Do all women enjoy giving blow jobs & anal?

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I really want to know the general opinion beyond my very small circle of friends who I discuss sex life with. As I'm now feeling a little insecure about it all. Do you enjoy giving blow jobs ? Every time ? Plus have anal every time too?

My DP explained to me this evening that all women enjoy giving a blow job plus to swallow. Now I never swallow and certainly don't give blow jobs every day/week. But apparently every other women he's been with it happened every time they had sex (a lot) plus he said the same about anal, happened every time they had sex. He said this has been the case since he was in his early twenties, now mid forties. I joked they done of my friends give blow jobs for special occasions, he was mortified and said up until me he received it every time. He's not putting pressure on me to give it but we were talking about sex lives, etc

We got together three years ago, now have two little kids, he works away and when he comes back I'm a bit frazzled with work and home life. I'm not wanting to start a debate about the wrongs and right about his opinion and purely interested to know about blow jobs/anal, is this really the case? Is everyone giving blow jobs getting anal it every time ? And enjoying it or do you do it out of 'duty'?

I'm sorry you've had to defend yourself OP. I think maybe your partner has had a series of ONS rather than long term relationships? This kind of sex sound like porn or the very beginnings when everyone is out to impress.

It makes me so cross when men feel they need to "explain" to a woman what women like, how women enjoy sex, what women should do during sex. This attitude unfortunately does come from porn and porn is not real.

As lots of others have suggested, I would reply by explaining to him what men like. All men like to have their prostate massaged during sex. It gives them a stronger orgasm every time, guaranteed. If they don't like it or don't come from it, well I'm afraid there must be something wrong with them.

Wow some strong opinions in here, can we remember the OP is married to this man and seems quite happy before we carry on with the unnecessary quite frankly disgusting insults towards her husband.

I will however add that bjs and anal every time isn’t what I’d call ‘normal’ and more of a when the mood takes you, be it once a week, month, year or even never if it’s not your thing.

OP, you have two kids three years after getting together, and he works away?

That seems to have got quite far quite quickly, do you want to talk to us a bit about that?

BJ every time. Anal never. I thought that was normalish.

I give a BJ every time we have sex and he gives me oral. We occasionally have anal sex, it’s not an expectation though and I’m happy doing it.

We both love oral both giving and receiving almost every time we have sex there is oral

Mrs F hardly ever swallows because I prefer to cum inside her
She has on occasion when we have been out and ( and full sec would be tricky) she has fancied sucking me off which is lovely
She has tried anal with a previous partner and not enjoyed it so we don’t ever include this, I would never ask or hint as I know she has no interest. I had a previous partner who sometimes absolutely loved it and would ask for it probably every 5th time we had sex I enjoyed it but not over bothered either way I prefer PIV and don’t feel at all that I am missing anything
I often get a finger up my bum as Mrs F knows I enjoy this ( sorry if TMI)
He sounds like an arse as obviously we all enjoy different things so any all women / men comments are clearly stupid
Trying to coerce you is abusive and need to stop

@ImmutableSexQueen

Because I always wanted to ensure my husband was pleased before anything else.

We started dating in school (first boyfriend) and a few years in he left me to chase another girl he fancied. That didn’t work out for him, his feelings weren’t reciprocated, so he came back to me after a couple of months. I was very young, but I was devastated, found the whole thing traumatic.

When we got back together, and I didn’t want to risk losing him again, so I made myself into the most desirable partner I could. Changed my look, lost weight, did whatever he wanted in bed and made him feel like I enjoyed it. It all seemed to work. He fell back in love, we married, had a child and he’s been a loyal, loving partner since. 20-odd years later, I am still pretending, so that he never feels he has to look elsewhere. He doesn’t know this. He thinks this is what I want too. And I don’t know how to change things now.

Did you want children straight away? Or has he told you, every woman he’s ever been with doesn’t use contraception so you shouldn’t either?

Wow some strong opinions in here, can we remember the OP is married to this man and seems quite happy before we carry on with the unnecessary quite frankly disgusting insults towards her husband

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He’s manipulative, coercive and an outright liar. Boo hoo some people are insulting him.

He doesn’t know this. He thinks this is what I want too. And I don’t know how to change things now.

