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Do all women enjoy giving blow jobs & anal?

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foodforthought1 · 28/12/2021 22:37

I really want to know the general opinion beyond my very small circle of friends who I discuss sex life with. As I'm now feeling a little insecure about it all. Do you enjoy giving blow jobs ? Every time ? Plus have anal every time too?

My DP explained to me this evening that all women enjoy giving a blow job plus to swallow. Now I never swallow and certainly don't give blow jobs every day/week. But apparently every other women he's been with it happened every time they had sex (a lot) plus he said the same about anal, happened every time they had sex. He said this has been the case since he was in his early twenties, now mid forties. I joked they done of my friends give blow jobs for special occasions, he was mortified and said up until me he received it every time. He's not putting pressure on me to give it but we were talking about sex lives, etc

We got together three years ago, now have two little kids, he works away and when he comes back I'm a bit frazzled with work and home life. I'm not wanting to start a debate about the wrongs and right about his opinion and purely interested to know about blow jobs/anal, is this really the case? Is everyone giving blow jobs getting anal it every time ? And enjoying it or do you do it out of 'duty'?

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hugoagogo · 28/12/2021 22:46

No

Kenwouldmixitup · 28/12/2021 22:46

This always the point when I ask “is it too soon to say ‘LTB’.

ZenNudist · 28/12/2021 22:46

He sounds horrible. Is he giving you oral every time too? And what's the obsession with anal? Ugh. Nasty man.

Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese · 28/12/2021 22:46

I mean, I like giving dh blowjobs, but every day or everytime we have sex? Fuck right off!!!
Anal? No thanks, we tired it once, never again.

Hes chatting shit as said by many others.

Bluebluemoon · 28/12/2021 22:46

God love him for trying.

My guess would be he goes away and wanks to a lot of anal/blow job type porn and now thinks this is a "normal" thing for him to expect from you, his poor wife.

I wish I could give you some advice but IME once they have started with this shit it doesn't get any better and if you give in and do it things usually get more extreme.

In answer to your question OP: no, most women don't do this on a regular basis and when they do it's usually as a "treat" and not because they really enjoy it. But I'm sure you'll get someone along soon probably a man posing as a woman claiming they just LOVE it and you are a sexually repressed frigid bore if you don't do it at least once a week to please your man!

Lsquiggles · 28/12/2021 22:46

So every time you have sex he expects sex, anal sex and a bj? Who has time for that Grin

Agree with pp he's trying his luck and trying to make you feel inferior

Omicrone · 28/12/2021 22:47

Anal every time?

As if!

Agree, get him to try anal if it's so fucking great! As a man with a prostate technically he should enjoy it more than you anyway.

pastabest · 28/12/2021 22:47

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he's watching porn and thinks it real. Even worse he's watching porn and having random hookups when he is working away and thinks random one night stand blow jobs happen because 'all women love them'.

Mykittensmittens · 28/12/2021 22:48

I’m in my mid forties and so is my husband.

The answer is no.

I’m not a pearl clutching prude, but anal isn’t happening. No thanks. I pushed three babies out in four years and the repercussions of messing with that after horrendous piles which had to be surgically fixed is a no-go.

Oral - well - appreciate some really enjoy the reciprocal nature but we don’t. I can’t relax with DHs face shoved up my fanjo, and I have an astonishingly bad gag reflex.

Aside from that we have a very active, satisfying sex life and are equally happy.

It’s his perceptions that are skewed I think!

VioletLemon · 28/12/2021 22:48

Total prick. Get him to fuck.
In the meantime tell him you require high quality oral and a massage EVERY time you have sex... And a cup of tea after.

Gruffalogrinch · 28/12/2021 22:49

DP has never expressed any sort of interest in anal thankfully! BJ’s I love, and so does DP BUT he never ever expects them, or has a sense of entitlement about them.

Appalonia · 28/12/2021 22:49

He's a manipulative liar. Absolutely not. What a nasty man. I really feel for you and please don't do anything you're not comfortable with.

ElleGettingBetter · 28/12/2021 22:49

Yes to blow jobs, I love giving them and it’s for my pleasure as much as his. If I didn’t want to, I wouldn’t.

Absolutely not to anal.

Your partner is talking bollocks, don’t do anything you don’t want to do just to please him.

Twiglets1 · 28/12/2021 22:49

No I think he’s lying. I’ve done oral but certainly not every time and more in the early stages of a relationship before sex becomes more routine. As for Anal ... no, it sounds painful

Shazbagz · 28/12/2021 22:49

He’s pushing to see how far you’ll go haha. I do BJ quite often as frankly I find it easier than full sex: 3 adult children living at home with crap sound proofing quells my libido. Happy to keep him happy as I can then get more diy stuff done 😁. Anal nope: tried it, hurt like hell and had piles for weeks after. Told him if wants to do it he needs to pay me double what he pays the woman who will provide. I do the family finances. Good luck x

youvegottenminuteslynn · 28/12/2021 22:50

My DP explained to me this evening that all women enjoy giving a blow job plus to swallow. Now I never swallow and certainly don't give blow jobs every day/week. But apparently every other women he's been with it happened every time they had sex (a lot) plus he said the same about anal, happened every time they had sex.

Well he would, wouldn't he.

If he had had anal sex every time he had sex with each woman he's been with, then he's either been privy to the greatest statistical anomaly of all time, he met them on sites that specifically focus on sex and he's chosen women who love anal OR (more likely) he's obsessed with anal and pressured (aka coerced) each woman.

Happily, none of these options are the case as he's lying through his teeth to pressure (coerce you) into having anal sex with him.

Think about that for a minute.

This man, who presumably claims to love and respect you, is purposely trying to make you feel shit about not doing a specific sex act just because he enjoys it. A sex act which many women find painful and don't derive pleasure from. Some do, many many don't.

The reason? He's a cunt, frankly.

He thinks sex is something men do to women, not with women.

He's so thick that he thinks women in porn are all genuinely happy to have bareback anal after a minute of foreplay (if they're lucky) and love every minute of it.

He's a fucking arsehole. Maybe that's why he loves them so much!

Please don't stay with someone who attempts to coerce you into sex you don't want. That includes anal.

KaptainKaveman · 28/12/2021 22:50

He's a liar, deluded and full of complete shit. Ask him to take a sex toy up his arse next time he pesters.

Kdubs1981 · 28/12/2021 22:50

No. Next question

Tinsellittis · 28/12/2021 22:51

I’d tell him you’d be happy for anal every time - you’ll buy a strap on and peg him. Surely every bloke enjoys this every time they have sex 🤷🏻‍♀️

Shazbagz · 28/12/2021 22:51

Meant to be smiley face emoji sorry 🙄😁

ElinorOliphant · 28/12/2021 22:51

He’s talking shit. LTB obvs!

Kdubs1981 · 28/12/2021 22:52

I also think he's full of shit and watches too much porn.

Beamur · 28/12/2021 22:52

Nope. Wishful thinking on his part!
I don't know one single woman who would agree with that. Not one.

Morgan12 · 28/12/2021 22:52

How would he know what every woman likes?

He sounds an utter knob tbh. Imagine still sprouting this shite in his 40s. I don't think I could ever have sex with him again.

Plantsandpuddlesuits · 28/12/2021 22:52

@VioletLemon

Total prick. Get him to fuck. In the meantime tell him you require high quality oral and a massage EVERY time you have sex... And a cup of tea after.
Cup of tea after GrinGrin

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