what is common, they assume that people who don't like porn don't

however, we do

pornhb or redtbe or one of them, when I looked had loads of ones all over the front page where the women were (looked) unconscious
Stuff obviously filmed unprofessionally
Advocates would say how do you know it's real
Users could put anything up
I would put my money on most of it beign real for sure
They wanted a round a applause for taking thsi shit off a few years ago. And they got it! Videos of probable actual rape of unconsious women

It's a big nope to the whole thing from me even the "ethical" stuff. I have no objection in principle but in a sexist racist world it's impossible and so nope.

justasking111 I'm sorry to miss the point but are you saying your OH doesn't give you oral sex and you "tried" a bj?
As in tried once and he's never done it to you?

The irony , the introduction of the pill was to liberate women

It did for a while anyway but I agree with the general point that sex in our society has been almost utterly divorced from its biological purpose...it is something to think about who really benefits.

I remember when Teen Vogue tried to sell similar to young women last year. They also forgot to detail the picture they used with a clitoris.

Anal sex has been presented as normal and acceptable to young women for about a decade now. You are an uncool prude if you don't do it. If it hurts you are doing it wrong. Try it a different way. Relax. Use more lube. Tell him to try this, try that. Never are you told "just tell him no!"

How many men are getting advice as to how their female partners can provide anal sex for them I wonder?

The irony , the introduction of the pill was to liberate women

women saw the pill as liberating them from the risk of unwanted pregnancies.
men saw the pill as making women available for sex on demand.

littlbrowndog

Ffs
Tears bleeding such fun
When did that become the definition of fun sex

Love it myself but if you bleed afterwards your doing it wrong. Lots of lube a considerate lover and you're in heaven. No need to worry about contraception either.

:-)

Again, not sure why people waxing lyrical about their sex life seems like a good reaction to an article normalising a niche practice that most women don't want with the recommendation about how long it's safe to bleed for.

Agree with men seeing the Pill as consequence free sex for THEM.

I did have a couple who saw me being on the Pill as an excuse to try and dodge condom use.

they got told NO