Frugaleers - April 2022 onwards

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Thanks so much guys, the worst thing is not being able to be sad in front of DH as he’s already so upset and blames himself so much it would set him off even more. I do feel a bit lost, not going to lie - I’ve always wanted to be a mum.

Just can’t imagine how you feel. Take time to process it x

Feel bleurgh today with a sore throat. No fitness and eating my feelings

Oh gen I’m so sorry. Take the time to process this. I can’t imagine how you’re feeling but sending lots of love your way. Xxxx

the tiredness from wedding at the weekend has hit. I’ve had a salad. But the cupcakes in the office are calling.

You're entitled to be as upset as you like gen, I wouldn't be hiding too much. This is a huge blow for you, and trying to hide that will do neither of you any good. Being upset doesn't equal blaming him. You need to grieve this

Agreed not

The problem is when you eat all the calories and all the food you just feel too full
with an upset tum. Will i ever learn

I never learn either life - I think as I approach 37 I have to accept I never will!
Am going to have a G&T in the bath and listen to a shit novel.

Did body pump and steps and food good today otherwise.
Have body pump class tomorrow at 8am so we will see if that happens 🙈

Gen when you hear news like this ,it's such a blow , l think you need to take some time to let it sink in & to allow yourself to mourn your loss because it is a huge loss lovely
If there is anything at all we can do then just say

I’ve got 9 years on you Gen. Oh I think I need to accept I never will. Hope the g&t and bath were lovely

no fitness today as still feeling throaty but will be out walking

Another one who eats their feelings.

hope your g&t bath was nice gen

It's so counterproductive isn't it to eat feelings and then have shit feelings about ourselves as a result of eating the feelings. Some days I can reason my way out of doing it, I'm getting marginally better. Now I need to learn not to drink/eat my happy feelings, that's more damaging these days.
Got my walk done, so my 10,000 steps are in the bag at least. Sleep wasn't great despite being tired, tonight will be better.
Hungry but have a bit of gut ache, might hold off on breakfast for a bit

Actually thinking about it, I always associated eating feelings with sadness feelings, I suppose because that's when I am super conscious of them. Feelings come in more than one type, I now realise I eat happy/bored/tired/irritated/angry...all feelings obviously. Sorry all, just a lightbulb moment for the chronically in the dark🤦‍♀️

I hear you not, add feeling unwell to that too.
still feeling grotty, no fitness but will attempt good food

Yeah exactly, I suppose it's something we struggle with because we have access to food 24/7 (thankfully!) so it's the go to soothe to all ills.
Do that nice thing for you life, eat to nourish which can be comforting too if we let it. Bowl of lovely soup is a joy, 5 x bars of choc not so much

I am, I’m not stressing and making good choices. Weight loss can wait a few weeks. Hopefully my wrist will be better by then

That's a good idea life, you're so close to end goal a break will do you good. That's a pity that the wrist is still bothering you.
I managed a 20 min dumbbell routine that broke a sweat before my shower. Arnold Schwarzenegger I ain't but sure look, it can't hurt!

Absolutey nailed it Not ! It is so daft to eat our feelings because you slog your guts out to lose and then all the hard work goes down the Swannee in a couple of days . It's so difficult to stop thinking 'oh a bit won't hurt l will do it tomorrow ' trouble is that bit leads on to huge things !
Life l didn't realise you haven't any DC , l had infertility for 13 years and lost 2 pregnancies by miscarriages , it nearly killed me , so l do get how upsetting this can be for women and men . My Dh was terribly upset and blamed himself , it gets you so you can't even think straight
Gen hope you are looking after yourself sweetheart and your Dh is less distraught bless him
Been busy as per, so food is fine , l have an appt in the drs tomorrow so l will weigh . Am just having a cuppa and doing bits and pieces of admin.

Ah no sorry I meant 9 years in age; as in I’m 9 years older and no wiser

Thanks everyone 💖 you’re all so lovely! I WFH today but have to go in tomorrow. Just finding it hard to summon the energy. teaching and lecturing is so energy intensive.
have wine again tonight but will go back off the sauce again after tomorrow, I have a work event in the evening and will defo want a wine to get me through. Did body pump and walkies today. Treated myself to tuna steaks from waitrose with roast veggies, peas and asparagus.

Good luck at the docs mrs. Are you having more tests?
Hopefully the bright side to the work is the time flies gen? Or am I clutching at straws looking for the good side. I've had the work day equivalent of watching paint dry😖
That dinner sounds delicious and super healthy too, glad you had the wine to balance it out a bit! I had banish my bones to bed to avoid eating more. Since my week starts on Friday I'm playing major catch-up as I've gone over 3 of the last 5 nights, that's not great. My inner saboteur is strong. And that's with increasing cals to the highest amount I reckon I can do to lose .5'ish a week.

Not l have to have repeat blood tests tomorrow , they said l need my U&E's repeated , l am a bit worried because l am wondering if that is why my B/P was so high last November. I am on B/P meds now and they are keeping my B/P within normal levels but it could be why it is up . Whatever it is, l feel well & l am as active as ever so l will just have to see what it says . l will keep you posted
As you are finding it so difficult to lose weight and l know how hard you work to keep it off and lose more , l wondered if you have you had your bloods done to check for your Thyroid levels ? Only l have hypothyroidism and it makes it more difficult to lose weight . Just a thought

Good luck at the dr mrs I’ve just emailed mine to cancel all my Fertility bloods and appt for clomid as there’s no point with DH at basically zero sperm count 😟
ended up having booze most nights since this weekend including last night so official PT weight still 128.5. Sigh. I got a major case of the fuckits! out tonight at work thing but after that No Booze til Saturday!
body pump in a bit - finding it really calming to exercise hard at the minute.
Only 4 weeks til the end of my term now which is a major uplift, plus it’s my birthday at the end of June and DH has booked us into a lovely restaurant on the day of and also for cream tea on the weekend after!

Yeah I had my bloods done in January and apart from the expected low'ish vit d (cause like Ireland & sun, not a thing) I was fine. If I could stick to 1500-1600 cals I'd lose a pound week. I can't, simply can't. So it's slow losses, as for the fast gains and then even slower losses, I'd say it's down to not being able to get back into a dieting mindset after holidaying. I think there's not a lot of mystery sadly, and if anything I'm blessed I've not gained a lot the last few years - maintaining 160-170 seems miraculous. Obviously feeling pragmatic today when most days it gets to me and I feel defeated but I have to remind myself it could be soooo much worse and it would if I didn't keep up the effort I'm putting in now. Maybe I'll feel up to trying harder and sticking with a consistent calorie deficit.

Btw gen I think the fact you're still the 128.5 is unreal considering everything, you do whatever the hell you want the next few days. Great that the exercise is helping, don't push too hard in case you pull something (I live in fear of pulling something, so much so I worry about others too!)
I should be doing weights at lunchtime but honestly I'm soo drained, I don't think I can