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NatashaDancing · 03/05/2023 08:46

Fuerza · 03/05/2023 06:08

I'm not precious or uptight. I just see it as one simple rule of etiquette, old fashioned maybe, but im 52. I don't care if somebody else thinks it's ok on them, I wouldn't choose it for a wedding for myself, as there is too much white in it. The main colour is white and it might well just look like a white dress in photos. It's not precious to have an opinion. My opinion that I wouldn't want to risk it, or chance it. Why put yrslf in a situation where people are wondering could you not have chosen a less white dress.

I'm 63. The etiquette is don't upstage the bride. If the bride is upstaged by a pretty, but ordinary midi day dress from Marks and Spencer's goodness knows what wouldn't upstage her.

Sevenbells · 03/05/2023 08:52

I wouldn't. I know someone who wore a white dress with purple stockings to a wedding. It was still a white dress. Same with these green spots. You will get a few funny looks, I guarantee, even if the bride is OK.

PinkTonic · 03/05/2023 09:07

Statsinyoureyes · 03/05/2023 08:24

I'm surprised most think this is ok! It's a beautiful dress but the colour and style are too similar to a wedding dress and I wouldn't wear it to a wedding. Sorry OP

In what way is it similar to a wedding dress?

Whisper23 · 03/05/2023 09:26

This whole ridiculous debate is one of the many reasons why I hate weddings.

SVRT19674 · 03/05/2023 09:43

I would wear it but accesorize with green.

potatohead1 · 03/05/2023 09:49

thehorsehasnowbolted · 03/05/2023 08:35

Don't do it OP. Don't you have anything else to wear?

Don't do what? Wear a simple cream and green polka dotted teas dress to a wedding?

ForTheSakeOfThePenguin · 03/05/2023 09:50

NatashaDancing · 03/05/2023 08:07

Your guests were weird and rude. I can't imagine what sort of people looking at wedding photos long after the event would comment on something as trivial and pointless.

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You probably move in different circles. I certainly did before I got married.

For you the guests are the rude ones, for them she was the rude one. I obviously didn’t notice this was going on until people started bitching about it after the wedding.

potatohead1 · 03/05/2023 09:50

Statsinyoureyes · 03/05/2023 08:24

I'm surprised most think this is ok! It's a beautiful dress but the colour and style are too similar to a wedding dress and I wouldn't wear it to a wedding. Sorry OP

This is the least wedding dress style dress I can imagine. What are you thinking? It's a simple spotted tea dress

oioimatey · 03/05/2023 09:57

I wouldn't mind a guest wearing that dress to our wedding. Just make sure you don't wear white shoes or have white accessories. Green jacket, bag and hat would look great.

MyAnacondaMight · 03/05/2023 10:00

You’re not at risk of pretending to be the bride, but you are at risk of standing out in the photos if you’re the only other person in white. I’d choose something else.

JudgeJ · 03/05/2023 10:34

Marinapeppina · 29/04/2023 13:03

Personally I wouldn’t wear a dress that was mostly white to a wedding. Better to be cautious!

I would wear it with a short jacket the same colour as the spots and a small bag the same colour as possible.

Somanycats · 03/05/2023 10:51

tbh, I have a wedding coming up in the summer and on your recommendation OP I'm thinking of buying this dress. My only fear is (not that the bride will be upset as she is a perfectly sensible person), but that this dress has now received so much publicity, that every second person will be wearing it!

cracktheshutters · 03/05/2023 11:12

I wore this in cream with black spots to a wedding back in 2021 and spilt something down the front straight away 🫠 think twice if you’re clumsy! (Like me)

PoAhOh · 03/05/2023 12:18

I saw this in the shop window yesterday & stopped to look at it. It's really beautiful, I never once thought it was a 'white' dress there's far too much green on it !

I wouldn't worry about it.

Catspyjamas17 · 03/05/2023 12:21

Perfect and lovely.

I've been to about 20 weddings in my life, guests wear white all the time, including several at mine and no-one gives a shit unless you turned up in an actual bridal gown and veil.

And I would certainly risk causing offence with the easily offended. They will thoroughly enjoy themselves, being offended by your lovely spotty dress.

