support thread for the going to be starting school or at school thread lol

[bubblagirl]

thought maybe as there is a pre school thread maybe we could have a going to be starting school or at school thread all welcome really

but we are waiting for our re written proposed statement to turn up tomorrow hoping all is going to be as we need it this time

im really nervous and anxious about him starting school bubblaboy my 4 yr old with HFA for all who may not know me

he had induction today but his sound sensitivity was played up with singing time so may have to ask if he can sit outside of the group with support when he starts and introduced to it gradually as at the moment he dont like big school dont want to go and doesn't like the singing so would hate for that to be what ruins his joy of going to school every day

Do you know anyone else in your position with a SN child? Maybe there's some sort of support group? Or maybe your therapist can let you know if there are other families?

Its so crap for you.

sorry haven't been ignoring forgot to check sorry that its not working out with the school lets hope something comes up soon

well we haven't heard anything back yet regarding statement so presume it'll be a re write i saw my friend today who had 5 re writes before it was acceptable so i hope this will be it

good luck if i come across anything else i will send links you never know something may or may not be of use

not sure if any use

here also again not sure if help

thank you BB, all these links are really helpful as they don't come up when you do a search here. It's amazing how controlling things are here, they even blocked sites like tesco, I was trying to order some vitamins for relatives to bring for the kids and it was blocked!!!

We are going to a parents evening tomorrow night to a new British schoool which is opening up outside town. We have decided that despite the 40minutes there and 40 minutes back journey if they are willing to hire an assistant for DS, we will go for it. Although they provide school transport, I am not sure he will be ok on his own to do such a long journey. DS's therapist tells us that he should not be sent to a SN school as he will pick up negative behaviour and he does not belong there as his only problem at the moment is social, not having enough speech to initiate contact and not really knowing how to make friends. We are not facing any behavioural problem for which I thank ABA based therapy (I have to say our son is a completely different child compare to what he was in January before starting the therapy).

Shells, we have been to a support group which was mainly locals and whose children attends excellent SN schools based on ABA, but not for non-nationals. Only SN school which takes on non-national was just not suitable for his needs (it's mostly children with physical disabilities who require 24hours attention, not language based). So our only option is mainstream school with extra support. We have put in at least 4 applications, hopefully one of them will look beyond his label.

just caught up witheveryone and bubblagirl forget crate glassof wine at this rate were going ned -crate-- glass of something even stronger,

tiredmummy

yep know that no sleep and sorry things so hard on the school front

phoenix where have you been ive missed you whats happened we would have had crate anyway whats happened

did you have good time away its been weird not hearing from you lol

oops done it wrong lol would have been crate anyway phew that was hard work lol

did not get away dd was poorly she was in hospital came home >THen day before holiday foot swelled up so we had long week staying in hosie no Holiday but company have agreeed to give us week when shes well.

but was a argh no internet missed you lot here keep me sane lol well ok halfway cant expect you lot work mircals

Ug nothing happing here head of Lea is away and so is case worker not herd owt from meeting though ment go panel this week or next over school.

you herd anything back yet?

oh goodness sorry to hear that you didnt get away thought lack of internet usage was to much alcohol fun

nothing heard as yet but they are probably doing another re write so will see what they have to offer

well i hope your all on the mend now good to have you back

im not doing well with the crossing out today i'll try again thought your lack of internet usage was too much alcohol fun

well bubbla boy had another school induction today fully prepared him that id have to leave the school bought someone in to help him made sure he was aware i wasn't staying

it was only just over an hr today but he did really well didnt want to stop running when had outdoor time and didnt want to go back in but gradually edged nearer the helper and did go back and in and managed to sit and listen to story im so proud of him

well done Bubblaboy

thanks phoenix it was such a relief i really didnt want to leave him alone but im glad he was ok

are you ok now? is family ok? x

yes thank you dd is loads better fngers crossed back in school next week shes a mini dynmo.

Still waiting on hereing from the Lea seems my case worker and the Lea bigwig had meeting with have both gone on annual leave and no one else has a clue lol typical Lea

glad all is well

hope lea get back to you soon fingers crossed hopefully we'll both get what we need and want this time round

you should get the school you chose anyway i will probably have to fight more im staying negative then i wont be so disappointed when it does turn out to be crap lol

nah think im going come a cropped just found out local ms have got a non verbal child starting this year a little girl with down syndrome ,so think this is going to shoot most my reasons for why I want sn school ,speech and laungage unit at another ms school wont take him as hes to sever and they dont take with Ld either

Fingers crossed your hear back soon,just takes so dam long

oh no well i'll keep everything crossed for you

Hi everyone, good to get your updates. We've been doing school visits. Most kids here do 2 visits before starting on full days. DS however, has already done 10 and will probably do another 5 or 6! Its good really as it means the teacher gets the measure of him.

Less good is that I found out yesterday they'd put him in 'time out' for not joining in any activities. I've watched him try and engage (reading/writing/maths etc.) and its just way above his head so of course he's bored and doesn't want to do it.

I've made an appt to see teacher next week as its too hard to talk when I pick him up. I'm hoping she'll start to see that he needs extra support and just popping him at the back of the class is not going to work.

its good his getting extra time id be if they timed him out for not joining in

could you do a personal passport for the school i did one for ds

it has all about him in his words so for eg

i try to join in but struggle without support

i get upset when im told off for not joining in when i find it really hard without support

i dislike getting told off for copying others behaviour when the other person isnt told off and im not being naughty on purpose

i done full personal plan on communication, social skills, toileting needing prompting to go etc,sensitivities but its all written as if child is speaking maybe this would give better insight to your ds

Think I will pinch that idea Bubblagirl for ds

I really like that idea Bubblagirl. Do the teachers respond well to it? I'm never sure how much info they want from me.

why not i found it really beneficial gave it to school all staff read it they were more aware of his needs when he went in for induction

it explains all from his angle so if im frustrated im best left in quiet corner do not keep talking to me just leave me in safe place for 5 mins to calm down

the fact his name needs to be called before he'll respond , doesnt like story time needs support, prompt dependent, will always so no needs to be asked 2-3 times before he really gets whats asked , anything and everything was written in

its a good thing as easy to read by anyone not knowing your child and gives great insight

to be honest i would give as much info as possible the teacher responded really well and said i read your little book bubbla boy and so have my staff and they understand him more than i could try and explain and sometimes seeing it written down it goes in better than someone trying to get every problem out verbally

but i was also able to get the consequences of his behaviour how he may react how to deal with that so its more knowledge to them and less distress with them dealing with him all wrong they can also understand what may have triggered behaviour and what to do next it was just peace of mind to know they had this to refer to