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Primary school auties step into Christmas and the New Year - thread 8

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openupmyeagereyes · 09/12/2021 13:45

New thread.

This is the continuation of the thread for parents / carers of autistic children / children with additional needs. Most of us are parents of children in year 1 / year 2.

Links to old threads

Thread 1 - www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs/3080753-DS-with-ASD-starting-school-Sept-2018-I-am-feeling-overwhelmed

Thread 2 - www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs/3451020-Reception-auties-2018-19-thread-2

Thread 3 - www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs/3628263-Auties-transition-to-Year-1-thread-3

Thread 4 - www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs/3748449-Primary-school-Auties-into-2020-thread-4

Thread 5 - www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs/3953023-Primary-school-auties-summer-and-beyond-thread-5?pg=1

Thread 6 - www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs/4166833-Primary-school-auties-spring-2021-and-beyond-thread-6?pg=1

Thread 7 -
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs/4303826-Primary-school-auties-summer-and-the-new-academic-year-thread-7

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danni0509 · 01/03/2022 15:03

Obviously I’m not taking the piss with my comment seeing what’s happening in Ukraine.

You know me and my humour.

(Although I’m not actually joking about the ds and bunker situation!!)

openupmyeagereyes · 01/03/2022 15:16

Boris Johnson won’t let me go on holiday that made me chuckle!

I don’t know where this will end up. I think they need to provide Putin with a path out by gradually easing sanctions in response to a retreat and cessation of hostilities but I’m sure they’ve thought of that. I’m refusing to worry about a nuclear war on the basis I’m unlikely to survive and won’t know much about it.

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dimples76 · 01/03/2022 17:05

Danni your post cracked me up and I can totally relate to the bunker comment.

I have not spoken to DS at all about Ukraine and he has not said anything to me. I don't know whether to broach the topic with him. I think probably not. I just asked him if he had heard of Ukraine and he said not.

LightTripper · 02/03/2022 12:27

Yes OH was talking (not entirely jokingly) about going to see my parents who are outside London. I said if they drop a nuke on London I want to be right under it, not out in the countryside to die slowly of radiation poisoning! Luckily it hasn't occurred to the kids it might come to that (and I'm hoping we're being OTT in thinking of that scenario!).

DD has been asking quite a lot about the war and is indignant that we aren't sending soldiers in to help the Ukrainians. I've tried to explain why we don't but it's complicated even for grown ups isn't it? DS gets a bit scared/freaked out about it if we talk about it too much, so it's hard to get the balance right. I don't want to shut down DD's questions, but also there is no point scaring them or just making them as depressed as I am about the situation.

danni0509 · 02/03/2022 12:52

light Good to hear from you.

I knew nothing until this week. I hadn’t even heard of NATO. I’ve had quite a history lesson this week!

danni0509 · 02/03/2022 12:53

Anyone’s schools doing world book day? What are you dressing dc’s up as?

MagratLancre · 02/03/2022 13:09

They are not dressing up here but taking their favourite book in instead.
I am also doing world book day at work. So. Tired.

carriebradshawwithlessshoes · 02/03/2022 13:32

Hey all, back from hols now though been reading your posts whilst away so don’t think I’ve missed too much.

Well we were told on TUESDAY that they needed something quite specific for WBD (don’t want to be too outing.) Really could have done without it. DD managed to sort herself but I’ve struggled with DS. Also I just feel it’s pointless for him, he loves books but has no idea what WBD is and I don’t think will get at all the thing that I’ve made him. He won’t have a clue, won’t be able to talk about it and so on. Won’t be bothered at all. I feel like this a lot. Like last year they had to make and take Easter bonnets. That’s lovely, DD would have enjoyed crafting away but DS doesn’t give a hoot about a bloody Easter bonnet yet still I felt I had got to make him one. Just more work for me! Then not long after that the Head made some jokey comment about how all he did with it was waft it around. So why did I bother?? When DS moves to a SS I will be really interested to see if they still do all this crap or rather if they do will they have any more joy than what I have with getting DS to understand what he is supposed to be doing, do it and enjoy doing it! At the mo it’s just a headache I can do without!! I have no problem putting the effort in with all of these things if it matters to DS but when he couldn’t care less it just feels pointless.

