Is this too white for a wedding guest dress?

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Having a wobble, I thought it was fine as it’s more cream and the spots are very vibrant https://www.marksandspencer.com/satin-polka-dot-tie-front-midi-column-dress/p/clp60597604#intid=plpnav_pid_pg1pip48g2r1c1

You missed out yellow. On the "MoB wearing black" thread at least one poster said yellow isn't allowed either.

Compete with bride? Yes that’s how weddings work. Guests & family ignore the bride in favour of the smart dressed guest. Seating plan changed, the bride and her drab didn’t quite cut it dress are downgraded. The other guest in the better white & green dress is feted and declared the winner! Hurrah the competition decision is declared, the whimpering bride in her inadequate white dress has lost to a white & green dress that photographed well

That does seem complicated.

• No white

• no bright / all-over red (I'm not talking about blush, burgundy etc. But about all-over scarlet)

OP's dress is too white imo. It may not be a traditional bridal look... but modern bridal wear is not necessarily traditional either.

Black is fine in my personal opinion and also according to the Knigge (I'm originally from "the continent"). As long as it doesn't look like you're actually in mourning, obviously...

As for jersey fabric dresses: I usually don't like them. But if somebody else wants to wear those... 🤷‍♀️

I agree with this and pity the woman who wore a white and blue cocktail dress to my wedding. I didn’t notice or care but other guests did and made her aware of the faux pas!
we still can’t see photos of the wedding without someone making a fuss about why on Earth did she show up in white.

So many precious and uptight people. It’s fine. Of course you won’t be mistaken for the bride. Wear it. People are weird.

Lovely dress. Two of my friends wore dresses that were mostly white with a coloured pattern to my wedding. Both looked gorgeous and didn't bother me a bit. They did ask me before though as I guess it must annoy some brides.

So many rules of what not to wear. I am from a culture where petty discussions like this about guest attire simply don’t happen. Never heard it.

All these poor women on here going to weddings standing with pursed lips, shaking their heads whilst bitching with others in a state of confusion as to who the bride is. Clue: it’s not the one with a cream dress and green polka dots.

I would hate to go through life quite this uptight. It’s not a wedding dress!

At my wedding I wanted my guests to be happy and well-fed. Everyone knew I was the bride. I couldn’t care less what they wore. I am sorry other brides are so preoccupied with what the guests are wearing; clearly the joy of getting married is not enough for them. Shame.

I am embarrassed for people with their ridiculous precious opinions. Someone wearing this simple M and S dress is not trying to compete with the bride. You would have to be really petty and small-minded to think so.

I think it is a great wedding guest dress. (If in doubt ask the bride.)

I'm not precious or uptight. I just see it as one simple rule of etiquette, old fashioned maybe, but im 52. I don't care if somebody else thinks it's ok on them, I wouldn't choose it for a wedding for myself, as there is too much white in it. The main colour is white and it might well just look like a white dress in photos. It's not precious to have an opinion. My opinion that I wouldn't want to risk it, or chance it. Why put yrslf in a situation where people are wondering could you not have chosen a less white dress.

Why not just wear a dark trouser suit, like men do. Oh hang on, you might get mistaken for the groom. Nobody ever says this to men do they. Stop feeding into the misogyny. It’s perfectly fine to wear a dress like this. If a man can wear a suit in a similar could to what the groom is wearing then what is the issue?
Actually and this will blow the minds of some posters, way back in time all the bridesmaids dressed exactly like the bride. That’s right. The idea was to disguise who the bride was. Read up on it and educate yourself.

Actually I have been to weddings, including my own, where men were told not to wear morning suits. We did this as we knew some male guests would have worn theirs unless we told them not to. So there was a dress code for men.

@NewMarmalade it doesn't matter if it doesn't bother you. None of us know the bride in question, including OP. She could be laid back or a complete bridezilla.

I think it’s lovely!! So much so, I’ve got an event in two weeks and I’m going to order it to try on for that!!

honestly, someone wore cream to my wedding, and my mother in law wore black. It didn’t bother me, I’m not aware it bothered anyone else, but if it did they didn’t bother to worry me about it!!

This thread is INSANE! The dress is clearly in no way bridal. It doesn’t look like a wedding dress and it has GREEN SPOTS on it!

if it makes you feel any better, OP, my mum and mother in law both wore white dresses with patterns to my wedding. It hadn’t even occurred to me until reading this thread because they clearly weren’t bridal dresses! And they both looked beautiful (and in no way bridal in the photos 🤣)

I think the varied answers show that it might be ok, but then it might not. If you've had to ask, you obviously arent 100% sure it won't, so do you really want to be worrying about it all day, espcially if it's not really people you know? I'd save it for another occasion and wear something else.

@ForTheSakeOfThePenguin your wedding guests sound absolutely dreadful! I simply can't imagine people carrying on like that at a wedding! So very glad that's not my world & they're not my family or friends!

I agree with @NewMarmalade our wedding was a celebration of the joy & excitement of us getting married & our only expectation of our guests was that they would enjoy the day with us. We focused on great food, lots of v nice alcohol & fantastic music. I couldn't gave cated less what anyone wore & we did not have traditional posed photos so that wasn't an issue for us either.

All these 'rules' honestly make some people's weddings seems like an endurance test! Not a celebration of love

Don't ask the bride!
She'll have enough on her plate.

The dress is lovely. Fine for a garden party or posh drinks.

Not for a wedding. If you have to post on Mumsnet, there's too much white in the dress. Find another one in a similar style.

Your guests were weird and rude. I can't imagine what sort of people looking at wedding photos long after the event would comment on something as trivial and pointless.

I’m getting married next year and tbh I would be a bit annoyed if you wore this to my wedding.

No, it’s not all over white. No, it’s not a bridal looking dress HOWEVER it seems totally unnecessary to wear it when you could were literally anything else. Almost like you are trying to “get away with” wearing white. Honestly what’s the point.

If you have to ask, don’t wear it!

I personally wouldn’t but I don’t think it’s egregious.

I never understand these threads about whether day dresses are “too white” when they are clearly patterned on a white ground. They are day dresses, not wedding dresses. Yes it’s possible to be inappropriate, a few years ago there was a a thread where someone was proposing to wear a cream tulle skirt and got her arse handed to her quite rightly, but day dresses are staple wedding guest attire and even with a white background are far more appropriate than some of the many awful suggestions I see on MN in styles which look like bridesmaids or evening dresses. The dress is perfectly fine for a wedding guest. If it’s a hat wearing wedding I’d go for green with a green bag and cream shoes.

I'm surprised most think this is ok! It's a beautiful dress but the colour and style are too similar to a wedding dress and I wouldn't wear it to a wedding. Sorry OP

Don't do it OP. Don't you have anything else to wear?

It doesn't look anything like a wedding dress.

It's a lovely dress, but for god's sake don't buy those bloody shoes to go with it!
The M&S 'stylists' need a good talking to.