Is this too white for a wedding guest dress?

[Noooooogsh]

Having a wobble, I thought it was fine as it’s more cream and the spots are very vibrant https://www.marksandspencer.com/satin-polka-dot-tie-front-midi-column-dress/p/clp60597604#intid=plpnav_pid_pg1pip48g2r1c1

So going forward we can't wear:
A dress with any white
A black dress
A dress that is too short
A dress that is too patterned
A dress with 'too much fabric'

This thread is enlightening!

I agree its too short, but I like the pattern. Here is another longer dress is the same pattern, in the Wedding Guest section.

https://www.quizclothing.co.uk/clothes/00100037302.html

@LittleFreakJezebel don't forget
A green dress
A red dress
Any dress that might cause anyone to notice you as it would be too 'look at me'
A jersey fabric dress (only for the beach apparently)

🙄

I didn’t read of or know about any rules for wedding guest attire until I joined MN when I was already a mum of two and had been to many weddings wearing many colours, including black, including white.

is this just a rule for women, must the men not wear dark coloured suits just in case the groom wears a dark coloured suit?

in the last ten weddings have been to only two of the women being married have worn a dress in white. Some did not wear a dress. Some wore red, one wore green, if I got married I think I’d fancy purple.

Why is there an assumption that a bride wants to be “centre of attention”? I certainly would not want to stand out. Who cares about photos? Aren’t they there for the couple themselves? If there is a group shot isn’t it nice to see everyone on it?

and why is anyone going to weddings of people they don’t even know?

The green dots take away the whiteness of it, there is no way it could be said to look like a wedding dress, so I don't see a problem with it

Mn is illuminating how many people are constricted by petty rules,choked etiquette and impenetrable code of perceived good manners
I imagine how unspontaneous and restrictive you must find social events , if you’re not fretting about what to wear what code not to breach.
Then You’re expecting a free bar and food at any engagement or wedding
events

These self imposed rules are class bound and moribund

I like it and in no way is a bride at a wedding with 200 guests going to be wearing it, so I'd say it's fine. I wouldn't have thought twice about a guest at either of my weddings wearing that, and I can't think of a single friend of mine who would either.

I'm more baffled by the suggestions about wearing a pashmina, a bolero or a fascinator quite honestly - I'm the least fashionable person ever and even I know that those three items are completely dated and out of fashion! I'd go with green Esska shoes and a green hat and I think it would look lovely.

Upset bride and guests Whispering about what exactly? What a peculiar thin skinned group

It's an alternative universe. There's a thread about cocktail dresses and apparently there are guests at those, male and female, who whisper amongst themselves about inappropriately dressed guests.

I've given and received many compliments at formal parties and weddings. I've never once thought it necessary to whisper about other guests behind their backs. The worst I can think of was commenting to my husband, on the way home from a wedding, about a guest who got very drunk and even that was just a passing remark about the day.

I agree @NatashaDancing I have attended many wedding over the years & I have never once heard anyone commenting about what another guest was wearing! It's bizzare.

Actually I tell I lie, once at a wedding of a university friend of dh's there was a guest who wore an entirely see through white crocheted skin tight dress with a thong showing visibly. Now she was someone who definitely got the dress code wrong & I reckon as long as you don't surpass her you're doing alright. She's been a yardstick for me ever since 😅

I went to a wedding and the ex girlfriend of the groom had clearly had a full on glow up to make a point. She looked amazing

Well yes, that is an exception !

You said it 😂

@Mandyjack I agree. I think it is ridiculous that people care what other guests wear. And you are quite right - people should be glad that their guests are willing to stump up to travel/ stay/ find nice clothes/ buy presents.

The green and white dress is lovely as I've said, but I'd be more worried another guest would turn up wearing the same dress, then the likelihood of the bride being upset, to be honest!

Beautiful dress, I love it!

Hey @Noooooogsh please let us know what you decide! I'm firmly pro!

It's a bad idea, respectfully suggest you choose another colour.

Why? What is so glaringly bad that you need to respect request a change of plan?

Actually I wouldn't. It's just poor etiquette.

Would you wear a white dress to a wedding?

Why not?Being accurate it’s a green & white spot dress
Posters on MN invents or regurgitate preference and habit as it it’s a universal rule
black at a wedding is ok
white at a wedding is ok too. Clearly the guest won’t be mistaken for the bride, given the groom et al know whom is the bride. I really don’t think a well turned out guest in white will be whisked to the front and married to the groom in a haze of dress based confusion

Same dress, different colour.

https://www.marksandspencer.com/satin-round-neck-tie-front-midi-tea-dress/p/clp60595725

Your original choice is too white for those who follow British wedding etiquette. For a post that's generated so much debate (and some genuine bitchiness), I await the outcome with baited breath.

I wouldn’t risk it. It’s lovely but the photos from a distance might not show the polka dots and so it will look like you were trying to compete with the bride…