Argh need to vent. I have had YEARS of struggling with the SEND system and schools. I have had to work full-time throughout. I am naturally calm, I’m in full health, there is always food, our house is lovely and we are in a nice area.
Both of my kids have been failed by the school system. My 16yr old gets 1hr of provision per week from our local college. He has an EHCP but the council is broken and his EHCP hasn’t been updated in 3 years.
My 14yr old had acute MH issues which school could/would not support him with, and so we had to deregister him, after many weeks of negotiating with school, going part-time, seeing GP…etc. I’m doing a course on “parenting mental health”.
Today, I have been called a “spastic” and a “shitbag” by my own kids. My husband told me yesterday our relationship is worthless and he wants to move out. 14yo is currently out on his bike, god knows where, and says he won’t be back until 10pm. Not picking up his phone. I’m terrified the police / social services will get involved if they see him out in school hours.
I have tried SO hard for ALL of them, for so many years. I try to be patient, understanding and reasonable. I never “lose it”. I run a business, I go to counselling to keep myself together. I am doing my absolute very best. I feel like everything is falling apart and my own family are trying their best to break me. The kids show no sign of ambition or wanting an education.
When I told my 16yo how much effort I put into keeping everything going he said “well if you are trying and people are still complaining at you then you obviously need to try harder”.
Husband tried to help out by saying he would do all the washing for a month as my birthday present. Whoopee. How the F did I get here, and how do I escape it?