AMA Swingers clubs.

[MrsBerthaRochester]

Anything you ever wanted to know about Swingers clubs/parties but were afraid to ask? And yes I know there is an mn Sex topic but its full of hairy handed trolls.

Sorry I meant are condoms and dental dams used

@permanenttemporay on my first visit to one club my friend was showing me around the club and a visually impaired guy was following us everywhere! We were trying to be polite. He was eventually kicked out.
The only time a guy was a pest was at another event and he was really drunk(which is unusual in these clubs) and he just kept coming round and asking if we wanted fun.
Men pay far more to get into the club and they are made very aware of the rules.

@newtonred I have seen some folk use condoms for oral but never a dental dam.
A lot of bareback sex does go pn in swinging(not me) but in clubs its usually safe sex. Again from what I have seen.
I accept there is a risk to it but am far more responsible now with my sexual health than I was when I was younger.

I went in Germany with my then boyfriend. It was an interesting way to unexpectedly meet his cousin for the first time! I think it was more challenging with the language. I do speak German, but I'm far from fluent, and many people there spoke English, but there were times that having to have something translated for me so I knew what I was saying yes or no to did slow things. They don't teach you the vocabulary for this in school...

I've also been to one in the UK, where I had some of the best sex of my life with a guy whose name I didn't even know till later. He was very good looking, too. I still think about him and his wife.

I like that no means no and is respected, and there's no argument about condoms, either. It's a lot easier than some of the one night stands I've had in that respect. I enjoyed the hot tubs and swimming naked (but I enjoy swimming anyway.) I don't drink, but there is a bar, and that bit is just like a bar, '80s music included.

That's interesting OP! Like you mention it's probably nothing like we imagine so not all about the typical swingers activities.

@Newtonred is a dental dam a piece of material that a dentist uses? I've just googled it and looks like a right mood killer!

There is definately a different attitude re safe sex on the site compared to in a club/party. I have met many men off the site who would happily have sex without a condom but never met a guy in a club who didnt expect to use them.

Yep waitingformytakeaway
I have never used one,
They look complete passion killers

@newtonred I have never used one and have had oral sex with a lady and rimmed men. Im aware of the risks involved with both.

@Newtonred

Yep waitingformytakeaway I have never used one, They look complete passion killers

I had to look them up. Look like the ones dentists use but for your bits. Yep, total passion killer.

I only learnt about them about a year ago. I work with people with learning disabilities and we had a nurse talk to a group about safe sex. She brought in condoms and other things for them to have a look at and one of these Dental dams. She said no one ever knew what it was

@Newtonred

I only learnt about them about a year ago. I work with people with learning disabilities and we had a nurse talk to a group about safe sex. She brought in condoms and other things for them to have a look at and one of these Dental dams. She said no one ever knew what it was

Same as female condoms. They look like the tunnel things that dogs run through for agility. Seen them, but never known anyone to use them

How can you be sure that the person you partner up with doesn't have any STDs?

What's a glory hole?

@Joystir59

What's a glory hole?

A hole in the wall between men's loos. One puts their knob through it, and the other does what he wishes. I have seen them in ladies loos too. Like, do you push your tit through them, or what?

Swinging clubs seem to be dominated by lower middle class people.

I have seen a female glory hole where it was like a giant connect four board. So basically a screen with holes but rather than guys putting their dicks in ladies go behind it and recieve oral sex.

It all sounds hilariously unsexy.

@Flapjacker48

Swinging clubs seem to be dominated by lower middle class people.

And you know this, how?

@HangingOver

Why is it always the mingers who are swingers?

The ones at Torture Garden aren't! Intimidatingly attractive a lot of them are.

Been to Torture Gardens many moons ago..Lots of attractive people...Amazing bodies some of them have.. The atmosphere was fab..

Do you have 'rules' in mind for if you meet the man of your dreams?
Would you swing together, or stop altogether, or another arrangement?
Also, do any of your friends or family know about your hobby?

@robertsmithslipstick not looking for the man of my dreams. Have a couple of friends who I would go to clubs with but thats it. Have no intention of buddying up with a guy to meet couples. Have zero interest in foursomes. I have had two threesomes. Much preferred the two guys and me rather than me another lady and a guy.

One close friend knows. Other friends know I meet men for casual sex. My teen kids know I do casual dating.

I just can't work out how you stand a pineapple upside down. Does it not just fall over?

I always find it funny when I hear about swingers clubs, and about the people who need to go to them. especially the group rooms, with all sorts of odd bods doing their stuff in the same room., as in all sorts of shapes and sizes, and all the noises they must make.. And you could come across one of your next door neighbours there too !

Thanks for a bloody fascinating thread OP.

Off for a cold drink, feeling a bit warm & peculiar....