April 2025 Mounjaro Starters - Thread 5!

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Hope I’ve done this right, I’ve never started a thread before.

@qs90 hope you don’t mind me starting a new one for us but thread 4 was full and I don’t want to lose my crew!

Morning, hope you are all doing well.

Week 30. I started on April 9th.
Start Weight - 21st 9lbs (303lbs)
Current Weight - 12st 2lbs (170lbs)
Weight lost this week - 7lbs
Total weight lost - 9st 7lbs (133lbs)

Hope you all have a great day x

Do lots of squats with weights and lunges with weight That will build your booty muscle! 😎

Woah - that’s another incredible loss.

I know you are going through a tough time at the moment but I can’t help but worry a little at your losses. That’s over a stone in two weeks now isn’t it and you can’t have that much left to lose. Are you ok? Are you managing to eat at all? Do you think perhaps your dose is too high? I don’t mean to be unsupportive just want to make sure you are ok xx

Hi @Incognitoburrito88 I’m okay, or at least as okay as I can be right now.

Things have been really stressful lately, honestly, every single day feels like a lot to handle.

My husband/ex-husband, I don’t even know what to call him anymore has stopped seeing the kids. About ten days ago, he introduced them to his girlfriend, then cancelled the next time he was due to have them. We’ve had the same contact arrangement for months, but recently he kept cancelling, and it really upsets and confuses the kids so I told him to go through a mediator to pick arrangements he can actually stick to for the sake of the kids. He hasn’t done that. I just cant keep having contact with him because the way he talks to me is horrible.

I’ve told CMS that he’s no longer having them overnight, and he didn’t dispute it, so now he’ll be paying full maintenance since there’s no shared care. I was really surprised he agreed to that because he originally wanted to see them 50% of the time so that he didnt need to pay anything for them - he had no intention of buying them clothes, or contributing to any other expenses...he just simply didnt want to part with his money.

I have mixed feelings about the whole thing. I can’t understand how someone could just stop seeing their kids, how he could give that up so easily. But at the same time, I’m relieved, I don’t want my children spending time around his girlfriend, especially in the house that I still legally own half of. Still, it breaks my heart for the kids.

It’s not as simple as just accepting it, though. I can’t shake the feeling that he’s up to something. I’m always on edge, wondering what the next shady move will be. Every day I dread opening my emails or mail because im convinced there will be something horrible coming my way. So i carry that stress with me all day.

On top of that, I’m drowning in solicitor bills because he won’t move forward with anything regarding the separation. I strongly suspect he’s taken equity out of the house or has debts I don’t know about when we were together, I just know there’s something going on. His behaviour is so odd...im really suspicious.

I’m trying my best to juggle work, drop-offs, and pick-ups, but it’s overwhelming. Today both kids were sent home sick, and trying to balance it all by myself is getting really hard.

I don’t have family nearby, and I’m new to the area, so I don’t really have friends yet. I’m trying to get the kids into local clubs so they have nice activities, and so maybe I can meet some other mums too.

I'm coasting at work, but that's a house of cards right now...i have so much work to try and catch up on that i don't even know where to start! So i need to get my head in the game and get caught up.

One bit of good news is that I managed to find a local childminder, the only one in the area, and she had two spaces open up. From January, both kids will be able to go there after school two days a week until I finish work. That will take a huge weight off my shoulders.

On top of everything else, I have two elderly cats who are often unwell, and a giant dog, technically my husband’s dog, that he just walked away from, like he did with everything else. So that all takes up my time and energy,

Right now, every bill, every responsibility, every decision falls on me, and it’s just a lot right now,

I know I’ll be okay eventually, and I know single mums do this every single day, Its just new for me and im just trying to navigate through all this as well as still grieving the loss of my marriage. I’m sorry for unloading all of this here, but it actually feels a bit better just to get it out of my head.

It’s just been a rough couple of weeks. I'm fine though, and I appreciate your message. x

Hey @Mumof2studentnurse hang in there. You are doing brilliantly and you will reap the rewards in the end. Make sure you have access to as much of any joint funds as possible and check in with the mortgage company. Keep copies of all communication and if you haven't already, see a solicitor to kick off divorce proceedings. They will help you navigate the process. Xx Whereabouts are you geographically? Are any of us close enough to be of any RL help?

Thats so kind @RhaenysRocks - Im in Scotland. But I really appreciate your kindness. My solicitor has threatened him that I will take him to court for spousal support if he doesn't move forward with the separation since he is not allowing me access to the home equity. The issue is, i know his outgoings and now that he is paying full child maintenance (Or will be come January when its set up, because CMS said it takes that long to set it up as well as putting the deduction of earnings order on his wages along with orgaising the arrears he is due me) he wont have enough to give me spousal support - so im possibly going to end up paying a few thousand in court fees to be told that he doesnt have the money to give me because its not based household earnings - just his earnings (which i completely understand) but its really frustrating.

She gave him 2 weeks, so by this time next week I will know if he is going to move forward or if he will call my bluff on the court action threat! :(

I will say though, not being in contact with him over the past 10 days has been really helpful for me. Its nice not feeling physically sick every time i get a text message! But i do think there is something unpleasant coming - im not sure what, but i can feel it.

