CMS and my income

[BaconAvocado]

Hi, does anyone know if there are any circumstances in which CMS would take into account my income for the calculation. DH is on a private arrangement with his ex at the moment and keeps being asked if I can help contribute towards things like school uniform and why he's not paying more as the DSC have told them I've got a new job.

@Getawaywithit I read @BaconAvocado post as a genuine thank you. I’m not entirely sure whether you’ve misread it as sarcasm or why this thread has you so riled. But I don’t think your recent post was warranted.

I’m sorry your situation was so difficult. But that’s not everyone’s story. Some people remain not working or work PT through sheer entitlement/ because they don’t expect to have to work and raise children. That’s entitlement through and through. To expect others to foot your lifestyle, when you have the education and support to work. So yes, I am up in arms at the prospect of anyone telling me I am morally obliged as a higher earner to part with even 1p of my hard earned money when my partners exwife (until recently) was incandescent at the prospect of being told to work.

And if my children have a higher quality of life than hers as a result of her choices vs mine, that is not my problem or issue to resolve for.

I mean if I was to reverse this and say ‘my partner and I are struggling financially. That’s impacting my children. His exwife has inherited family wealth. Does she have a moral obligation to ensure that my children have a quality of life similar to hers?’ I’m pretty sure I would be told I am being a CF to think any such thing and to wind my neck in. But now? If I find out the exwife cannot afford school uniform, I should step up and clothe the kids?

Fuck. That.

@Getawaywithit I too think @BaconAvocado response was a genuine thank you, she has done that to a few posters pointing out things she may not have thought of. Also though @Getawaywithit - there was a poster who said they did judge RPs working part time amongst other things - but I can't find it now sorry, but I'm certain it wasn't @BaconAvocado.

Op you've been reasonable and polite throughout the thread, I read it as a genuine thank you for a different perspective too.

Being fair to the OP she said all along the working hours of the kids mother is nothing to do with her just as her working hours are nothing to do with the mother. Which is as it should be! Parent pays a fair amount as maintenance based on what is affordable to them. That doesn’t change. Lots of people chipping in with personal situations and experiences but if you read the OPs posts she seems pretty reasonable. I believe if they go to uni it’s done as main household income so would include step parent income. Which does seem quite unfair but it’s the government trying to get away with paying the least possible isn’t it? Personally I think all students should be entitled to the same loan without any parental input since they are 18 and thus adults

She doesn't have any housing costs (the main chunk of the normal households expenditure) she gets paid more maintenance than she is entitled, she's known all year that at this time, like every year, uniform will be needed. She only works part time.

And yet her inability to budget or work harder for herself and her own children, means she's sniffing around your feet, at the fact you do work hard for your child...so you should just give her your cash. Obvs.

When you've stopped laughing, politely tell the entitled, grabby cow where to go.

And as several PP have said, ignore the first wives club. They're always here. Don't take it personally, it's not about you. You sound like a lovely person.