We’ve just bought our first house for us all (one SS age 8, my DS age 9 and DD (6) to move into for the first time. We haven’t moved in yet but went to see the house. Kids were saying which bedrooms they want and both DS and SS are fighting over a particular room. It’s not the biggest or best but it is the closest to our room. SS insists he needs to be close to his Dad. When staying with his Dad up to now he has slept in his Dad’s bed most of the time and rejected his own room, and was shocked to learn his Dad would be sharing a room with me, not him.
Meanwhile DS is autistic and very inflexible. He likes the room as it has a cosy, enclosed feel to it. Both boys are having meltdowns at the prospect of the room not being theirs. Sharing not an option, it’s a small room. So far neither can be tempted by the option of the other bigger room. Don’t know how to resolve it. Feels not a great footing to get off to.
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Moving into 1st house together: SS and DS can’t agree on bedrooms
Elderflower80s · 17/03/2024 21:06
WannabeCatLady · 17/03/2024 21:13
I don't think it's going to be smooth sailing with both the boys and their competing needs over the room. I'd give the room to the third dc and not let either boy get it as it will just set the whole tone wrong for moving in.
What is your dp doing to address his sons separation anxiety?
What can you do to support your son with this new change and room?
gamerchick · 17/03/2024 22:04
I think the compromise is dad sleeps in with his son when he visits OP. You'll be able to cope with that for a bit until this separation anxiety is dealt with and the bairn feels more secure.
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