support thread for the going to be starting school or at school thread lol

[bubblagirl]

thought maybe as there is a pre school thread maybe we could have a going to be starting school or at school thread all welcome really

but we are waiting for our re written proposed statement to turn up tomorrow hoping all is going to be as we need it this time

im really nervous and anxious about him starting school bubblaboy my 4 yr old with HFA for all who may not know me

he had induction today but his sound sensitivity was played up with singing time so may have to ask if he can sit outside of the group with support when he starts and introduced to it gradually as at the moment he dont like big school dont want to go and doesn't like the singing so would hate for that to be what ruins his joy of going to school every day

Bubbla, my DS is 4.2. He has settled in well at school, we have had 3 weeks and only one day he had a little cry as he wanted to come back home. I am not sure he is making any friends yet as he does not really talk about school or mention anybody's name. I am not sure if he knows the name of anybody yet. His teacher is making an effort to talk to him directly and he is listening to her and the TA, but I am not sure yet if he is learning anything there.

Good to hear that your DS is playing with his friend, my DS did that at the last play date and made us very proud.

Have finally put picture of ds an dd up taken his first day.

Glad everyone is settling into school .Tiredmummy of 2 my ds is only 4.2 as well one of the youngest in the year

We nowhave lunch time sorted so I can finally hve time to myself .Have ameeting ith thenew salt tomorrow m going to be pushing for ACC since it is now accepted that ds is not going to tak am taking copy of report in just in case .And top of the good news we have got a 2 day assement at Ican to help woith receptive delay also going to belooking at theschool as a option for wen ds is older even though would mean a move for all of us

Phoenix, good to hear things are settling down. We are trying to push for DS to have one to one support as well, but we will have to pay for it (we were expecting this as it's a private school). The school is looking actively from what I hear, so hopefully we will get somebody soon. We will then have to arrange for DS's SALT to train that person. DS seems to like school, every morning he is quite happily putting on his school uniform, carrying his own bag. His SALT says she is worried that with somebody like DS who has no behavioural or sensory problem, the school will leave him to one side and not bother to include him. I have already asked for a going home book, don't know how I make sure he is participating as I can't stay with him, he will definitely start misbehaving if I do (thinks mummy will protect him from everything). He is not suited for a special need school as apart from speech delay he does not really have any other issues at the moment. How do we ensure he is learning like all the other children at school? Can I really trust the school that much?

Sorry, I did not complete my last post. DD is refusing to go to nursery at the moment, so got distracted by her cry. Although the school seems nice, DS's SALT seems concern about his education there. She doesnot think he is learning from his environment (this is the same salt telling us that he has no learning difficulties), think he will benefit from intensive speech therapy for another year and then start school. It has taken us long to find a good school and DS seems quite happy there. We want him to go to school and then have therapy in the afternoon as he needs that social interaction. Oh, it's so confusing, I can't help thinking DS's SALT is saying that because she has opened up this new centre and wants more clients. She defintely did not say it before this new speech centre was sorted. Sorry for the rant, we just don't know what we should do.

how much therapy would he getthough from her..

were gettig fair bit of input from slat and specialist teacher to help his class teacher and Lsa ,learn how to teach him as quite understandly having a child that can not talk and has a receptive delay as well as mld is differnt kettle of fish to them .The non verbal side being the hardest.

hat about givng it to xmas then yu will have som idear of how it is going ?.How old is ds school mornings therapy afternoon does sound good comprimise its done me world of good see how ds class mates are accepting hm

you are so right phoenix, it is really nice to see how his other classmates are so fond of him, some of them are nearly mothering him at the momemt. If he goes to the centre he will get 6 hours intensive therapy a day. If he goes to school he will get 2-3 hours a day. If he goes to school, then it becomes a 9-10 hours a day for him (poor DS). At the moment his SALT is going to school with him everyday and trying to put things in place for him. Problem is centre is all special need children, so he will not get the interaction with NT kids and there is no guarantee that next year he will be able to go back to the school he is in at the moment because of school place shortages in UAE. It's really good idea to wait till x-mass to see how things go, he is settled, we don't really want to interupt that.

I can see how the school must be finding it difficult for your DS, what type of things are they setting up for him? Is he going to get extra lessons for different things?

Hi everyone,
I thought I'd bump this as the end of the year is nigh and it would be good to hear how everyone's DCs are doing.

DS has now been at school since July. He's only had 2 days off. The toileting accidents are slightly reduced. He went on stage in the school play as a seagull (!!). Has learned to count to 20 and is starting to learn some letters. I'm totally thrilled.

Less good is the social stuff. Hasn't really connected with the other kids and in fact tends to call them 'boy' or 'girl'. One little boy we invited home and he really only wanted to play with DS1 (who is 8) and anyway, DS2 totally ignored him. So I need to work harder on all that stuff.

