Crepe And Stormy

[Cremo]

Over here Crepemunks!
Hope no one else has started one

[Cremo]

Erm who MI? Not someone I recognise in that description.
Please don't do yourself down.it is most unjust and untrue.
You are, however entitled to wallow in a vat of gin as required.

[MrsSchadenfreude]

Rose:

Don't blow your own trumpet
Don't boast
No-one's interested in what you think you've achieved.

Sound familiar?

Have a dark and stormy for me, Crepesters. I will be getting drunk somewhere in the midlands.

[hattymattie]

Crem - sorry about the job interview. Interviews are so annoying as I don't think those who can play to the gallery are necessarily those who will perform best in the job.

MI - I haven't met you but I have seen photos and you are definately not fat - don't do yourself down.

I am feeling irrationally tetchy because it is my birthday next week and I saw DH enter with from a perfumerie. I hope he hasn't once again spent a lot of money on a perfume I won't like.

[Auriga]

Was about to post saying I felt a bit more human. But then spent hour on phone listening to friend whose wife moved out, lock stock and barrel, while he was visiting someone a week ago. Then phone rang again straight away and it was another close friend, to tell me she has cancer

Going to see sisters and brother this w/e, we all felt in need of a get-together.

Sorry about job, Crem. KBO.
MI, I feel for you . Rose put it beautifully a while ago - people telling you you're doing a marvellous job doesn't make it feel as though you are.
Good to see you Montserrat. And everyone. Wish you all a restorative weekend.

Remember the Crepey Law: No up-beating of self.

[hattymattie]

Crikey Auriga - you're really going through it. Hope you find support with your sister and brother.

[motherinferior]

I like this gin. Made by Adnams.

[Blackduck]

MrsS -where in the Midlands?

MI - stop the beating up

Auriga ()

I will be at a dark and stormy meet up if not too late. Agreed not to go back until Sunday - more for dad than dmum....

[Lalsy]

A pox on all their houses, Crem. Good on you for the I shall not wither - Second Crepey law perhaps?

MI, read this thread through - feel the weight of your wit and wisdom. And any other upbeaters, you too.

Auriga, I am sorry, that sounds very grim.

ds birthday today...odd.

[bigTillyMint]

Looking forward to seeing you BD

What was/is strange about your DSs birthday, Lalsy?

[Lalsy]

Dunno - small boy/grown man - not knowing what the etiquette is for birthdays/your Mum any more? I think he had something on his mind - it may be something he told me about that isn't to do with him, really.

[Blackduck]

Lalsy cryptic!

Do we have a time for today?

[motherinferior]

I'm never going to get out of here. My dad weeps over anyone who comes through the door and is completely incapable of deciding what to get at the shops. My mother is just about able to recognise voices and so forth, which means I can't just walk out and say soddit I've had enough. I can't bear being in his presence any more - given that I haven't been able to bear it since I was 18. Visitors clearly think I am brutal and uncaring but I am hanging on with my fingernails.

[MrsSchadenfreude]

MI . Can you go home for a couple of days? Just for a break? Difficult, I know, but you need to think of yourself and your own sanity.

[Blackduck]

Agree with MrsS take 24/48 hours for yourself to recoup. It sounds very stressful.

[motherinferior]

No, I can't. It's as simple as that. My sister has gone home and one of us needs to be here. This is what happens when people decide to die at home.

[motherinferior]

I went home for a break on Monday. I can't bear being in my father's presence - I never have, it makes me want to retch even when he's not weeping.

[Blackduck]

:(. Get out - even for an hour. Breakfast alone. Walk. Gird your loins for the fray. He walks in a room you, if possible, walk out. Lock yourself in the loo at regular intervals....

[motherinferior]

Someone needs to be with her. Sometimes she tries to get out of bed. Also she needs water, although night time carer has simultaneously lectured me on how she needs hydration AND how she mustn't get water in her lungs.

I'm perfectly aware I need a break. I'm also aware that I'm not going to get one. Possibly not ever.

[Blackduck]

You mean until it's over. :(
Oh MI so very very sorry particularly as he is so bloody incompetent. There are two of you there it should be easier to share the load and give each other a break.....

[bigTillyMint]

BD, 5pm!

MI, do what BD suggests if you can't actually go home. If there are lots of visitors, leave one of them in charge whilst you go out maybe they will see your fathers true colours

[motherinferior]

There aren't lots of visitors. There may be someone later today. A friend is coming tomorrow and DP and the girls may come on Monday. But they don't stay long and they go away again.

There are visits from HCAs and there is night sitting. But most of the time it is me, and my father, in this house. We do sometimes go out and leave the other in charge but that is all.

[motherinferior]

And presumably one or both of us (me and my sister) will have to be here after she dies in any case.

[bigTillyMint]

MI, If you are thinking that this is going to be longer-term than just for your DM, can you get any other carers started? If you think he is not going to be able to manage on his own, then you and your sister are not a long-term sustainable solution