Yes there are wanking men that follow couples and single fems around but it's no problem when you are experienced. They are hoping to be invited into a room to play. You can simply ignore them. I would think it's daunting for new people.
Remember some people are there for single men so they have their pick. Most women and couples would prefer to be engaged in conversation in the bar area first by single men but some seem incapable of this. It's a big gripe in the community. Those single men who are sociable and have banter are more popular.
Yes my friend and I encountered the odd stray hand (par for the course as we played in open areas and liked to be watched). A simple no thank you sorted that out. Never a problem.
In the two and a half years of going to clubs we never actually played with anyone. We were happy with out own company. In our own bubble.
My friend liked to dress down into lingerie and heels. We enjoyed a little shopping trip to buy her an outfit that we picked out together.
I liked to "show her off". She developed a new found confidence she didn't previously have and actually thanked me for helping her with this.
I liked the freedom of stripping down to my boxer shorts too. We liked being around like minded people, chatting and flirting with others.
We never ruled out swapping but the stars never aligned for us.
I've been to lots of different clubs. Here and abroad. Some new ones still on my list hopefully to visit some more this year.
Some quite simply put are dumps that I wouldn't visit again.
An honest representation is the swinger program on the telly channel four or five, featuring Liberty Elite. It's still on catch-up.