Our week away was great, both DD and DS on great form! I kept DS on the low dose of stimulant adhd meds. He was a lot calmer but more importantly just a lot more emotionally stable, less meltdowns etc. It also meant I could focus more on DD and not have to give him my full attention.

Since we got back we have switched to the anti stimulant. He’s been very tired but it’s early days. I’m still not sure. School have nothing positive to say, just he is tired. I find it a funny one, I can totally see how if you calm a person down that should in theory improve listening, focus, attention etc. BUT if the upshot of that is they are really tired, we all know how that feels and makes you prone to feeling like you really just cannot be bothered with much which is how I think DS is at the moment. Just happy to chill and do nothing. Which is easier for me, of course, but not conducive to working/ learning. I’m not sure how that is countered really.

How did we do with the pancakes ladies?? I actually posted quickly on a pancake thread yesterday. Will your DC eat them?? I do not know what it is with me, I’m not a bad cook but I just cannot get the buggers right. Either mush, too thick, stuck to pan… disaster! Worst one was first year of covid, I must have had too much oil in cos I tossed it and the hot oil splattered all up my wrist and arm, it was agony! I had the scald for weeks!

Hope sleep is a bit better for Open and Danni.

dimples76 · 02/03/2022 13:44

On WBD DS's year group is going on a trip so they are going in, in uniform whilst the rest of the school dresses up. Then DS's year group is dressing up/down on Friday - they have said that they can dress up or wear something they like to wear for reading so I think that DS will be in PJs/comfy clothes. He might want to wear the Elsa dress but I just worry about tripping. They also have to take in their favourite book so DS will be taking in Flat Stanley.

I don't think that a nutritionist would be v impressed by DS's diet yesterday. He had 3 pancakes for tea with lemon and golden syrup. We have pancakes for breakfast a couple of times a month and DS is good at making the batter with me. When I was putting DD to bed DS helped himself to a Magnum and left the freezer open.

I am regretting volunteering to go on the school trip but on the last school trip I had safeguarding concerns and DS is excited.

openupmyeagereyes · 02/03/2022 20:06

Ds had another 3:30ish start today. He woke up with a blocked nose which happens though he has no cold. He hates it so always makes a fuss. I put snuffle babe on his chest tonight 🤞

Dh and I had pancakes for lunch yesterday, ds never eats them. I often use the drop scone recipe from the baby led weaning book, one of my other favourites is the gingerbread pancake recipe on the good food website 👌

School is not doing an event for world book day. Ds managed three hours this morning which was fantastic though I was starving as I’m doing IF and usually eat about 10/10:30ish.

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dimples76 · 02/03/2022 21:10

3 hours Open, that's great progress!

openupmyeagereyes · 02/03/2022 21:26

dimples it’s hard to know how much pressure they put on him. He’s still not keen to go in the classroom straight away when we arrive. How willing he is to go in tomorrow will be telling.

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danni0509 · 03/03/2022 06:53

open 3 hours is fab. I hope he keeps it up x I’m doing IF (12-6pm) I will have done 2 weeks on Sunday and have stuck to it so far, lost half a stone this past fortnight. Small drop in the ocean in comparison to what I still have to lose though. I had managed (somehow) to get up to 16stone. Furious with myself, I was 11 stone in 2020!

carrie I have ordered that book from Amazon. wrt pancakes, ds does eat them. I made him 2 with syrup and Nutella on and he wanted another. This is the YouTube video I used to learn to make pancakes a couple of years ago, best one I found and they are delicious.

dimples good luck for school trip.

magrat I hope you’re feeling less tired.

openupmyeagereyes · 03/03/2022 07:31

Which book is this, did I miss something?

12-6 is hardcore! But great weight loss danni. I usually do 10-6 depending on when I finish dinner.

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openupmyeagereyes · 03/03/2022 07:32

Good luck today dimples & Magrat

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carriebradshawwithlessshoes · 03/03/2022 08:13

Ha ha an adhd one open! Is that the window you eat or don’t eat????

