I've been at 66-68kg for about a month now, but my body is recomposing itself. My tummy is at last flattening out a little bit, and firming up a bit. I still have saddlebags etc, fat on all my fat bits. I don't have any excess on my "thin" bits, like my ribs or ankles or chin.
One of my friends who has just started on MJ was asking me all about it and keeps saying "but you look the same", which has been a regular refrain from my friends. I think it says a lot about how we see weight in others. Then she flipped from that to saying I'd lost too much and that my goal weight (it's not my goal it's just what it sets on the app that I was showing her) was too low. The app has set my goal weight to BMI 21, or right in the middle of the healthy range, which seems totally fine to me. I'm not chasing it anyway; I'm in maintenance.
I think that's really interesting, though. We talked about it (amiably!) and she said she felt no cognitive dissonance between her statements that she could not guess my weight reliably within even 50 pounds and feeling strongly that a specific number was "too low" for me. I don't know where we get these ideas. Where do they come from.
It seems like we really feel we know a lot about other people's bodies and we don't seem to be dissuaded by any evidence to the contrary. I see this a lot on these boards too! Off this thread, in the main bit, a lot of very confident advice is given out to posters on the regular, and when those posters reply that these things don't work for them, they are just told they are liars or incompetent or weak, basically. There's no sense on the advisor's side that maybe their information is incomplete or not applicable. Why is this, do you think?