Catspyjamas17 · 03/05/2023 12:26

Why not just wear a dark trouser suit, like men do. Oh hang on, you might get mistaken for the groom. Nobody ever says this to men do they. Stop feeding into the misogyny. It’s perfectly fine to wear a dress like this. If a man can wear a suit in a similar could to what the groom is wearing then what is the issue?

Quite. I've been to lots of work dinners where men are all wearing the same suits. Imagine! How embarrassing, no-one knew who the MD/Groom was.

Yep, doesn't work, does it?

DenimSkirtLove · 03/05/2023 12:27

TwoCoffeesPlease · 03/05/2023 08:12

I’m getting married next year and tbh I would be a bit annoyed if you wore this to my wedding.

No, it’s not all over white. No, it’s not a bridal looking dress HOWEVER it seems totally unnecessary to wear it when you could were literally anything else. Almost like you are trying to “get away with” wearing white. Honestly what’s the point.

If you have to ask, don’t wear it!

What a pity that getting married to someone you apparently love isn’t enough to get you through the big day; your petty preciousness about a guest’s dress would spoil it for you. Are you sure he is the right one for you?

DoNotKeepAsking · 03/05/2023 12:30

Sevenbells · 03/05/2023 08:52

I wouldn't. I know someone who wore a white dress with purple stockings to a wedding. It was still a white dress. Same with these green spots. You will get a few funny looks, I guarantee, even if the bride is OK.

What kind of people would give funny looks to a woman in an m and s day dress?

The small-minded Hyacinth Buckets are out in force on this thread.

DoNotKeepAsking · 03/05/2023 12:32

As an aside, I detest bolero jackets. They are a bigger crime than wearing white.

Sevenbells · 03/05/2023 12:51

@DoNotKeepAsking It's a wedding. It's a white dress (with green spots). Personally my days of worrying who wears what at weddings are behind me but from what I remember, there is always That Guest in white and they do get looked at and commented on. It's old fashioned and silly but so are weddings.

potatohead1 · 03/05/2023 13:16

Sevenbells · 03/05/2023 12:51

@DoNotKeepAsking It's a wedding. It's a white dress (with green spots). Personally my days of worrying who wears what at weddings are behind me but from what I remember, there is always That Guest in white and they do get looked at and commented on. It's old fashioned and silly but so are weddings.

But I don't spend a nano second of thought on what weird judgemental and dated people like that think

Megifer · 03/05/2023 13:17

Question - if standing out on photos is the issue, where are we with purple, blue and red afro type hair? Asking for a friend 😬

Jenasaurus · 03/05/2023 13:54

I think its fine, its clearly not a brides dress, but if it makes you feel awkward then have a look for another dress.

A friends mum turned up to her own DD wedding in something similar to this one below - She knew it was wrong as said to the brother of the bride, do you think DD will mind, later checking with her DH his response was equally odd, he said , no its fine, you wore something similar to our own wedding and looked lovely!

Pure Cotton Embroidered V-Neck Midaxi Dress | Autograph | M&S (marksandspencer.com)

Pure Cotton Embroidered V-Neck Midaxi Dress | Autograph | M&S

This pure cotton midaxi dress from our Autograph collection features tonal embroidery for a subtly textured look. It's designed in a regular fit, with an elegant v-neckline and a zip fastening at the back. The 3/4 length sleeves add volume to the silho...

https://www.marksandspencer.com/pure-cotton-embroidered-v-neck-midaxi-dress/p/clp60593469?color=SOFTWHITE#intid=pid_pg1pip48g4r2c2

SummaLuvin · 03/05/2023 14:03

Megifer · 03/05/2023 13:17

Question - if standing out on photos is the issue, where are we with purple, blue and red afro type hair? Asking for a friend 😬

Asking someone to change their hair would be unreasonable and unrealistic, so it's absolutely fine to have red afro hair. You can't suddenly and easily change your hair texture and colour. Dresses are are not typically worn for months on end, are easy to change out of, and easy to not buy in white!

PumpkinsAndCoconuts · 03/05/2023 14:11

Megifer · 03/05/2023 13:17

Question - if standing out on photos is the issue, where are we with purple, blue and red afro type hair? Asking for a friend 😬

I think that purple or red hair is fine. An afro or any other natural hair style is absolutely fine as well.

Expecting guests to change something about their body is completely unreasonable and rude imo.