Good luck also x

danni0509 · 03/03/2022 08:38

It was a book about adhd medications id messaged carrie about open I’m interested to read it as it’s all about all the different types available and case studies, it has some info about risperidone in there too and I think that’s what ds school is trying to get his CAMHS into prescribing hence why he wants to talk to them. (I don’t think they have rang them yet, no one has mentioned anything)

I must say I count the seconds down until 12. Im starving!
I don’t limit what I eat between 12-6 though, today I’ll have a cheese / cucumber wrap, walkers baked crisps, brunch bar and banana for lunch which feels like a banquet when I’ve gone 18 hours without food. Then I have cottage pie and veg for tea and a muller Greek yogurt and grapes for after.

carriebradshawwithlessshoes · 03/03/2022 09:09

I need to lose weight too so may join in this. Do you both weigh yourselves a lot or go by clothes??

Do you think you have put on weight since having kids???

I’m the worlds worst fluctuater, I’m 5 ft 6 but have ranged from an 8 to a 16. Currently a 12 but some trousers are getting tight. So action needs to be taken… felt quite big on hol. Have a size 10 dress I wore for my 40th only 5 years ago that I can’t zip up at all.

openupmyeagereyes · 03/03/2022 09:24

I eat between 10-6 and fast the rest of the time. I usually only do a 12-14 hour fast one day on the weekend though so I can make a nice breakfast for me and dh. The food I don’t miss really, though it is hard when I’m up super early with ds, but I really crave my morning latte. Black coffee isn’t the same.

I’m about a stone bigger than before I had ds. I’m not sure that I’d want to lose all that now I’m older but I’d dropped half a stone which I put back on after Christmas. I’m just more restricted and can’t just go out for a walk or to a class, I’m too tired to do it in the evening. I do generally do 8-9k steps a day, even if I don’t get out for a walk but I need to find the time to walk every day. Hard with ds & school.

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openupmyeagereyes · 03/03/2022 09:29

I do want to keep my weight down but I’m more interested in the health benefits of fasting.

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LightTripper · 03/03/2022 10:20

@carriebradshawwithlessshoes I'm so glad DS was doing well on his meds! I've heard some auties with ADHD saying their ADHD medication meant they could enjoy their autism in peace which I thought was a brilliant summary! :)

DS has requested pancakes for his birthday tea so I assume he must have liked them!

"Normal" dress up at our school for WBD thankfully (lots of friends seem to have book in a jar or make a 3D image from a book or something else that basically means parents doing crafting!) Luckily DC wanted to go as Peter and Susan from the Narnia stories, and I already had a cape and an old cardboard shield in the dressing up box from previous dress-up things, so it was low maintenance this year. DD liked it because it means she just wears her normal T-shirt and leggings that she always wears under her uniform, but with a cape on top instead of a dress!

carriebradshawwithlessshoes · 03/03/2022 10:21

Yes I get that. You do really well given your early starts as I find if I’m tired I just eat rubbish all day. For me it’s wine… I like a glass on an eve but is obviously calorific plus even one glass makes me that but tireder the next day hence more likely to eat rubbish.

Also WFH. At a desk all day with constant access to food! As opposed to the office where getting a snack involves leaving the building and trekking across a city to the nearest shop! Which also involves steps! How do you do so many steps a open if you are at home, or do you mean you and DS do lots of active things when he’s not in school?

Like today I’m wfh and busy so I’m at a desk. I’ll knock off when kids get home but they will want tea and will be tired etc. Often I find it gets to thurs and I’ve not left the house save for drop off and pick ups at school, or a quick dash to shops for something

danni0509 · 03/03/2022 10:34

carrie you need one of these 🤣

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carriebradshawwithlessshoes · 03/03/2022 10:44

I’m sorry I’m going to have to send you yesterday’s pancakes.

Be prepared to be jealous…

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carriebradshawwithlessshoes · 03/03/2022 10:45

Danni!! She looks very chilled get me one!!!!! 🤣🤣🤣