dimples I’m sorry your ds did that, when ds does things similar to that I’m in no way shocked or suprised but it doesn’t make it any less embarrassing. It makes you worry more for the future doesn’t it when they do things like that. That’s how I felt when ds was trying to suffocate my baby nephew with a pillow and trying to tip him out of his pushchair, ds had pure enjoyment on his face 
he obviously doesn’t understand the implications of such things but to see his utter delight did really concern me for the future.
Last thing you need for childcare purposes! 
I did hear from ds teacher yesterday morning by telephone, not so much about his hours, the conversation was more aimed at ds ‘significant emotional outbursts’ and this is the reason ds teacher wants to have a chat with his CAMHS consultant. Ds had had a 40 minute meltdown which ds teacher said was the most spectacular meltdown he’d witnessed and ds emotional outbursts are disproportionate to the event, what triggered this was the girl he is fixated (understatement!) with had to go for her salt session in school, they had given ds count down reminders, changed his visual timetable to reflect this and set up an activity which he loves to do, when said girl left for her appointment ds lost the plot and had to have half of the school to calm him down by all accounts, his teacher said it was frightening to watch and to be honest this is what I’ve been bloody telling them all along, it’s like he’s possessed! He is sick all over my house takes his clothes off runs around hitting anything and anybody including himself, bites himself pulls his own hair, he gives himself that petechaia (sp?) like the meningitis rash that doesn’t fade, his face is covered in it when he has his outbursts, he loses his voice from his screaming. His eyes take days for the blood shot to go. He gets extremely violent and It’s horrible to deal with. Nothing helps to calm him down.
Well this is what’s happening at school, for small things, (small to us, clearly not to him) but his reactions are extreme, so his teacher said all our usual strategies are not helping ds so they want to talk to CAMHS and see if they can suggest any specialist therapy beyond what they have already exhausted to help him deal with his emotions.
I did say I’m not happy for any more medication right now and that I would only use that as a very last resort.
I can’t blame adhd medication on this either as he’s always had meltdowns / tantrums on steroids.
I phoned CAMHS and they have arranged for ds consultant to contact his school, can’t complain about CAMHS to be fair, anytime I ring them they get straight onto it!
Regarding his hours, he said he understood my email, didn’t think I was rude, could see I was frustrated and he has a meeting with the headteacher on Monday and will update me after that. He said he had planned to have ds until 2pm at some point this term. (Not buying it to be honest) but we will see.
Talking of the girl he is fixated with, do you know what ds has done?! Changed his surname to hers. So on all his school work he is writing his first name, her last name. 🤣 his teacher told me this and has sent me a piece of work home with it on. I asked ds about it and he said that’s my last name now. Wtf.