support thread for the going to be starting school or at school thread lol

[bubblagirl]

thought maybe as there is a pre school thread maybe we could have a going to be starting school or at school thread all welcome really

but we are waiting for our re written proposed statement to turn up tomorrow hoping all is going to be as we need it this time

im really nervous and anxious about him starting school bubblaboy my 4 yr old with HFA for all who may not know me

he had induction today but his sound sensitivity was played up with singing time so may have to ask if he can sit outside of the group with support when he starts and introduced to it gradually as at the moment he dont like big school dont want to go and doesn't like the singing so would hate for that to be what ruins his joy of going to school every day

anyway i'm of for now so chat amongst yourselves and i'll check in later or tomorrow depending whether all settles in our household at reasonable time

I'd like to join although I'm in NZ so post at funny times. My DS2 is due to start school in July. He has speech disorder and ASD traits.

The system is weird here and its very vague what support (if any) he will get. At the moment we've been doing lots of visits and he spends most of the time at the back playing with lego. Occasionally he joins in.

I hate watching it. There are a couple of very bright kids who recite the alphabet, spell words and are generally so interested and model-student. DS is not even vaguely up there with them. Makes me .

The good thing is that its a small class and the teacher is very experienced.

Do you know your school bubblagirl? Whats it like?

Hi my son is 4.5 and starting school in september, waiting for proper diagnosis, at moment ive been told attachment disorder/seperation anxiety, (got another assessment with CAMHS on monday) also dreading the transition going on how bad it was to get him into preschool last september

good thing is his class teacher is a SENCO and she has two assistants and only 14 pupils in the reception class, doesnt stop me worrying though,lol

oh and he has a medical condition that requires monitoring and tablet taking

hi guys shell i only went to his school today but so far all seems ok providing his statement well the re written one when it arrives has his correct needs in it i think he'll do ok the class is quite large 20 odd children but with help he should cope will take him a while but im hopeful att he moment

scary time for us all isnt it knowing our children are so different but lets hope we c an get the correct help then there differences will not stand out so much

brandy hope you get dx soon so you know where you are with the help required

will write more tomorrow off to bed nice and early before bubblaboy wakes in the night

nice to meet you both feel free to use this thread as you please x

ds starts P1 at his new school in August, we went the other day for a wee meeting with all involved while ds spent an hour in what will be his class.
the 2 support workers propped him up on cushions to read him a story and generally made a fuss of him, he was "chatting" away to one of the other pupils and a wee girl came over and was kissing and cuddling him.
all was going fine till the bell rang and he nearly jumped out his skin but they gave him a wee cuddle etc and he was fine.
i picked up his uniform (v. cute) and hes going back in a few weeks for the full day

DS2 starts Reception in September

We have all the reports/letters in ready for the statement, just waiting for the date of it. I feel sick to the stomach whenever the postman comes (usually I'm excited as he is quite fit )

DS2 currently goes to SN nursery in the morning 5 days a weekand MS nursery 3 (4 from next week) afternoons a week. He sees the MS school as a free play thing, doesn't do much learning, but he can write his own name if he traces over it. He never fails to impress me.

@ the fit postman!

Oh I'd like to join too please. Have spent many a night worrying myself stupid over DS starting school. We have deferred him til January (sigh of relief emoticon) but I am still really nervous lol!

He was so bad starting playschool 18 months ago that I dread starting school. He has no statement (doesn't need it) but I can't help but worry that his little differences will become more noticeable when he becomes more anxious.

Would love to see how all your lo's get on, will be sending them all good luck vibes, xx

nail biting here to ds due to start september in ms less get the sn school despartley want , goes to panel in the next 3 weeks

im scared silly with it all thought my baby going to big school and thinking how on earth will he cope looks so litle next to others.Though lol if call him baby he signs back not a baby

Oh good - there are lots of us. Helps me to think I'm not alone. I know our school quite well as DS1 been there for nearly 2 years so I know lots of parents.

I'm already 'over' the sympathetic looks I've been getting (had to carry DS2 in one day as refused to walk) and the nice/concerned comments and the endless 'oh but he'll catch up' responses.

Makes me sound horrible I know, but no-one really knows what its like to be leaving your beloved little one in such a big scary place. All those big 10 year olds! And I'm worried he'll get lost at lunchtime... its a bit of a maze.

Good luck for SN school Phoenix.

lol riven shouldn't laugh but just shows how close they must get bless em really glad your dd has such positive reaction at school

ds im glad will be in same class as some of the boys he already knows in a way i'm glad as the boy who is nt but severe behavioral problems is in same class they have gone pre school and ds actually likes him but they keep them apart as much as dont want bubbla boy copying the bad behavior

but i was thinking to myself last night might be a mean thought but made me feel relieved that this boy will take away any attention that may be on bubblaboy otherwise making him appear to be different as this boy will be the one the other parents may see as the distraction not bubbla boy i know that may be mean but in a way it brings me comfort

this other boy is sweet but really is so naughty terribly naughty swears, hits , wont listen does what he wants so at least my ds wont be the only one but he isn't nasty and he doesn't swear he may do but he hasn't the correct speech sounds lol also his more the quiet type the other boy does high pitch screams to get attention so im kind of taking comfort on his first weeks he wont be "look theres that autistic boy who disrupts the whole class"

it should be theres that sweet little boy who has extra help lol

and possibly the little boy who disrupts song time lol

im nervously waiting to see if my re written proposed statement turns up today everyone let us know how you all get on

phoenix i need that crate bottles glass of wine soon

me to going be long 3 weeks though am of on holiday to somerset for week tomorrow

glittery glad they made huge fuss of ds bet he will be so spoilt lol he'll love school

5inthebed make sure you check your statement really well and phone some help lines and get part 2 and 3 checked over as this was where we needed re write whole of part 3 they used big words that meant shite to be honest scuse the use of that word but its true
when it turns up
go through all reports and highlight all the needs and difficulties and make sure part 2 has all these as part 3 will follow on from difficulties in part 2 if somethings missing then part 3 wont have it and make sure there wording is clear

anyway wont worry you too much on that right now lets hope your lea do there work properly

barmymummy it is such a worrying time when at the school yesterday i felt slightly better i think school could be good for them well ds anyway he'll be tested more with his brain he needs that
glad your ds was put back slightly gives you longer to prepare him if he doesnt know the school get you ask for photos of his teacher and classroom and school so you can use them daily in getting him used to the school

shells what sort of help is provided where you are does your ds get any 1-1 at all?

oh lovely phoenix that'll be really nice lets hope it is relaxing for you and you can forget about the stresses of home lol haven't got room for one more have you lol i want to run away from it all just for little while lol

have a really great time will you have internet access at all? i can chew your ear off on your hols

i hope my statement turns up today so i can tell you what is says

yep lol addict that i am cant be without the internet got to be able do mn when ds declars morning at 3am

true yeah oh good at least if it dont turn up today you can still be one of the first to know how it goes when it does turn up

its here aAAARRGGGHHH going to open it now hold my hand

i'm shaking

offers hands and has glass of something ready

forgets about packing meh kids can wear same outfits all week , will just dip them in sea daily

they gave him 3 extra hours and this again isnt enough to implement help at lunch he needs 30 hrs for lunch and play help and they havent mentioned 1-1 at all again

im so unhappy this is so confusing his got 23 hrs its not enough if he has lunch help it leaves 18 hrs in class room help its just not enough its still as vague as last time

oh it says close adult supervision doesnt state a 1-1 could just be teacher watching from a distance couldn't it at lunch play pe and school trips