I hate my step kids!

[Tappergirl]

They live with us full time, are parasites, and have ruined my relationship with my husband. Now though, I blame it on him for being spineless and taking every spat as my fault. I dont want to walk away but I can not see another option :-(

(like the one above me)
not quietly, with whom I crossposted, but onesie

basgetti I think you may have misunderstood the context of the SM bingo thread. It was suppose to be lighthearted relief for SMs but instead got sabotaged by a poster, who herself acknowledged she wasn't on the right thread for her posts.

You are right Boomeranggirl my contribution adds nothing and is not in keeping with the tone or purpose of the thread so apologies.

This confirms my suspicions that there are double standards going on here. SMs aren't allowed to joke about their situation at all, in fact they aren't suppose to have any kind of opinion.

She did not "sabotage" the SM bingo thread at all. She made perfectly valid points that were relevant to her and was met with hostility because she wasn't toeing the "picked on step mother" ethos of the thread. She was nothing but polite as far as I could see.

I disagree. It was suppose to be a jokey thread not a serious debate. If she wanted to seriously discuss her situation she could have started a new thread. even when asked politely to start a new thread she didn't.

I have sympathy for her situation btw. I think she is holding things together well and seems to be trying her best for her kids so I'm not attacking her perspective.

I didn't misunderstand anything, I just don't think an unwelcome contribution on a thread is a licence to bully. Some of the responses to her were absolutely cruel. And to be fair even before she joined the thread it didn't really seem all that 'lighthearted.'

The word "sabotage" implies that there was malicious intent to her posting and there wasn't at all. You just don't like anyone not toeing the line on your whiny thread.

Oh and you made her feel so bad bullied that she name changed to "hide " from you all.

Oh and your point because she wasn't toeing the "picked on step mother" ethos of the thread proves my point that SMs are not allowed to joke or moan about their situation.

You can moan as much as you like, what isn't right to do is justify the bullying of a poster who didn't agree with you and was trying to contribute her point of view and recent painful experience, by labelling her contribution "sabotage", because it wasn't. Anyone can read the thread and see that.

Oh and you made her feel so bad bullied that she name changed to "hide " from you all.

How exactly did I do that when I didn't even post on that thread .

Others on the thread did, you know full well I meant posters on the thread generally.

Anyone can read the thread and see that.

We will have to agree to disagree on that one.

The thread still stands I believe and the poster in question was perfectly polite throughout. She just didn't agree with posters on the thread so they attacked her. I am sure anyone who cares to make up their own minds.

Anyone with an ounce of compassion will read that thread and wince. It was bloody awful.

She didn't have to agree with them, as I said she had perfectly valid points. But she didn't have to keep posting over and over again the same points to drag the thread down. She posted her point of view, people disagreed, she countered. End of, let them get back to their thread. Which she herself said she would do but didn't.

As an aside, why are you lurking on this board if you think the threads are 'whiney'.

Where did I say the "threads are whiny"? I said THAT thread was whiny.

I'm pretty sure I can look, lurk, read and post anywhere I want on the board can't I? It's a funny thing too, that you can't know the way a thread is going until you open it and have a look.

Anyone with an ounce of compassion will read that thread and wince. It was bloody awful.

Not sure I agree there either. I've read the whole thread and I thought wakey's posts were insightful and well supported.

Well that will be where the compassion kicks in won't it? Maybe you haven't got much?

Nicki my apologies, I should have said thread not threads. of course you can lurk/read/post wherever like, I just don't understand why you'd want to if the thread annoyed you?

I'm pretty sure I have the same amount of compassion as most people. I just have a different point of view.

Because like I said already, how can I know that it annoys me until I have read it? And yes, it always annoys me to see bullying but I am afraid I am not one to just shut the thread down and pretend I didn't see it.

Well as you said previously, I guess we will just have to agree to disagree on that.

FWIW I think that the OP is very wrong in blaming her step kids. Calling them parasites is completely unacceptable in my book. They sound like they've had to deal with so much in their young lives, they don't deserve to be in a situation like this. My heart goes out to them.

Anyway back to our debate Nicki are you a step mum? Genuine question, not being snarky or anything.

I don't my current relationships on here I am afraid due to having a stalkerish ex.

I don't discuss