He's totally exhausted and desperate for a break. He starts back in February (long summer break here) with a new teacher. Don't know who yet. And no doubt we'll start all over again...

Thought I'd add my message here. I am really in two minds with ds2 and school. Sometimes I think I should pull him out and home-ed him but other times he comes out having baked something in 'food tech' and is really happy. I was talking to him this morning about the things he enjoys at school and he said food tech, lunch, playtime, French and something else that I've forgotten. So that's not bad... and school were very positive about implementing recommendations from the OT's report so I know he's at a much better school than some.

I just worry that my little boy, who is really quite enthusiastic and wants to learn, is getting miserable about having to sit down and do what he's told and write everything down (which he hates as he's no good at it) and remember to put everything in his bag when he comes out of the class and so on. I suppose it's all stuff he'll have to learn at some point but I do wonder if it might be better later rather than now when we're dealing with so many other things, most especially the incontinence. I feel overloaded, let alone ds2. Dp has even said if ds2 wasn't happy we should take him out, but if I really said I was going to do it I am not sure dp would be so keen.

Last night when ds2 woke up as usual, he came downstairs looking so miserable and when I asked him what he was sad about he said 'I always have to put things away when I've finished with them'. What a thing to be worried about in the middle of the night! It really reminded me how much is a struggle for him, but I don't know what to do for the best.

Hi MamanCochon. I feel for you. Poor little DS. My DS hates the putting things away too and can't bear to do handwriting (finds it too hard).

I'm not in a position to homeschool but there are some other mums on here who have (even if just for a year) and haven't regretted it.

Do the teachers understand that he is stressed out?

Hi thanks for your answer Shells. I'm not sure if the teachers know he is stressed. As I said, they were very keen to implement the OT's suggestion but I feel a lot of it is aimed at helping him to fit in to the school rather than helping him to achieve his potential iyswim. Maybe I should talk to them again - and dp too, to further sound out his feelings on homeschooling.

hi sorry haven't been back tot his thread for ages so far so good ds is still coming on leaps at school his learning to read and recognises a lot of words now, he has made lots of friends and they all love him thank goodness apart from 1 lad and thats because he doesn't want to share friends with my ds

sensory issues have not been such an issue only few compared to what he would normally have i see him chatting to other children and sits with them and shares a book first thing so overall his doing fab and school are really proud of him

MamanCochon could he have a pic check list in his pocket so he can look at that and remember as he sounds like his doing so well it would be a shame to take him out of that environment as socially he appears to be doing really good and the structure of school seems to work well too

if its just the putting away etc this is a skill he will unfortunately have to get used to and maybe a pic check list may be able to relieve some of that pressure for him my ds is expected to put things away and tidy up after himself at school get his bags and coats and lunch boxes etc his 4 but providing over everyhting else his getting on fine that what counts to me his going to always have struggles but my main thing is he fits in socially for now the rest will come the more they do it the easier it will become

its finding ways in between to make it easier for them

shells, so glad to hear your ds is also doing really well maybe the school could do name games with your ds and few other children at a time this was how my ds learnt there names but at least his acknowledging another child iyswim he sounds like his coming on great it tires my ds too at school but i make sure he has his me time when he gets home but so far no real worries with him he still wont poo on toilet but have on 2 separate occassions got him to do it so its a small step

do keep writing how there doing xx

Lovely news Bubbla. I have been wondering how your DS is doing. I haven't seen any news from Phoenix for ages.

DS will have a new teacher in February so I'm thinking that I'll try and have a word with her before the end of this year and plant the seed about social stuff so maybe she can prepare some ideas.

could you prepare the personal passport to be passed onto new teacher via senco well in advance so she can already be well aware of his needs before he starts, maybe even put in some ideas such as social games etc and ways you help him

to be honest i haven't been on mn for ages and haven't been able to catch up with anyone for ages so will make more effort to log on lol

bumping up see how everyones doing now first term is overand there all getting ready to go back to school

We are having a urgent statement review for ds and are looking at change of placement .

Hi everyone, just wanted to pop on here and say hi because DS starts school tomorrow. He goes part time for the time being, 8.45-11.30. Am feeling alot more positive about him starting school than I was back in July so fingers crossed he does ok.

Will come back and let you know how he did.

Have scanned over the recent replies on here and its really encouraging to see lots of children getting on well

Phoenix - what has happened to need to statement review and placement change?

Hi Barmymummy

Good luck with ds starting school

theres a post on it but gist of it is rubbish lsa , teacher cant cope and school struggling and there admitting it head also wonders if right place for ds and i`m thinking the same.He does have kids that are good with him but now there all settled in ds is being more left out the gap is growing

Am looking at schools with S&l units also considering a hous emove if can find the right school any pointers