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Do all women enjoy giving blow jobs & anal?

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foodforthought1 · 28/12/2021 22:37

I really want to know the general opinion beyond my very small circle of friends who I discuss sex life with. As I'm now feeling a little insecure about it all. Do you enjoy giving blow jobs ? Every time ? Plus have anal every time too?

My DP explained to me this evening that all women enjoy giving a blow job plus to swallow. Now I never swallow and certainly don't give blow jobs every day/week. But apparently every other women he's been with it happened every time they had sex (a lot) plus he said the same about anal, happened every time they had sex. He said this has been the case since he was in his early twenties, now mid forties. I joked they done of my friends give blow jobs for special occasions, he was mortified and said up until me he received it every time. He's not putting pressure on me to give it but we were talking about sex lives, etc

We got together three years ago, now have two little kids, he works away and when he comes back I'm a bit frazzled with work and home life. I'm not wanting to start a debate about the wrongs and right about his opinion and purely interested to know about blow jobs/anal, is this really the case? Is everyone giving blow jobs getting anal it every time ? And enjoying it or do you do it out of 'duty'?

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AnotherMansCause · 28/12/2021 23:03

Absolute twaddle. I do not enjoy giving blow jobs, & have never had anal sex, my choice. A previous boyfriend indicated he would like it & TBH I found it such a turnoff that I actively let things fizzle out very quickly.

BJs make my jaw ache & I get no enjoyment from them. My DH enjoys giving me oral but I don't expect him to, I would never expect anyone to do anything I wouldn't. I would certainly never ask, frankly it's bloody rude to put pressure on someone like that.

A friend of mine said she tried anal once, had really psyched herself up to it, prepared for it, was looking forward to it but she found it so painful she never did it again.

Your DP is talking out of his arsehole. How about you suggest 15 minutes with a full size strap on & as much foreplay as you get, maybe then he'll be quiet on the subject.

DirectionToPerfection · 28/12/2021 23:03

He's talking absolute horseshit.

Tell him that women talk to each other, and you know what's normal amongst your friends. And his ideas are very far removed from that!

Tulips21 · 28/12/2021 23:04

I dont mind giving blow jobs, I stop before Dp cums.
Its not every time for BJ either.
Anal is very rare.

My previous relationship was same.

lydia2021 · 28/12/2021 23:04

Yeah right... hes in a fantasy world of his own making. All his gf, lol, and where are they now. Done a runner from the twit......

Antonyroyle · 28/12/2021 23:04

'Ah mum, come on, it's not fair, ALL my mates play grand theft auto/has an iphone/stays up until 11pm, I'm the ONLY ONE who's not allowed'

crankysaurus · 28/12/2021 23:04

Nopity nope. He's taking shite.

SuckIt · 28/12/2021 23:04

Nope. I’m a ho bag who loves sucking dick and anal… but anal every time? Nah mate. Boring.

I do give plenty of head as a standard part of foreplay. But never did with my ex, just didn’t enjoy it as much.

Your DP is talking bollocks

educatingrati · 28/12/2021 23:05

Anal can result in rectal prolapse which needs surgery to fix. There is a very real risk of lifetime of faecal incontinence and other issues. Can cause significant mental health issues for the patient.

OGenkiDesuKa · 28/12/2021 23:05

I enjoy both but not every time.

A friend of mine had anal every time they had sex and now she shits herself if she sneezes.

PurpleParrotfish · 28/12/2021 23:06

Sounds like my 7 year old telling me that all his friends have iPhones so he should have one.

YourenutsmiLord · 28/12/2021 23:06

I tried giving a blow job once - Sheesh it made my jaw ache - stuff that lark.
I once tried anal - it worked like a laxative - no way, newer again, about as unromantic as anything could get.

DariaMorgendorffer · 28/12/2021 23:06

He's talking absolute bollocks

MatildaJayne · 28/12/2021 23:07

I used to give BJs quite often with partners when I was in the ‘honeymoon’ phase and I did enjoy them, but never swallowed, yuk. With my exH he wasn’t as particular with hygiene as he could have been so it turned me right off BJs. Anal… no fucking chance.

rooarsome · 28/12/2021 23:07

He's confusing porn with reality

Inthesameboatatmo · 28/12/2021 23:07

I personally love giving a blow job and could quite happily do it day and night ,but I'm probably in the minority I know. As for anal it's a no from me . But he doesn't sound much of a charmer op.

ShakespearesSisters · 28/12/2021 23:07

They are hinted at here but very rarely given. Advance warning needs to be given so I can finish off with my hand.

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ClaraMumsnet · 28/12/2021 23:08

Hi OP, just letting you know we've moved this over to the Sex topic Flowers

OMICHristmasOn · 28/12/2021 23:08

in which order is he expecting these acts? as that is potentially hazardous, tell him you are happy to peg him if he wants. he has definitely has been obsessing on anal porn while working away, time to get a netflix subscription or a return home every night job

MadeForThis · 28/12/2021 23:09

He's lying in order to manipulate you into doing something you don't want to.

CheeseMmmm · 28/12/2021 23:10

Hello OP!

He's talking out of his arse. If anyone needs something shoving up there it's him, to stop this deluge of shit.

I am in late forties, DH early 40s.

I've been sexually active since late 80s.

Back then. No internet. It was mags, hedge porn. A few vids knocking about with blokes I knew. And that... Was it. Pubes existed, the joy of sex was still in the shops, most blokes IME were so happy to get laid that they weren't going to push their luck! The idea that men were supposed to pleasure their partner was still around (and often more irritating than anything, terrible oral and them badgering you about whether you'd come etc etc).

He's talking bollocks.

In 30 years of sex and more ONS than you can shake a stick at.

I mean maybe I was lucky with the number of blokes. But... Doubt it impossible odds!

crimsonlake · 28/12/2021 23:10

I want to know what he does for you seems he is so intent on his own sexual gratification?

halfgirlhalfturnip · 28/12/2021 23:10

I used to wonder how people spotted fake threads so easily but think I am getting better at it!

Rno3gfr · 28/12/2021 23:11

I think I can count on one hand how many times I’ve given a bj. Never given one to the point of ejaculation. Don’t like the idea of it in my mouth.

Also, only managed to do anal once. I find it generally unappealing.

Cherryblossoms85 · 28/12/2021 23:11

I'm sad that my DH doesn't like BJs as I enjoyed them. But anal, just no.

CheeseMmmm · 28/12/2021 23:11

'But apparently every other women he's been with it happened every time they had sex (a lot) plus he said the same about anal, happened every time they had sex'

When he says 'been with' I think he means 'viewed on a screen while wanking'!!

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