I can't do this anymore.

[Pinkjenny]

I have officially come to the end of the line with co-sleeping. Last night dd didn't go to sleep until 10.35pm, despite being exhausted and me having been lying on the bed with her since 7.45pm. She continued to wake through the night, on and off, and consequently has gone to nursery in a very bad mood.

She is full of cold, and has a bit of a cough, but when I went downstairs with her at 9.25pm to beg dh for help so that I could eat my dinner, she was actually laughing and smirking, so I refuse to believe that she is feeling that unwell.

I have to get her sleeping properly. She is 14mo.

I have had enough. Please help me.

your message brought back memories!! my bb didn't sleep on his own all night till he was approx 2 1/2 and it nearly killed me! i did co sleeping cos i was bf and my husband was working away from home. we tried everything and nothing worked so in the end we slept for short periods on the floor next to his bed. if he woke in the night we took him back and did the same again. its sounds horrendous but it did work and he started sleeping through after about 2 weeks. i think the key is to get her to settle at bedtime first which i know is easier said than done but you have to think of yourself. cc is awful but it does generally work if you can stick with it. good luck

like YYL we also went cold turkey, used the book healthy sleep habits, healthy child. explains that its not fair to you or you child when your both sleep deprived. our son screamed his head off the first night, and i desperately wanted to go get him, so my husband played the "bastard" and stopped me till DS was asleep. I was so angry, but DS slept till the morning, and now we have maximum 5mins whining every night then a fab night sleep from 6.30/7pm till morning. Use your husband, it sounds like he would be great at this! Leave him in control of sleep time for a week, let him institute routine, supper, bath, story, bed with fave teddy, leave her till she's asleep. Get out for an hour so you don't hear the crying for first couple of days. After the first week take it in turns to do bedtime, then move it earlier till your doing it yourself at 7ish even when DH is at work. After a week of fab sleeping you can get a babysitter and go out to celebrate and rekindle the romance! Just don't give in those first few nights, its so worth it, and your daughter will be so much sunnier with a decent night's sleep