Do all women enjoy giving blow jobs & anal?

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I really want to know the general opinion beyond my very small circle of friends who I discuss sex life with. As I'm now feeling a little insecure about it all. Do you enjoy giving blow jobs ? Every time ? Plus have anal every time too?

My DP explained to me this evening that all women enjoy giving a blow job plus to swallow. Now I never swallow and certainly don't give blow jobs every day/week. But apparently every other women he's been with it happened every time they had sex (a lot) plus he said the same about anal, happened every time they had sex. He said this has been the case since he was in his early twenties, now mid forties. I joked they done of my friends give blow jobs for special occasions, he was mortified and said up until me he received it every time. He's not putting pressure on me to give it but we were talking about sex lives, etc

We got together three years ago, now have two little kids, he works away and when he comes back I'm a bit frazzled with work and home life. I'm not wanting to start a debate about the wrongs and right about his opinion and purely interested to know about blow jobs/anal, is this really the case? Is everyone giving blow jobs getting anal it every time ? And enjoying it or do you do it out of 'duty'?

If he wants anal every time you have sex, tell him he is welcome to volunteer as tribute.

Jokes aside, I'm more angry the more I think about this. His behaviour is textbook sexual coercion aka a crime.

He's talking utter shit and sounds like a manipulative abusive bastard.

Anal? No fucking way. Ever. It can cause serious damage and really, why????

Oral - only one man I've ever been inclined to do this with. And certainly not every time.

There are waaaay better men out there OP...

Aw OP not returned?

OP? Hellooooo?!

I'm not discussing what I do and what I like here, but he's talking absolute horse shit.

He's either:
paying for it
got lost in Pornland and thinks that's real or he's trolling you

Either way he needs to grow up

If someone tried to shove anything up my arse, they'd find themself flying accross the fucking room like dumbo the flying elephant. Because I'd kick them harder than skippy...the bush kangaroo xD

Seriously hope this is a spoof post op. Otherwise your partner is a gaslighting wanker and it's time to bin the bastard and run for the hills.

Yeah...he's lying. In the 25 years since I became sexually active and have had a number of sexual partners, as well as numerous conversations with a wide variety of friends, I've never come across a single man who got blow jobs and/or anal sex every time, or any woman who would give blow jobs and/or anal sex every time.

I agree this is utter rubbish.

I actively enjoy giving DP a blow job and most sessions start with it, but they rarely go to conclusion.

We both agreed very early on that anal was a big no-no- I've tried it with previous partners and fully agree with the 'shit in reverse' analogy. DP has never tried it and never wants to.

But you might want to tell him that ALL my friends and EVERYONE I know expect a man to give a decent massage and spectacular oral at the beginning of EVERY session, and not to even contemplate their own needs until they've fulfilled their obligations.

I mean, it's not true, but since he believes in fairy tales I'm sure he'll believe it.

Gofigure

OP has not been back I think you're probably right.

anyone starting this thread looking for sexual kicks from women describing how much they love anal and blow jobs is going to be very very disappointed.

Thanks for so many comments . They're very useful and I will now consider how to respond to DP. And yes this is a real post. I feel like I've spent my whole evening defending myself, first about not giving blow jobs every time plus anal, now about this being a true post.

I certainly stand my ground and I'm not being coerced into anything but it did get me thinking about what's happening in the real world. I also did post in relationships section as I thought it covered sex / relationships more than just sex.

@halfgirlhalfturnip

I used to wonder how people spotted fake threads so easily but think I am getting better at it!

Yes.

If you listen carefully, that sound you can hear is the posse of perverts, lurkers and trolls fapping away to MNers falling over themselves to go into detail about their sex lives 🙄

@OnlyTheTitosaurusOfTheIceberg

If you listen carefully, that sound you can hear is the posse of perverts, lurkers and trolls fapping away to MNers falling over themselves to go into detail about their sex lives 🙄

but virtually every thread is

'nope'

Well I don't know where he was getting that sex but ... 🤔

Personally I am 100% on board re: blowjobs and minus 100% on the other. But I know that compared to most of my female friends, liking/frequently engaging in blowjobs is not the norm.