I hope you are doing well and hope your week is going well x

Mumof2studentnurse
Sending you all the love and support you deserve! It’s a shit show, but you will get through it - do you have people in your life who are supportive? I agree with the others about the fact that you need to look after yourself and keep an eye on the rapid weight loss. You don’t want to be ill on top of everything else. Lots of hugs from me! 🤗

@Mumof2studentnurse ah..I know Scottish law differs so I may be less helpful on details but very happy to cheer from the sidelines. Spousal support is v rare these days unless you could demonstrate that you totally gave up your career for decades so I wouldn't hold out too much hope of that, unless its different in Scotland x

@RhaenysRocks So in Scotland i need to demonstrate that my finances are being impacted and my standard of living is impacted due to him not settling the finances and the support is only paid until he either settles the finances or we are divorced (whichever happens first, because through the divorce the finances would be settled by the court) In Scotland we do separation agreements/minute of agreements where the finances are all sorted and then the divorce is a very simple signing of a bit of paper because all the other stuff has been sorted. But thats only if both parties engage - if not, you need to wait 1 full year for divorce if both parties agree to the divorce or 2 years if they dont!

But - child maintenance is taken into account, although it doesn't automatically mean he wont have to pay. But... its down to the court, and our finances are not a million miles apart, so my hope really was that the threat would be enough to move things along. But my solicitor did say that since he is living with someone, it realistically means that his bills would be split. She said its unlikley the court will accept that she is living there for free - especially since its half my house legally.

But I will cross that bridge next week when she lets me know if he has made contact or not and then i will need to decide whether to move it to court or not but the fees are massive. The fees will be more than I will actually ever get in support from him - but he will have to pay similar fees....so maybe at that point he would just release the equity...its one call to the bank, thats all he has to do! x

@Mumof2studentnurse sending you lots of love and really hope that things feel a bit easier for you very soon. I have had a couple of times in life where I’ve really struggled to eat due to something traumatic/stressful happening (luckily only lasting for 2/3 weeks sort of thing) and found the freesoul protein shakes, protein type yoghurts, smoothies etc really helpful to get nutrients in when I felt physically too sick to eat.

hair loss wise - has anyone tried champo? Or this one: Briogeo Scalp Revival Rosemary Pre-Wash Scalp and Hair Oil?

I’ve been taking feel tablets for two weeks and am hoping those will help as the hair loss is now really worrying me. Funnily my nails are definitely looking much stronger and healthier after only the two weeks. Waiting to see how the hair gets on but I’m hopeful as the reviews look very good and my hairdresser recommended them. I’ve got a referral code if anyone wants it for money off https://wearefeel.com/a/referral/kerry144

@Mumof2studentnurse
I think I would lower my dose for a few weeks if you are really struggling to eat. It will be a bit cheaper for you too.

@SeaDippingandLattes
I’m using the Plantur tonic once a day - I’ll probably get the shampoo etc once mine have run out. I do feel there’s less hair coming out every morning when I comb it through. Plus the rosemary oil, but not done that for a couple of weeks actually.

Weigh and jab day
W31d1
SW - 13st11.8
CW - 10st4 (1.5lbs this week)
total loss - 3st 7.8lbs
GW - 10st

@Mumof2studentnurse it sounds so stressful for you right now but as others have said do try and eat and take care of yourself, if it is hard to do it for yourself then do it for your children who need you right now so they don’t have to go and stay with your twat of an ex if you end up ill in hospital.

-3.5lbs for me this week. That is over two weeks though as I didn’t weigh in last week as I was on holiday. Went away with a friend and her family not together 24/7 but together a lot. She seems to think I hardly ate anything which is weird cause I came away thinking I had not stopped eating the entire holiday so now I’m a bit confused.

how did everyone decide what their target weight was going to be. I’m still not sure. Originally I wanted to get my wedding rings fitting they still don’t even though I weigh a lot less than when I got married so might have to give up on that and get them resized. So now im not sure what the goal is.

Checking in.

SW 94kg
TW <70kg
CW 64.3kg BMI 22.9

I’m happy with where I am so tapering the dose from 3.75mg to 2.5mg every 2 weeks. I don’t think I’ll ever want to completely stop it.

@Squiffy01 for me it’s going to be about getting a balance between being healthy and a weight I think I can maintain long term. I’m still not completely sure where that will
be, just hoping I’ll recognise it when I get there!

It’s definitely changed considerably since I started. I’ve currently got a plan of not going below 9 stone but that would only just put me into healthy BMI so I will need to see how I feel around that. When I started I thought 11 stone would be a good target (making me overweight instead of obese) but now I’m nearly at that I can see that actually a good bit more would be sensible for me. At my height I could go down to just under 7 stone before I was underweight but I don’t think I’d be able to eat much at all in order to maintain that and then I’d be miserable! But who knows how I’ll feel with a bit more weight off. It is hard to know what’s right.

I did have a funny moment yesterday when an Indian student asked me if I’d been ill in a very concerned tone (I’m a university academic and it’s someone I taught a couple of years ago so he hasn’t seen me since I started the jabs). Interesting cultural differences - UK people pretending not to notice your weight loss in case they offend you and others needing to enquire after your welfare 😂.

