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new 'SLEEP IS FOR THE WEAK' thread

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tibsy · 05/03/2007 13:55

hi ladies, the other one ran out of space, so if no one else starts a new thread, here it is....

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LEMONADEGIRL · 26/03/2007 12:45

Hi all,

Just had a quick glance through the posts, sorry to all those that are still not getting any sleep.

Amberjee - I take ds nearly 6 months swimming. He loves it. My HV said to wait until after first set of injections. Just check thst the baby pool is warm though, as one of my local pools has cool water, in baby pool, poor ds started to go a bit blue so took him out, the other is much better and runs a session especially for babies & toddlers.

Work is getting closer and ds is still not sleeping very well, 1;45 , 3am, 5am - into bed with me as wouldn't settle. Just cannot function properly, feel hungover and sooo grouchy.

Tamdin · 26/03/2007 12:58

lemonade for lack of sleep. got to dash but will be back later x

LEMONADEGIRL · 26/03/2007 14:33

can anyone tell me how to add a profile btw, t in e-mail and then password but doesn't do anthing.. am being technophobe blaming it on sleep deprivation

youngmum21 · 26/03/2007 15:33

amber- i take dd swimming ween going since she was about 14 weeks old there are some babies in our group that were only 8weeks old when they started x

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tibsy · 26/03/2007 15:45

lg - for lack of sleep, re. profiles, go up to my mumsnet, you can add your profile there

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Amberjee · 26/03/2007 16:04

thanks young mum and lemonade, i think i will take him swimming soon. i think they have a heated pool suitable for babies. he loves the bath, so i think swimming will be great. sorry to be so off topic. Just to make up for it ... I AM SO TIRED!!

LEMONADEGIRL · 26/03/2007 16:27

Thanks Tibsy & Tamdin

MaeBee · 26/03/2007 19:34

a a agh, magic trick broken tonight, taken an hr to put him down, keeps waking,grrrr.

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tibsy · 26/03/2007 20:07

maebee these chuffing clock changes have a lot to answer for, we've been all over place with naps and meals today i've cheated tonight too
dd fell asleep on boob....

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cruisemum1 · 26/03/2007 20:17

maebee - sounds like me! I have been up three times since 7:pm

Amberjee · 26/03/2007 20:33

my ds hasn't even fallen asleep yet. dh is up there working his charm while i eat dinner.

Tamdin · 26/03/2007 20:43

hi all. bloody clocks is right. ds would normally go to bed at 7 (now 8) and has only just gone down now. how am i supposed to get him to go to bed at the new 7 when his body clock is telling him that's 6!!

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tibsy · 26/03/2007 20:46

maebee and cruise
amberjee for the daddy!!

you know i'm beginning to doubt this whole get them to fall asleep on their own lark.

last night dd fell asleep in cot, aware of her surroundings and woke 6 times in the evening.
tonight, she fell asleep on the boob, i put her in her cot without waking her and she's been asleep for over 2 hours. whats going on?

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tibsy · 26/03/2007 20:47

tam dd only had 2 little naps today, thats why shes gone off earlier. its a flaming pain tho int it? whos bloody idea was it to change the clocks anyway

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Amberjee · 26/03/2007 20:51

tibsy, i agree, getting him to fall asleep on his own 1) mostly doesn't work and 2) doesn't yield any longer sleep anyway. sigh.
i massaged LO for 1/2 hour before his bath tonight. he was great and loved it. then after his bath he was completely hyperactive (cute though admittedly, pity it wasn't the middle of the day when we could play) and is taking FOREVER to settle. i wonder what the night holds. better get myself to bed before it all goes to pot.

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tibsy · 26/03/2007 20:53

good luck amber hugs for a good night x

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Tamdin · 26/03/2007 20:57

night all. hugs all round

cruisemum1 · 26/03/2007 21:30

you know waht? I really do wonder sometimes when this is gonna stop. Then I look at ds as he is nursing at bedtime and I see how peaceful and blissful he looks and it all just doesn't matter. He loves it, simple as....
But.........two hours later when I have been up to settle him again three times I think "Oh ffs! When am I gonna have an evening to myself or with dd again?" I toy with cc (or variations thereof) but am terrified of the trauma to us both, but mostly I am scared cos I am gonna wean ds from bf at bedtime to ff and he is gonna go ape. What should I do? When he cries/resists what do I do? I have to do this because I ahve some important evening functions to attend and no-one can put him to bed but me. Lovely as it is, enough is enough. Feeling confused and daunted. Anyone done this? I may start a thread about it....

