OH favouring his kids from previous relationships

[BobaFett86]

Am I being totally unreasonable here? My partner seems to think so! He has 2 kids by 2 different women. I think he keeps favouring his other kids above our 5 week old baby.
We broke up while I was 7 months pregnant because all we did was argue. He kept on prioritising his exes. They said jump, he said how high! He hasn't bought a single thing for our baby, yet has been giving his exes double the amount of expected child support.
We decided to get back together when our baby was born. But he still seems more concerned about his previous relationships/children. He arranged to have his kids for the weekend when our baby was just 2 days old, yet it wasn't even his weekend to have them! 5 weeks on, and he still hasn't given me a penny towards our baby. Yet I've had to give him money for travel fare so he can visit his other kids.
And now I am furious because this week I made plans with him to visit me and our baby (again, gave him travel fare money to make sure he could get here ok) and yet twice in 3 days, he has bailed on us, just so he can have his eldest daughter instead!! When I moaned at him about it, he accused me of trying to make him reject his daughter for my own gain!! And said that his ex 'needs' him to help her out with everything, even though she has a fiance who lives with her.
I also have a 4 year old from a previous relationship, and my OH always puts her down when she does something wrong. "My kids would never do that. I won't let you see them again because I don't want them picking up your bad behaviour" is a prime example of what he always says.
Apparently I 'cant handle' the fact that he has other kids. Am I in the wrong here?

[RepentAtLeisure]

By the way, the sons mum has 3 kids by 3 different dads.

You have two by two, and what seems like a very shaky relationship. If you meet someone in future and have another dc, will you want people calling you names? You really need to break out of this toxic mindset and grow up, you'll be much happier for it.

[BobaFett86]

I'm calling her the town bike because she jumps from one bloke to the next. She's had 5 boyfriends in the past year. I've had 5 boyfriends in the past 10 years.
I was single for 4 years after losing my partner. Then got with my current.

[CRazzyyAce]

You sound massively judgement and nasty I think you seriously need to grow up

[BobaFett86]

I think some people are just bitter about their exes moving on and pissy that they get less money. Not my fault.
My daughter is about to turn 5. I've raised her alone, with no financial help whatsoever. Palming her off to daddy when it suited me so I could go out and find the next bloke, that wasn't an option for me.
I can't help it if some women think it's fine for them to get a new life, but can't handle it when their ex moves on.
Thanks for the 'advice'. Obviously you all think I should be grateful for £20 a week child support to raise a child who rarely sees her father. While the exes get £50 a week and a babysitter on tap.
I'm done here. I'm off to get advice from my cats litter tray, as it's less full of shit. Bye.

[IzzyIsBusy]

Ha ha ha ha.

See you in 12 months when you are the ex and this star of a man has moved on.

[stitchglitched]

You have no business being round any kid whose mother you refer to as 'the village bike.' If I was her I'd fight tooth and nail to keep you away from my child.

[madgingermunchkin]

Still married here, so not post about my ex moving on or having to give me less money.

You're behaving as bad as he and his exes are, which is, quite frankly, like children. I feel desperately sorry for all the actual children involved in this sorry mess, as what chance do they have?

And now you're flouncing off because people are calling you out for being so childish.

[stitchglitched]

Oh and the irony of you calling her out for having 3 kids by 3 partners... the exact same amount as your boyfriend!

[RepentAtLeisure]

I wasn't bitter my ex moved on, I was thrilled! In the end I'd have paid him to go away.

And again, you're focusing on the wrong things. Women, women, women, ex's, ex's, ex's. It's not about them!! I really hope things work out for you, but life can be much easier and happier than you're allowing it to be. And chase your ex for maintenance for his child, be proactive.

[Fcukthetww]

My first ever LTB! He puts your 4yo down and doesn't contribute to the new baby? Get rid.

[SarcasmMode]

He's emotionally abusing your daughter.
He's emotionally abiding you.

Leave him.

1. you'll be well shot and
   
2. hell then give your child more attention.

[IzzyIsBusy]

Now wouldn't that be just awful....

Are you being satcastic or do you actually think the exes should recieve less for their children and that the OP should be happy?

[swingofthings]

The bottom line is you decided to have an unplanned baby with a man who came with baggage (by this I don't mean his children but everything associated with it) who you didn't know well. Now you are facing the consequences. I'm sorry that you are disappointed with his behaviour which I expect many saw coming but you have to accept your responsibility in the choices you've made. I suspect he didn't really want the baby and therefore not in a rush to bond with him.

[paxillin]

I think some people are just bitter about their exes moving on and pissy that they get less money.

I hate the bitter ex trope, it is so nasty. They are probably not bitter either, he's hardly father or husband of the year. Of course they want him to contribute to the kids. You and the exes have a different dad for each child, he has a different mum for each child. Pot calling the kettle black...

His middle child is 2, yours is 5 weeks old, so you, too moved fast, he must have seem a stellar catch. When he moves on to the next woman soon you will be "bitter" ex number 3, so best stop using this ugly word.

[Lunar1]

So by definition your dp is also the town bike. I thought someone with your moral superiority would chose a man a bit more wisely.

[eyebrowsonfleek]

Had a scan of the last few replies and they are spot on. Your child deserves better and it's your partner rather than the exes that you should be mad at. It sounds like he treats his exes better than his current partner so if you join the queue of exes, you'll probably find your life much better.

[CRazzyyAce]

She will be back complaining how his latest gfs pregnant and how she doesn't get money or time. She's all loved up and can't see past the end of her own nose she thinks she's superior to these women when she's ironically not.

[Stormtreader]

Oh, I get it. You want us all to agree that you're just essentially better than them, is that it?

[Oswin]

Meandmythree are you really that bitter? That you would take delight in these children having to receive 15 quid a week or less because these two eejits decided to have a baby.

Fuck me. You have the gall to call ex wife's bitter on here. Look at yourself.

These are children who are going to have less money for clothes and food because adults are shit.

Yet your happy about that.

Sort yourself out ffs.

[CRazzyyAce]

Meansmy3 has a pretty bad rep for treating step children with contempt and inferior to her precious three.

[IzzyIsBusy]

Meandmythree are you really that bitter?

I think i recognise this poster and if it is the same one she hated her DSD.

If i am wrong I apologise.

[Ninasimoneinthemorning]

Jesus ! What a catch. You both sound really suited.

You should all go on Jezza!

[IzzyIsBusy]

Oh she is the poster i was thinking of

Vile nasty attitude against a little girl. Saw her as second class against her precious boys.
Her posts actually made me feel sick.

[expatinscotland]

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