The standard seems to be blowjobs from time to time if he's lucky, anal you must be bloody joking.

So, as I say ... not sure what women your DH is holding up as the standard here?!!

I think he's just trying to get you to do those things for him all the time.

Only do what you like and want, and when you want.

Don't do anything out of duty or because he says it's 'normal'.

@Hapoydayz

Get him to try anal first

Hahahaha 😂😂😂👌

Buy a strap-on and tell him you'll willingly give him anal everytime if he wants.
From my experience he's pulling your leg, sex is a bit more varied and doesn't follow the same menu with everyone.

Your bf must be some sort of high libido porn star sort of man….
I am just imagining the hours of sex he used to have every time with his previous partners….
As it’s not possible to do both BJ and anal at the same go.
Did he used to get it up several times/session?
Since BJ and anal are all about his pleasure, I am guessing that he also then did something for the women?
So I am counting at least 3 erections per night? If not 4 - are needed here.
It’s only fair to expect at least 2 PIV orgasms if he gets to come with a BJ and anally… No?

Joking aside - I actually enjoy giving BJs. Swallowing is not an issue for me. Anal - can do occasionally. It can sometimes be fun, but needs prepping.

Yes, every time to both.

Always starts with oral, goes through about a million PIV positions and ends with anal.

My husband would definitely say that I love it, because I have always behaved enthusiastically. I’ve never ever said no. Ever.

But if you read my other thread, I just long for loving sex in the missionary position that doesn’t have to end in anal.

So it is possible that he’s being truthful…but it’s not necessarily the whole truth iykwim.

Never will do anal and my DH has never asked me to or suggested it.

He never asks for BJ but I do every now and then and he does same in return.
He always warns me in advance he is going to cum as he doesn’t want to do that in my mouth so that’s never happened let alone swallow.
He makes sure I cum every single time. Always foreplay. It’s wonderful.

A man’s point of view here. I would say I’ve had quite a good range of bedroom experience.
Receiving BJs -been given them by every partner I’ve ever had. It’s surprising to hear some women don’t like giving them. I deliberately never cum from a BJ, my choice, I prefer the intimacy of cumming inside her. And giving oral to my partner is standard, except with only a couple of partners who didn’t like it (which I find odd).
People who don’t give and receive oral, what do they do with their time in bed?!!
Anal, only a couple of times, one of which was when absolutely bladdered and we barely knew what we were doing. Some partners have made it clear right from the beginning that it would not be available.
I agree Op’s DH may be right when he says what he says about BJs, but about anal he’s not -he’s definitely getting that from porn. Nice try though, mate. As a number of posters suggest, he could try being pegged a few times, fair’s fair.

I give my DP a blowjob 99% of the time we have sex and he gets one very frequently if we're not having full sex but we don't have anal sex very often at all but that's because it's painful for me since having children etc but if it wasn't, we'd do anal more but certainly not every time. I do absolutely love giving blowjobs though, I really really enjoy it

@DoleWhipFloat

Yes, every time to both.

Always starts with oral, goes through about a million PIV positions and ends with anal.

My husband would definitely say that I love it, because I have always behaved enthusiastically. I’ve never ever said no. Ever.

But if you read my other thread, I just long for loving sex in the missionary position that doesn’t have to end in anal.

So it is possible that he’s being truthful…but it’s not necessarily the whole truth iykwim.

Why are you doing things you don't want to do?

I've had quite a number of partners over the years and I've done anal once and never wish to experience it again.

Both my wife and I have our own FWB and we also have a couple with benefits.

My FwB has only ever given me one BJ as she really doesn't enjoy them although loves me to go down on her. The reason she doesn't do them is her ex husband hated them and so she just doesn't feel comfortable doing it.

Fortunately my wife loves giving them to both me and her FwB and they play a big part in all activities with our CwB

So, the OPs partner is talking shit, not all people are the same. I've known both men and women who love and detest both BJs and anal.

People who don’t give and receive oral, what do they do with their time in bed?!!

We have sex! There are lots of other types of foreplay that don't involve oral sex.