Do all women enjoy giving blow jobs & anal?

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I really want to know the general opinion beyond my very small circle of friends who I discuss sex life with. As I'm now feeling a little insecure about it all. Do you enjoy giving blow jobs ? Every time ? Plus have anal every time too?

My DP explained to me this evening that all women enjoy giving a blow job plus to swallow. Now I never swallow and certainly don't give blow jobs every day/week. But apparently every other women he's been with it happened every time they had sex (a lot) plus he said the same about anal, happened every time they had sex. He said this has been the case since he was in his early twenties, now mid forties. I joked they done of my friends give blow jobs for special occasions, he was mortified and said up until me he received it every time. He's not putting pressure on me to give it but we were talking about sex lives, etc

We got together three years ago, now have two little kids, he works away and when he comes back I'm a bit frazzled with work and home life. I'm not wanting to start a debate about the wrongs and right about his opinion and purely interested to know about blow jobs/anal, is this really the case? Is everyone giving blow jobs getting anal it every time ? And enjoying it or do you do it out of 'duty'?

Anal? Ain't going to be happening now and never happened in the past.

BJ's? Some girls do, some girls don't. End of the day it's not up to me. Some exes hated being given oral too which I missed giving but same thing, their rules not mine.

If he keeps saying anal every time break out the strap on and say fairs fair. If he won't do it, why should you?

@Pazuzu

Anal? Ain't going to be happening now and never happened in the past.

BJ's? Some girls do, some girls don't. End of the day it's not up to me. Some exes hated being given oral too which I missed giving but same thing, their rules not mine.

If he keeps saying anal every time break out the strap on and say fairs fair. If he won't do it, why should you?

And if he does do it?

Blow Jobs are part of regular sex as far as I’m concerned.

@Fcuk38

Blow Jobs are part of regular sex as far as I’m concerned.

My main FWB has only given me one blow job since we started with benefits in 2014 although I go down on her most times

Fortunately I do get them elsewhere

I would be incredibly happy to give my partner a BJ a few times a day, never mind a week. I bloody love it, it's an incredibly important part of sex for me. He adores giving oral too so we are well matched!
As for anal I love it under the right circumstances. The first time I had sex the guy I was with anally raped me and I need to feel safe and secure to do it ie; not from behind, it has to be a position when I feel connected. But when I do it I love it, it's an incredible turn on!

And I swallow.

ZOMBIE

@OrlandointheWilderness

And I swallow.

That's always big turn on for me.

@bilbodog

ZOMBIE

Oh whoops! Sorry!!!

Never done anal and have got no wish to. However, I love giving DH a blow job and I know he’s happy to receive! I prefer it when he either cums on my boobs or in my mouth and I spit it out though, I don’t really like to swallow.

Right as a bloke I can say for certainty I don't ask for BJ's, if my partner wants to then I'm happy but equally I'm not unhappy if she decides not to. I should say all my partners ( lol .. I've had three ) are mature experienced lovely ladies who are capable of deciding what they want and what they want to give.
Anal.. goodness no.. But my latest partner has said she likes it but we haven't yet. I said I would leave it up to her to initiate that.
Anal is a modern day porn influenced kink. It can be enjoyed by both I believe and I am willing to receive as well as give. That's the way it should be. Equally if one partner doesn't then it should be respected and shouldn't be a deal breaker.
It's rubbish to say that it's now "normal" sex.

Not many women are into anal. As to blow jobs perhaps half the women out there enjoy it.I

Not sure where this deluded guy gets his theories from!

No Way, it is not the norm.
He might be meeting some not awfully nice people, either IRL or on line or in his head.

No they don't.
I've never had anal, never asked for anal, and always thought it is a bit sh*tty. And I've not met/been with a woman who asked for it.
BJ's - just aren't some folks thing. Both giving and recieving. I can 'take or leave' even a good BJ.

It appears I must be an exception to the rule here. We do anal almost every time We have sex, it’s just the default for us! I cum so much better and more frequently from anal as opposed to piv. I don’t mind giving blow jobs so generally do them as foreplay but do them to completion every so often although my husband needs me to finish with my hands as he struggles to cum from bjs.

No BJ's here, she doesn't want to, and not arsed.
Everything else is a green light, only use two involved though.
The sex fluctuates, so all week, nothing, 3 or 4 times day or nothing.

Anal is ok every now and then but it's a faff getting everything started off and prepared slowly and gently to the point where it actually becomes enjoyable. Certainly wouldn't be an everyday event, takes too long for one thing.

Hopefully these (imaginary) ladies of his have given the daily blowjobs before the anal and not after 😬

I love to give and receive. Oral is a big part of our sex life, it’s a turn on for us both. We both enjoy doing it. Anal, we’ve done it but it doesn’t form part of regular sex.

Very old 70s bloke joke: what’s the difference between lobster thermidor and a BJ?

• You can still have lobster thermidor when you’re married.

I doubt if times have changed that much.

Frequent BJs for us - seeing how much he enjoys it, his facial expressions etc is a huge turn on. Usually as foreplay, unless we are somewhere sex would be difficult in which case yes, I swallow. And as a PP said upthread, he’s happy to kiss me afterwards 😂

Anal is a rare treat we both enjoy. The key is to go so so slowly building up to it, and then very gently. I have to concentrate quite hard on relaxing but I do enjoy the sensation. I’m in the minority though I think.

The problem is that he’s using his clearly dodgy statistics to pressure and manipulate you. No matter how much I enjoyed any sexual activity, a man who tried to pressure me into anything would never be fortunate enough to find himself in my bed again. There is no bigger turn off.

Perhaps the question should be “Do all men like receiving oral and giving anal?” , the answer is no.

For what it's worth (we could do with a survey here to collate the views!?) my wife and I have only been with each other. I go down on her fairly often, I offer she never asks but gladly receives. I have very occasionally asked if she was interested in giving a BJ and she has shown no interest at all. I'm curious to experience it but after 12+ years together sex keeps getting better so I don't feel i'm missing out.

Anal has no appeal for either of us.

Oh joy - a man mansplaining what women like.

I’m adding my voice to all those saying ‘no - I don’t like either’.

Wishful thinking on his part and a bit of manipulation too - making you feel inferior to past women if you don't do both? Shitty behaviour.

Personally I enjoy giving BJs and I enjoy anal. Do I do both every time we have sex? Nope!