I came here to Mumsnet years ago to lurk and for stepparenting advice. Kid grows up and I have less and less need for the site, but I thought of it with fondness because like a good friend, the women here told me what I needed to hear, which was not always what I wanted to hear. This site enabled (deliberate past tense) women’s conversations about the things that matter to us. Then menopause hit and I popped back to the same supportive intelligent women to seek advice.
While I was here I browsed to see what else was concerning the female sex. And I found I’m witnessing (with increasing anger, genuine distress, & frustration on my part) the pervasive indoctrination, of sexist misogynistic claptrap from a minority of men being placed over and above the needs of the women in whose name the site exists. Worse it’s being propagated by the board itself.
Seriously, women stating their deeply held beliefs and their understanding of the world is wrong? Women stating biological facts are wrong? Women meeting together to state and restate those shared views is wrong? Women are just plain wrong for stating scientific facts? Scientific facts are now branded abusive of men? Women must lie about facts? Women must be silent about their truth? Women must appease men? What is this shit!
I’m going to be blunt. The actions of the TRAs feels abusive. I’m a woman who can recognise abuse, it was inflicted on me by someone I trusted for many years. It still hurts. Someone you think is acting in your best interest twists and bends reality until you struggle to recognise it from a mental fiction created around. TRA (not incidentally most transsexuals I’ve met) create a delusionary fiction about their own being. They demand we all share in it. They tell us that if we don’t accept their new reality we are being abusive. Women (the genuine authentic biological kind) are struggling and some are fighting back against the delusion. TRA are losing control of their false narrative and fighting back. Women are upset because we are being attacked. The more those attacks occur the more often women are saying ‘we are being abused’. I look at this thread and see women saying this attempt to gaslight us into disbelieving biology has failed, we state again our truth.
The actions of the moderators on this thread also feels psychologically abusive. It feels like a demand to submit to more abuse. ‘Yes we know that you are upset about it, but please be quiet and accept it. You mustn’t talk about it. You mustn’t make daddy angry. You must placate him so he won’t hit you again. 🤫 .’
I didn’t come here to have my mind messed with. I came to find like minded women. To understand, to see my views explored and validated or indeed changed.
Nothing here or anywhere else has changed my opinions. I believe that trans women are biological males.
I am an adult human female.
I am a female mammal.
I am a woman
A woman is a female mammal.
A woman is a human female.
A male can never be a female mammal
A male can never be an adult human female.
And if to state that is ‘wrong’ then I am glad to be wrong, and restate it over and over again, trans women are male, because all of this increasingly feels like an exercise in national gaslighting of the female sex (that’s women defined as a distrinct mammalian biological entity). I prefer my mind to remain in an un-fucked with unabused state thank you very much.
Can someone please PM me the contact details for ‘the other place’ please. I come here because women are here, if women are elsewhere I would happily go their instead, I come for the company, not the site, but I don’t want to be here anymore.