Honestly, this board is not a nice place

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Sick of goady fuckers, trolls and people coming to bash SM from all angles! Some of the "advise" is shocking. If you try it's "step back, not your kids!" But if you don't it's "you're cold and the kids know it". And god forbid you just have a rant that you can't in RL. I see the same posters with the same SM hating shite!

the outing of a poster's prev nn

Yes Fenton by the poster herself [rolleyes]. You missed it, I was just being chatty.

Didn't say it wouldn't work, just how badly it failed before, or at least the SPs using it saw it as a failure. It was clear that it was seen as some kind of victory by others of course.

And re Wakey, she gave me a hint, you named her - quite different.

Right I'm gong to take some very good advice and disengage.

It's confusing because no one ever gives a straight answer, they just moan about what meanies anyone who questions them is. It makes me wonder if deep down they realise how indefensible but is to say the things they do .

I gave a straight answer. I explained the type of language and attitude that IMO steps over the line and becomes attacking rather than challenging. I got "reprimanded" for referring to other threads when I did.

Funny, cos I was directly quoted from other threads earlier in this one - is that different? Why is that?

You seemed to think arsenic was being nasty to you, I thought she was just responding to you. Guess some of us are MUCH more sensitive than others.

Ain't that the truth? Sheesh

I disagree, Nicky.

Its not strenuously challenged because as parents we get it.

We understand that in the heat of the moment, that venting is needed. Might not like it, but understand how lifes strains and stresses can lead a person to react in a certain way.

Lifes too hard and complicated to sort everyone out with a few words of advice and an opinion.

I'm not rude, I don't name call, I don't swear at people. Let me tell you though that has been done to me repeatedly on this board. After my very first post on this board I was told to "piss off" called names and accused of being a long standing troll who name changes to persecute SM. On other threads I have been called vile names and my relationship with my extremely abusive ex has been brought into it (despite me not mentioning it on that thread , they'd gleaned it from other posts of mine). Those posts have unsurprisingly all been deleted but I do wish I could show them to you. Far worse has been done to me on this board than I have ever done to any of you.

And re Wakey, she gave me a hint, you named her - quite different.

Hint? Is that what you call it? Really? Coupled with endless details of incredibly specific backstory/legal battle posted under both NNs?

I never spot NCs. I spotted this one months ago. If I did, everyone has.

This is like being back in the infant playground. I give up.

All be as negative as you like.

Of course I would challenge that if I saw it why would you think I wouldn't?I also know that on all other MN boards it would be strenuously challenged too.

Well, if you can allow us to talk amongst ourselves here on SParenting for a few days, perhaps you could give the same level of attention to the other parenting boards as you have here recently?

They're clearly in need of you, as that kind of post isn't being challenged at the moment, so your trust in other posters to do so in your absence is misplaced.

If I called by DSD a thieving little bitch, or drunken whore, or my DSS a lazy, bone idle idiot" you wouldn't feel compelled to challenge me? Because those are the type of phrases that have been used by parents, grandparent, nannies and even teachers on other boards.

Wakey come off it.

How do you think you sound? Reasonable?

Far worse has been done to me on this board than I have ever done to any of you.

That is true. The members you were rude and abusive to on those deleted threads were removed by MN. They haven't bothered to rejoin using a different nickname.

Nicky

To you, you are not rude. To others, you are.

Its an opinion. That's all.

Some posters very cleverly sail very close to the wind and just stay within talk guidelines. And brag about it.

Not big, not clever.

You really wont right all the wrongs here.

These problems all over the boards have been going on since time began and it wont change.

No one has challenged it all? Not one person has said it isn't ok to talk like that about people? Perhaps it's true, I'd like to see some links (via PM perhaps?).

It's actually laughable that you are using the argument "well other people do it too!" to justify saying the things that get said on here

Wakey you are lying. I have not sworn or been abusive to any poster but that has been done to me. Before one particular thread was deleted it had numerous deletions on it and I think ONE of them was mine.

My thoughts are if you have to lie. Then I have happily managed to keep the moral high ground and that's always a good place to be

Wakey are you saying the posters who were banned after the deleted thread were harder-done-by than Nicki is?

I'm highlighting that your disgust at how uniquely dreadful the Stepboard is only reveals that you spend a disproportionate amount of time here, and if you were as active on all boards, then you'd be clutching your pearls at those, too.

mrsvamos said it better than me

"Some posters very cleverly sail very close to the wind and just stay within talk guidelines. And brag about it."

The bragging about it is a particularly nasty touch.

That is true. The members you were rude and abusive to on those deleted threads were removed by MN. They haven't bothered to rejoin using a different nickname.

A PBP isn't allowed to rejoin 'using a different nickname'

I didn't say that its OK because others do it. Please don't twist my posts.

I can see that you are so certain you are right and you know best, that there is no point trying to discuss anything with you.

Feel free to do an advanced search on me. For the last six months. You'll find I am far more active on other boards. Please stop bending the truth lying to back up your argument. We both know you're doing it and it's become tedious to deal with now.

I think this thread just fell down a rabbit-hole.

A PBP isn't allowed to rejoin 'using a different nickname'

A lot of things in life "aren't allowed". Doesn't mean it doesn't happen

Where have I twisted your posts? Please quote.

Agree arsenic

it's become tedious to deal with now.

Well, noones forcing you to post. I'm finding this quite stimulating as a debate - no insults, minimal swearing - so much more civilised than some MN bunfights, don't you think?

A lot of things in life "aren't allowed". Doesn't mean it doesn't happen

Well of course, but I don't understand what your point was.