Can't you tell him it's the perimenopause changing your desires. Shame if you are really missing out.

You change things by stepping away. You've had coerced sex for two decades.

OK, you want to give your marriage a chance. Tell him. As of yesterday, there is no more anal from you - and no more of anything you don't want. If he says 'OK, darling, that's fine with me, ' then you have a chance. If not, you have to get out of there or be raped for the rest of your life.

@changedname1979

Wow some strong opinions in here, can we remember the OP is married to this man and seems quite happy before we carry on with the unnecessary quite frankly disgusting insults towards her husband.

I will however add that bjs and anal every time isn’t what I’d call ‘normal’ and more of a when the mood takes you, be it once a week, month, year or even never if it’s not your thing.

Sadly just many mumnetters love to encourage divorce and LTB with only a snippet of info!! Too many man/ relationship haters on here.

I quite like giving blow jobs but not swallowing.

Anal is a no from me.

But he's talking rubbish.

@Wreath21

Women, as human beings, have a whole range of sexual preferences, likes and dislikes. I wouldn't trust any man who claimed that 'all women' enjoy a particular activity. But it sounds like the bigger problem is that this man leaves you with all the childcare and housework then expects enthusiastic sexual servicing from you as well.

Agree with this. With my current partner (and the ‘current’ is significant) I just love blow jobs and want to do it all the time. With previous - not so much. His opinion on other women is totally irrelevant to your relationship

I enjoy giving blowjobs.. I get pleasure from seeing how much he enjoys it. As for anal.. not my cup of tea. A cheeky finger up the bum can be quite nice, but I’ve never ventured any further than that

The man likes anal, good on him! Get yourself something long with girth and blast him up his hopeful butt!

@tellitlikeitisnow

The man likes anal, good on him! Get yourself something long with girth and blast him up his hopeful butt!

@tellitlikeitisnow

The man likes anal, good on him! Get yourself something long with girth and blast him up his hopeful butt!

I have to say this made me laugh out loud.

You've been together 3 years and are now just discussing this?...

We both normally give and receive oral during every sex session and anal a few times a month? Maybe twice a month?

Bloke here, it's total rubbish. About half the ladies I've been with have liked oral. One I went with had done anal with a previous long-term bf.

Amusingly, I accidentally did anal with a lovely gf once when I wore a particularly thick condom, who told me after a few seconds that "it was quite nice but the wrong hole".

I was mortified :o

Your DP is talking utter bullshit.

I love giving BJs so that features quite heavily in my sex life. I'm also partial to a bit of anal on occasion. But every time..?! Don't be daft.

I enjoy BJs and give DH one every time, he tells me most of his male mates don’t get the same though.

I enjoy blow jobs so they would feature every time. Tried anal with exh,hurt like hell. But in my experience of online dating in past couple of years men are obsesssed with it! Will openly ask for it when they barely know your name. Twats.

I have followed this thread with a mix of surprise and interest. For starters to be coerced into any type of sex is unacceptable. I am one of 2 what could be described as fairly libertine sisters, now in my early 40s, and our late mother, very much a feminist, taught us when it came to sex, that if it wasn’t making you feel nice stop doing it!

Women are not a herd, there is no such thing as “all women” liking something and, importantly, not all women are heterosexual. I’m also puzzled while he lumps anal and giving BJs together.

Now the reason l have avoided responding hitherto; l need to lay cards on the table, i enjoy the pulsation and intimacy of giving a blowie, l actually find it comforting, maybe l was deprived of a dummy as a child!!! I’m relaxed about swallowing, they say it’s good for the complexion but l suspect that is male created hype. Those who will kiss you afterwards sorts the men from the boys.

I also enjoy oral only sessions from time to time, aside from that it’s always part of foreplay and l won’t entertain someone who will not go down on me; if someone wants to share my body, my body, it’ my rules.

Anal is something completely different. I have participated and enjoyed from time to time although l wouldn’t describe it as earth shattering. Yes, it does actually feel like a backwards poo! It requires skill, gentleness, communication and trust.

But if anything is not for the OP , be it for any reason, duty sex spoils the life of women. Real life is not a porn film.

Ewww🤢