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UnshakenNeedsStirring · 29/04/2023 13:30

No, of all the colours you could chose, why get fixated on this dress. Check with the bride. Personally I wouldnt wear it

useitorlose · 29/04/2023 13:31

Wear it with green accessories (bag/jacket) and it will be fine. How much time will you be standing next to the bride anyway?

Pipsquiggle · 29/04/2023 13:31

Too white for a wedding but lovely dress

ShinyShinyShinyBootsOfLeather · 29/04/2023 13:31

Aylestone · 29/04/2023 13:02

A normal person would think that’s totally fine op. I personally know a couple of bridezillas who would have gone apeshit at a guest wearing mostly white. I wouldn’t risk it unless you know the bride will be ok with it. Can you ask her?

This^^

To most people this would be fine, but someone may have a problem with it. If not the bride, then possibly a guest. Depends on the crowd basically! Some people are very weird indeed

TinaYouFatLard · 29/04/2023 13:32

I do think it’s too white.

SamShortForSambuca · 29/04/2023 13:33

While we're here, what do people think of this dress for a wedding?

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Partner and groom are friends; I've only ever met the bride a handful of times and we have no mutual friends so hard to ask.

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RichardHeed · 29/04/2023 13:33

Would I be bothered? Not really. But I do wonder, out of all the hundred of colours of dresses, why pick something you know is contentious?

SummeryAF · 29/04/2023 13:40

Way too white.

SummaLuvin · 29/04/2023 13:43

ShinyShinyShinyBootsOfLeather · 29/04/2023 13:31

This^^

To most people this would be fine, but someone may have a problem with it. If not the bride, then possibly a guest. Depends on the crowd basically! Some people are very weird indeed

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expecting people to comply with basic and well known etiquette is neither weird nor bridezilla behaviour.

UsingChangeofName · 29/04/2023 13:45

It would be fine.
The things about not wearing whit is about not turning up in a dress that could be mistaken for a bride's dress.
That dress looks nothing like a bridal gown.

@SamShortForSambuca - you are probably better starting your own thread, but my own thought is the dress you have linked to is probably a bit short for a wedding. As with all these questions, it will depend on the people at your wedding.

ShinyShinyShinyBootsOfLeather · 29/04/2023 13:45

SummaLuvin · 29/04/2023 13:43

expecting people to comply with basic and well known etiquette is neither weird nor bridezilla behaviour.

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As you say

Pluvia · 29/04/2023 13:46

As long as you don't have white shoes and accessories it will be fine. Find a green scarf or wrap or jacket to wear with it for photos so that you are clearly dressed in green and a green hat or fascinator.

It's great to see M&S returning to classy clothing at affordable prices after all the sea of garish, luminous, embroidered, flounced and sequin-covered tat it's been touting for the last 15 years.

Shayisgreat · 29/04/2023 13:49

Beautiful dress - perfect for any party that isn't a wedding. I think it's too close to white for a wedding.

TrueScrumptious · 29/04/2023 13:51

SummaLuvin · 29/04/2023 13:43

expecting people to comply with basic and well known etiquette is neither weird nor bridezilla behaviour.

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It’s not, though. The etiquette is to not look vaguely bridal, which this dress definitely isn’t.

NatashaDancing · 29/04/2023 13:53

TrueScrumptious · 29/04/2023 13:51

It’s not, though. The etiquette is to not look vaguely bridal, which this dress definitely isn’t.

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Agreed. I sometimes (well quite often) think I'm on another planet on here. There's nothing wrong with that dress. It's a smart, summery summer dress.

@SamShortForSambuca your dress is fine too.

hedwigismyowl · 29/04/2023 13:54

Tbh I've only seen on MN people who say don't where white-with-a-pattern dress to a wedding. I've been to loads of wedding where women have worn white dresses with a pattern on them. It's usually obvious who the bride is, and a dress like the op isn't one that would ever get confused with a wedding dress!

ChypreNovice · 29/04/2023 13:58

Presumably if the wedding is in the UK you will need to take some sort of additional covering because the shit completely unpredictable weather. So long as that’s not white or cream then I think it’s fine, and indeed it’s a lovely dress.

Green polka dots kind of nullify the cream really, in terms of being even remotely mistaken for the bride.

slowquickstep · 29/04/2023 13:58

I wouldn't wear it but if you like and are willing to maybe upset the bride go ahead.

Sloop89 · 29/04/2023 14:01

It's too white. It's going to show as white in the photos and you won't see the polka dots. You'd also have to be slim as beanpole to pull that off without looking like a character on Mr. Tumble.

Haveallthesongsbeenwritten · 29/04/2023 14:08

I found this thread fascinating. Even if it has white its clearly not a bride dress, i would not worry a second. I worn once a cream dress with some coloured details on it, the bride was not bothered at all.

sommeliermama · 29/04/2023 14:10

I think it's lovely! Can you message the bride to ask her first? I'm sure she will appreciate you checking with her

NatashaDancing · 29/04/2023 14:16

Haveallthesongsbeenwritten · 29/04/2023 14:08

I found this thread fascinating. Even if it has white its clearly not a bride dress, i would not worry a second. I worn once a cream dress with some coloured details on it, the bride was not bothered at all.

Same here. Combination of fascinating and mystifying. I don't even get the angst about the photos. I've never seen a set of wedding photos where the bride wasn't instantly obvious and centre of attention.

starfishmummy · 29/04/2023 14:16

DangerNoodles · 29/04/2023 13:03

It's beautiful, but my photographer said one of the problems with guests in white is that they stand out too much in the photos and compete with the bride. Personally I wouldn't wear that because you will draw attention away from the bride in her expensive photos, even if there are green spots on it.

Also, I think if you have to ask, it's too white!

Most guests are not in many photos unless immediate family though. So the photographers reasoning is flawed - the OP can just insert herself at the back if her dress stands out too much.

ComeTheFuckOnBridgett · 29/04/2023 14:23

It's a nice dress but I wouldn't.

NatashaDancing · 29/04/2023 14:24

starfishmummy · 29/04/2023 14:16

Most guests are not in many photos unless immediate family though. So the photographers reasoning is flawed - the OP can just insert herself at the back if her dress stands out too much.

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Thank you - the comments about the photos completely puzzled me, but they're just wrong.