Hi everyone, been awhile since I checked in, hope you’re all well. I’ve seen some of you are in maintenance which is fantastic. Does anyone know how long we are ‘allowed’ to stay on a maintenance dose with the suppliers who do this?

I’m still plodding along with 5kg left to lose, though it’s been very slow going lately. When I went up to 10mg a couple months ago it caused lots of headaches, nausea and heartburn so I went back down to 8.5 for a few weeks but didn’t lose much weight on that dose so went back up to 10 about 3 weeks ago and it’s started coming off again albeit still slowly. Fewer side effects this time at least. I only have about 6 full doses left and think I’m going to need them all of them to get to goal so none left for tapering down. I’m debating whether to switch to Wegovy for maintenance or stick with MJ. What have others done?

SW: 91kg
CW: 67kg
GW: 62kg

@Squiffy01 I just went for the top of healthy BMI, knowing that weight has felt comfortable before and I felt ‘nice’. I’ve also got big boobs and have had four kids so I think this slightly affects ‘what I look and feel like at that weight’ and am ok if I stay between the top of the healthy range and tip into a bit overweight.

Morning all. Weigh and ‘jab’ day for me today

Maintenance wk 7 - 3.75mg

SW: 13st 7
GW: 10st 7
CW: 10st 4

Stayed the same this week which is fine. I took 3.75mg last Friday after a two week gap. I gave myself permission to jab today but don’t feel I need to. I don’t have any food noise. I am finding I am often able to finish my meals but am being careful to keep portions modest so I think that’s ok. I’m listening for full signals and trying to eat slowly. I’m exercising loads and enjoying it. I’ve also been working really hard on my sleep as apparently good sleep is the key to not gaining weight in later life. As long as weight stays stable (my weekly average is down a little) I think I might stay on 3.75mg every 2nd week until Christmas and then think about moving down. I am nervous about dealing with the Christmas gain.

@Mumof2studentnurse sending hugs and support. Please feel free to continue to vent on here - it can be so good just to get things off your chest. Xx

I’ve lost 1.5lb this week and broken through 12 stones!

sw: 14st 1lb
cw: 11st 13lb
tw: 10st 7lb (or thereabouts, top end of healthy bmi)

I’m still plodding away, I’m on 15 mg pens at the moment but a full dose is too much at once so I dose 25 clicks twice a week and that seems to give me best suppression without feeling sick. I’m having to stick to 1200 calories a day to lose anything and that’s quite hard, so I do need that high dose to stop me snacking. I really need to up my activity level but I’ve always hated exercise. Even having less bulk to move around isn’t helping that motivation.

@SaddlebagSal you are doing fab. Well done for keeping on going. 1200 is low and I can imagine it must be feeling like a slog at this point. Congrats on the 12st break. This would always be where I stalled in the past because I start looking quite good in the 11s!!!

@Squiffy01 I initially picked 9st 13lb as my goal weight as I was 10st 3 on my wedding day and I love how I look in the pics - I decided I wanted to see a 9 on the scales… however as I lost I realised that at 10st 7 (bmi 22.5 ish) I look slim and I decided I really didn’t need to get to a weight I’d never been in my adult life. I’m still trending down in maintenance so may will dip below 10st anyway but for me I got to a point where I looked and felt good and it felt like time to start thinking about maintenance rather than losing.

@Incognitoburrito88 thanks for you thoughts on goal weight. When reading it became clear to me why I have been struggling with having a goal. I don’t think I will ever get to a place that I like the way I look.

Oh @Squiffy01 that’s so sad. You sound like you are very hard on yourself. I certainly don’t love how I look all the time - but buying some new clothes has certainly helped me to like myself a lot more. I hope you can get to a point where you are pleased with yourself x

Hi everyone. Haven't been on for a while. Well done all those who have made goal... I'm a long way off and have stalled for the last 4 weeks, although inches have still come off and am feeling good.
SW 18st 6
CW 14st 11.
I have 1 week left in my 1st 10 pen and am thinking of moving to Wegovy. The cost is just so high and have had car insurance, new glasses and what with Christmas on the way. Anyone else know anyone who has switched? I see @wordywitch is thinking about it too.

NSV - been stuck for months on BMI 26 - but this evening tried on some trousers that have always been too tight and they are loose - so I am deflating / changing shape (or putting it on elsewhere?) even though there is no shift on the scales. I’ll take that for now….,

Hi all. Not been on for a while. Can’t believe this thread is nearly full!

I’m maintaining around 10st4lb and I’m happy with that. Just trying to let my body settle before I think about coming off - which terrifies me honestly!

@Squiffy01 go easy on yourself. It does take a while for your brain to catch up. You might not feel completely happy but try to think of the little wins instead - there will be more than you think. I still don’t like my stomach and thighs - think they are chunky. But a win for me is that clothes shopping is just so much easier. I can pick things off the rack now I’m in normal sizes. Things like that. Even if you don’t like the way you look, you will be healthier overall. And that’s a big win to me.