AMA Swingers clubs.

[MrsBerthaRochester]

Anything you ever wanted to know about Swingers clubs/parties but were afraid to ask? And yes I know there is an mn Sex topic but its full of hairy handed trolls.

Crabs? What about lobsters? In 60 odd years of misbehaviour I've never come across either

@Tiredbeyond

This thread is really interesting - I’m recently divorced and really would like some… ummm no strings sex I’m late 40’s, a size 18, fairly average looking. Would the swingers scene be safe option?

In my opinion you're likely to be quite safe at a club as boundaries are respected and nobody will judge. It might take a couple of visits to relax. When I went a member of staff showed me round and put me at ease quickly. It was clean too. Just had godawful music

My toddler has a Fisher Price pineapple toy that sings "it's a party, a pineapple party". I'll forever look at it differently after this thread!

😂 😂 😂

@Flapjacker48

Swinging clubs seem to be dominated by lower middle class people.

Only in this country could someone make such a fatuously snobbish remark.

What happens if you bump into someone from the club socially? Do you acknowledge you've already met or pretend to be strangers?
Interesting thread BTW

I've been to a swingers club once. Wanted to go again but my partner got ill and never recovered

Did he catch something? 😳

Hi do you know that Flapjacker48 have you attended many yourself

@Tiredbeyond

This thread is really interesting - I’m recently divorced and really would like some… ummm no strings sex I’m late 40’s, a size 18, fairly average looking. Would the swingers scene be safe option?

As a woman dick is cheap so to speak. You'll have a pick of men! They will literally f* anything with a pulse! Nobody cares what you look like as it's only sex

GodAwful music, do they play Abba?

@PinkGinBigGrin

I've been to a swingers club once. Wanted to go again but my partner got ill and never recovered

Did he catch something? 😳

No it was unrelated lol. He made me feel really sexy and uninhibited so I wanted to explore this new me and he was only too happy to grab all the documentation we needed to gain membership to this club. His eyes were on stalks all night.

@Malibuismysecrethome

GodAwful music, do they play Abba?

Yes. It's 80's music. I have no idea why. Maybe it was a themed night that time but I wouldn't have known as I didn't see flyers or anything. Frankly my eyes were drawn to tits and ass. My boyfriend started hyperventilating so we found a quiet corner and just looked around. A tall beautiful blonde started lap shagging a guy directly behind me but I was too shy to turn around. Boyfriends pupils definitely dilated though.

[quote MrsBerthaRochester]@Mermaideyes what happens in the club stays in the club.[/quote]
I don't expect the cold sores & covid stay at the club. What happens at the club obviously doesn't stay there because here you are talking about it!
Is it not thrilling enough for you to keep the details to yourself, running short on members perhaps!

@Tiredbeyond

This thread is really interesting - I’m recently divorced and really would like some… ummm no strings sex I’m late 40’s, a size 18, fairly average looking. Would the swingers scene be safe option?

Swingers clubs would be a safe option. Single women are well looked after by clubs. The social scene is very friendly.

Depending on where you live there are options of dress down or not clubs.

@Divebar2021

Probably the most boring question ever but what sort of building is this in? Is it a permanent swingers club that opens on certain nights or another building that’s rented occasionally. Someone mentioned a swanky flat but the description of “wipe clean” and glory holes sounds like a permanent fixture.

There are permanent clubs that are open most nights, then you get some that are hosted in buildings occasionally. That tends to be specific events though.

@Malibuismysecrethome

GodAwful music, do they play Abba?

'Does Your Mother Know'...on a loop...

@NeedWineNow it was actually in Wateringbury so unless you go looking for it, you'll be safe shopping .... 😀

@StellatheCat

I always imagine it as when Dennis and Frank attend one in Its Always Sunny … was once invited to a swinging club by a guy I’d only ever chatted to online, didn’t go. I imagine it would be great if everyone looked like a supermodel but a load of regular folk (myself included as regular, no oil painting here!) just … ick

I have a couple of friends who go to them and that Always Sunny episode is all I can think about. They have invited me to go as I'm not interested in a relationship but do enjoy sex and have tried to entice me with the idea that there are more men than women so I'd have my pick. And sure, sex parties seem great in a fantasy where everyone is as attractive as a Hollywood A-lister. But god, the thought of the reality. Absolute Ick!!!

Great thread, thanks OP. Answered so many questions that I’ve always been too scared to ask

@Tiredbeyond

This thread is really interesting - I’m recently divorced and really would like some… ummm no strings sex I’m late 40’s, a size 18, fairly average looking. Would the swingers scene be safe option?

Definitely would be a good option IMO!

@Malibuismysecrethome

GodAwful music, do they play Abba?

Gimme, gimme, gimme on a loop?

Honestly, what is the appeal of being fucked by a random stranger in public? I just don’t get it.

I’m recently divorced and really would like some… ummm no strings sexI’m late 40’s, a size 18, fairly average looking. Would the swingers scene be safe option?

Yes, but you could always try Tinder.

I don't know I'd have the nerve to go on my own, though single women are usually welcome (single men much more closely vetted and more likely to not be admitted.) It's still nice to have one person there who's on your side, even if you both end up fucking others, though in my experience, people are probably more respectful of others than in your average pub or something.

@DesertStorms

Honestly, what is the appeal of being fucked by a random stranger in public? I just don’t get it.

It’s not just public though, there are private rooms in clubs too.

It’s a very safe way for single women to have fun

Becuase it’s just that fucking and having a good time in the moment

No concerns/worries about happens next ….

Honestly, what is the appeal of being fucked by a random stranger in public? I just don’t get it.

It's not for everyone. If you don't get it, you don't have to do it. But also, you chat for long enough to know that you fancy someone - there is a bit of selection in that sense. (Though I suppose if you go for a glory hole or something, there might not be, but equally, I can imagine that entirely random does work for some people.) And some people have an exhibitionist streak, so the being in public bit will work for them. But it should all be consensual, so if you wouldn't consider any of it, then don't do it.