Lovely new thread, Cremo !
Monty
What Molly said....You're supposed to be on compassionate leave, no? They are supposed to arrange cover. If you go in they might think they don't have to. Is there someone caring and supportive at work that you can have a frank conversation with, about it?
Tilly Its hard dismantling someone's life and home. I think being matter of fact about it, like you are is the only way.
My DM was waving a Michelin Guide circa 1990 at me and Dsis the other day when we were supposed to be helping her clear some things out. She said we had to hang on to it as it's a "collectors item" 
I have this afternoon visited a dear school friend who has just lost her DM. I took my DM with me, as we all come from the same place and were in a community together. Dropping like flies...
Her DH has been her carer for many years (she had Parkinsons) and he will be 92 tomorrow, bless him. He's broken hearted.
Am now about to start teaching an extra class tonight, so that I can have time off when the DC are off, which isn't until the end of next week! Just me and DD here as DS2 has gone straight from school to the Adele gig. [jealous]