My DDads care home had a drinks trolley too. And why not, eh.
tilly all we can do is make sure our loved ones know our wishes whilst we're still of sound mind. I've told mine repeatedly that if I lose my mind or bodily functions or both, PUT ME IN A HOME /HOSPICE. NO MATTER HOW MUCH I BEG NOT TO GO. My DSis who lives in the US is a medical ethicist and specialises in death and dying. Perhaps I should get her to do a talk for us, when she's next over. She's quite an authority on the subject!
rudy hang on in there. 
Do trust one or some of us with your confidence one day soon. Don't be an island. ( ..... I can talk.....that's what DH always says to me...)
BD' So sorry for you all. And poor DS. I have never forgotten how it felt when my first pet died when I was a kid.
Thinking also of auriga and monty every day. Other peoples' bereavements seem to upset me as much as my own. 
I am Billy No Mates at the moment, sitting in the first of several locations having arranged drop -ins to disseminate information to colleagues on Union business. And as I'm back on the wagon, no feckin' cake allowed, as compensation. 
Still, trying to focus on the positive. Started teaching a delightful new class last night. Real sweeties all of them. dS2 had a great time at the gig last night, and tonight we are off to his last evah music dept recital at his school
He went off in a suit and tie this morning, saying it was befitting to a classical piece he was playing 
. No idea what. He won't tell us what he's doing although he did let slip something about a sixth form farewell performance. He also went off with the score of Book of Mormon !!! I gather that Dneph is playing in the ukulele band, and two DNeices are singing. So DM is also coming along to see the DGC. Bloody family Von Trapp not
Any ways, I think I will cry.....Feel like the end of an era.