new 'SLEEP IS FOR THE WEAK' thread

[tibsy]

hi ladies, the other one ran out of space, so if no one else starts a new thread, here it is....

Thanks for your words everyone. Had a few tears today and DH has listened. I feel bad for slagging him off because he is good in so many ways. We moved house (to a shit pit) a week before DD was born and he's been toiling making it habitable so he is working hard at what he knows best and is being torn in lots of directions. I just get so frustrated at not being able to do anything myself. I'm just so used to being independant that I feel completely suffocated. Got to a point yesterday when I was getting pissed off with being constantly mauled by DD, pulling my hair and feeding all the time. Today wasnt as bad but still very hard going. Feels like we're back stepping 3 months a bit. She's also getting very whingy when I move out of her site which is also very frustrating. Anyway, thanks all for listening to my diaries of a terrible mother!
Cruise, totally sympathise. I have felt very resentful of all of it recently. I've got one friend close by who also has a non sleeping DD a week younger than mine BUT she naps during the day and when she's awake she's so passive and will lay their for hours just talking and smiling. Mine will not be peaceful for more than about three minutes. I'm hating weaning because by the time I've sorted something out for her to eat she's had enough of sitting in the high chair so my efforts are wasted. I keep trying with the spoon but she's having none of it. Finger foods are more successful but she's hardly eating anything and it feels like I'm puting in a great deal of effort for nothing. I think you must be an amazing woman if you can do all you are doing. My DH almost always cooks in the evening (see he is useful in some ways!) because if I start anything DD whinges and it looks like a tornado has rampaged through my house.
Does anyone else feel like their blood pressure is constantly through the roof. Sometimes I feel like a cartoon character with steam coming out of my ears!

Thanks again everyone, good nights all

Hi all, just a quick on before I hit the hay... I feel better now (two glasses of wine seem to have done the trick . ds went down at 8 and nothing since . Does this bode well or not I wonder. dd and I had some time making her easter bonnet. I amazed myself with my artistry!. Things are tough without any let up. dh would help if he were able but he is not great at the whole childcare thing anyway, he loves them dearly but is not hands on until they can walk and talk. He lies in at weekends and cos of bf he can't do much in the early hours. It just gets too much at dinner time with cooking, clearing away, bath etc and ds who cannot be put down for long atm. I just know thatI love them both so much and hate it when I get stressed. No good for anyone. Feel better now. btw all my family live in Worthing and I am london based so no break there either. Still I am strong! I am a woman! and Sleep is For the Weak!!! n'nite

morning ladies. big hugs to all and especially big ones to cruise and ginger

was wondering ginger, have you tried having a mattress on the floor in your bedroom for dd? i tried this with lo and it worked quite well. i'd get in to settle her, then pop back into our own bed for a cuddle with dp. our bedroom unfortunately is sooo small tho and i got chuffed off with having to pull it out from under the bed every night

cruise - dd is refusing the lumps atm too and consequently needing more boob i dont understand it cos she eats bits of bread/toast/apple/veggies etc (albeit in miniscule amounts)
i also hated feeling torn in the afternoons when ds got home. the one time i'd had a particularly bad day, dp arrived home to find me in floods of tears because dd was like a limpet and i couldnt make ds something to eat. now at 12, he is perfectly capable of cooking something for himself, but i'm his mum too and i wanted to do it for him. i've told him (ds) so many times, that 'things will get better and this stage wont last forever', that if i have a 'moment', he puts his arm around me and says it back to me! god, i love my boy

mae - glad you had a good day, the evening sounds nice too!! re. the neighbours, share and share alike

amber and youngmum, on your nap and 'no dummy' successes

lg - i know, i think we completely underestimate how one tiny human can disrupt all and every semblance of 'normal' life for us.....and i've been through it once already, how quickly we forget.

last night wasnt too bad, dd had a late nap cos i couldnt face battling to keep her awake for bath and bed at 6.30. as a result, she ended up staying up til 9pm. fed twice, 12 and 4 and up for day at 7am.

