You've articulated that position very well MsBeaujangles.
Unfortunately, it is the extreme end of the trans ideology that makes it difficult to compromise. Because validation is paramount. So anything that remains exclusionary will be a thorn in the side of validation.
Likewise anything that gives transwomen an extra advantage over women by virtue of their natal sex sets women back.
The conflict is unresolvable.
I believe transwomen are women because “woman” is a societal construct
The idea that woman a social category, rather than a biological one?
Let's say we can do that. Socially, transwoman and women are all called women. The language confers validation.
But the next step, after language, is the needs of the two groups, based on biology. Again.
So let's say we ignore biology. Toilets are desegregated, sport is desegregated, prisons, rape refuges, etc. We all just mingle as one.
So the next step, is how to address the needs of certain people, based on the behaviour of certain other people. Which, not very coincidentally, is also based on biology.
In order for transwomen to be women, you have to ignore biology, the categorisation based on biology, the physical needs of two groups, based on biology, and the inherent power dynamic within those two groups, based on biology.
So let's say you did, indeed, do that.
The gains that women's have made would reverse at breakneck speed and the world would be unrecognisable.