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tibsy · 27/03/2007 07:52

morning all!!
and cruise,

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Tamdin · 27/03/2007 08:55

morning. good night here. only 1 waking at 2 for milk then slept until 8!! can't type now though he's ahving some kind of hissy fit at my feet. catch you later x

MaeBee · 27/03/2007 09:15

mornin all!
well, im meant to be looking at buses cos we are off on a family day out to an urban to look at baby animals. boy having nap: i did something a bit bad, he was trying to have a poo when he was feeding, and im not sure if he did or not, and i put him down for a nap without changing cos i know he wouldnt settle if we had the fun of a nappy change first...his naps about half an hr usually, is that really wrong of me?
last night was ok in the end, after all that, although he did feed a lot, woke 3 times after the inital hour nightmare of getting him down properly, and he still went decent stints between waking, and didnt get up til 7. i do think this getitng them in cot awake is worth it: i think its just a bit of a long term thing tho, it is meant to be harder at first cos its all new to them, but over time it should yield results?!?
okay all,
better do some bus checking.
hope everyone elses night was reasonable.xxx

Amberjee · 27/03/2007 09:18

hello, we had a great night (for us). bed around 8.30/9, then feeds at 12.15, 2.15 and 4.30. woke up at 6 with some reflux unfortunately, poor LO, but managed to get him back for another half hour. anyway, him sleeping that much in the post midnight stretch is unheard of. maybe the massage did really relax him. yay! though i wonder if it will continue.

Amberjee · 27/03/2007 09:23

so DH got to sleep from 11 to 6 (lucky him!!), then he took DS and I slept until 8. god i feel so amazing. so this is what real sleep is like. you know, i don't think i could actually sleep a whole night without waking/getting up, at 5am this morning, i could hardly get back to sleep as i felt so drunk on sleep, i wanted to get up and enjoy it!

gingerninja · 27/03/2007 09:50

Haven't been on for a while, I was begining to feel a bit down about this lack of sleep thing and just felt like I was never getting a break from it by thinking about it and talking about it all the time. (Plus, was begining to get a bit naffed off by some of the posters on other threads and their aggressive agenda's but that's another story) But I missed you ladies and so I'm back.

Yesterday was a horrible day, DD was a horrible daughter and I was a horrible mummy. I got really pissed off with her for not sleeping despite my best efforts so we 'had a few words'and I rather roughly picked her up and then put her back down, turned her over then picked her up again when she clearly didn't want any of it. I made it quite clear that she was making me cross. I have now upset myself about how I could be so cross with my baby so have spent every minute since with a guilt complex. I think that's what instigated an argument between me and DH this morning.

For the last week, DD has been waking at 11 ish for a feed and not resettling so I take her into bed in the spare room and DH sleeps in blissful harmony in our room. Now, I don't mind co-sleeping but he reakons he's worried he might squash her so isn't keen and therefore we have to sleep separately. Well, I'm not sure how long a marriage can last when one party is fresh as a daisy and has a life outside the home and the other is working 24 hours a day with hardly and sleep and absolutely no respite. I told him that I was about to crack and that he'd better stay at home and look after the baby. Not that he has, he spent the morning in a huff thinking I was about to file for divorce and then left for the sanctuary of work.

Lack of sleep and absolutely no break for 6 1/2 months is starting to wear thin. I don't know what to do anymore. I won't do CC. I'm ok with co-sleeping but do worry about my marriage, the implications long term and what about when she starts crawling.

Is it too much to expect a little something for myself, a few childless hours, a full night sleep, a, "you go back to sleep I'll take her down stairs"?

Sorry for the rant. Feeling mighty pissed off today. Doesn't help that DD has turned into the biggest whinge bag during the day wanting to be held all the time.

Hope you're all having a better time of it.

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tibsy · 27/03/2007 09:57

morning tamdin

maebee, i hear what you're saying re. getting to sleep on their own. and i know it would benefit us both in the long run but i guess i'm too much of a lazy tart and if dd has a better night after falling asleep on boob, then i've got something to justify my lax behaviour and general slackness
i am going to try again, and actually stick with it to prove to myself that i'm not a complete lightweight will have to allow myself the occasional night off tho

amber - on improved night, go sister and go lo!!!!!

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