hope everyone else had a good night

hi tibsy, morning all. House is a mess and have playgroup this morning so won't be able to stay long.
pretty good night here. just the usual 2am wakening for milk and a couple of stirs when i need to get up and put dummy back in. Was so tired last night went to bed at 9.
Hope there were some good nights for your lo's xx

tibsy sounds like your dd is doing so well for her age to be only wakening twice.

morning all, im so sentimental i have teary eyes from reading the sweet stories of the kindness of older children! makes me long for my lo to get big and empathic!
a good night for us again, only 2 wakings, fed both times... how many good nights in a row get you kicked off this thread??is it a three strikes policy?!

i know maebee i think we might need to retitle as some mn newbies might log in and think what the feck are they going on about that's not a bad night!

My LO got a bit nasty last night, and mostly slept in 1 hour stretches. sigh. though, you know its still an improvement from when he had to sleep ON me or DP all night. anyway, didn't get that much sleep, but poor DP seems to have a migraine at the moment. unlike him he is lying in teh dark on the bed. hope he's ok.

morning amber for your bad night and dh's migraine. have you any migralieve in the house they are fantastic at getting rid of them if you take within the first few hours. i'm in the tea shop if you need a cuppa

mornin tam, we're off soon too. bfing group today. did you work out how to put photos on your profile?

mae on continued success, yey!!!!

amber, poor dp and poor you i'd join him if you get the chance

no tibs dh thinks there's a prob with our digital camera and they won't load. i secretly think he just doesn't know how to do it and is making it up! would love to put some on though as i love looking at everyone elses. nice to have a face in mind of who you're talking to!

heres me on a bad day

you tease!!!! was excited there for a second at idea of seeing your happy face x

heres me after serious lack of sleep

tibsy, one day my LO will learn the art of daytime napping outside of my sling, and all will be well. until then, i might join tamdin for a tea!

awww that's exactly how i imagined you'd look

check out no. 5, anne woods, thats me really

PMSL

right i'm going for a shower...honestly you lot are the biggest time wasters

hi all. feel much better tday. well it seems that we are averaging two wakings per nifght nowwhich is so much better than a couple of mths ago. i guess that is copeable with for us all . going to see dd in her school play today. she has the lead role! better get my tissues ready. anyone know what hapopened to kiera?
ginger - how are you today? how are your nights?

crusie hope your dd's play goes well. I'd be crying buckets. glad you're having better week

cruise am really pleased for you, spring has sprung hey?!!! lead role, you must be SO proud.

i was wondering about kiera too, hope everythings all right. wasnt it the anniversary of her little girls' passing on tues?

Hello everyone. I too am feeling a whole lot better today. DD was a near perfect angel last night and it makes all the difference.

She went to bed at 7 woke at 9.30, dummy in then nothing until 12. In bed with me, quick feed. Woke at 3.30 and I'd fed her before I realised because I wasn't going to but anyway she then slept until 6.30 so I feel like i got a good rest because most of it was done unconsciously.

Mae, pleased to hear about your success. You still doing the BW?

Cruise, pleased you're feeling better too.

Catch up later. Off to the HV this afternoon for a weigh in. Haven't been in ages. She'll probably tell me I'm starving her and that's why she doesn't sleep

Oh yes. Last night I gave her a couple of oz of formula (first time, it was very emotional) any way, I'm wondering whether my mother was right all along and that my milk isn't satisfying enough. Logic tells me that that's rubbish but......

taking the dummy away wasnt a complete sucess last nite but think it went ok for a first nite. i think it was my fault for giving a dream feed at 10 as it took me for attemps to get her to settle then she slept on till 1.30 but wudnt settle so gave her the dummy she woke up at 4 for a feed and again in went the dummy and we got up at 7! willbe trying again tonite!!!

Just done some retail therepy been needing that for months lol made feel like me again and now im going to pick dd up for childminders and take her swimming