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dp is going on a stag night and the stag wants to go lap dancing, how the hell can i tell dp i have a problem with this without looking like a jealous control freak??

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superv1xen · 07/05/2010 10:32

ok you lot are going to think i am mad. and, most probably the jealous control freak mentioned in my thread title

i have barely slept last night and i am utterly depressed today.

last night dp's mate text him to ask him to confirm he is going on his stag do in june. (which i have no problem with dp going on btw) to which dp replied yes, then his mate text back something along the lines of "woop woop there will be lapdancing involved"...the reason i know what the texts said is because dp laughingly showed me as if it was funny!

i bit my lip and didn't say anything but i was silently fuming and devastated at the thought that dp could think this ok.

if he so much as goes in one he will come home to his bags packed. seriously, it will end our relationship. and it would be even worse if they went in one and kept it a secret.

i am so against these places, for so many reasons. they are exploitative of women for one but from a personal point of view i AM jealous at the thought of him going in a place like that. would like to think that the only person dp would like to see naked is me. am i naive or what? i love him that much he is the only one i want to see naked in front of me, he is the only one i want to turn me on (because tell me what man wouldnt get turned on by lapdancers?), is it too much to ask to want him to feel the same?

ok i know that while in a relationship it is normal and healthy to find other people attractive but i really think that ogling naked girls and having them shove their tits in his face in a bar is going a step too far.

god i feel sick, i could cry. i am questioning him, i am questioning our whole relationship. we have been together nearly 3 years and have a one year old together, it isn't just a casual thing, sorry to ramble, i dont know what to think

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Malificence · 11/05/2010 22:18

Yes, still suffering LQ, he's been signed off sick by the GP because of the pain - driving almost 100 miles a day for work was making him worse, he's better for resting at home and he's seeing a chiropractor every other day at £30 a time, which may or may not be helping.

We've had major words today because I want him to go private for a scan and a quick diagnosis, he's adamant he shouldn't have to pay to queue jump but he's looking at a fortnight for a consultant's appointment, with no guarantee of a scan - they've lost his fucking x-rays and previous test results . I've tried to reason with him but he's a stubborn git.

BritFish · 12/05/2010 00:33

it was a shit argument and rant. im having a long boring sick day and i just feel like there's nothing in the world people cant complain about [like i just did, hah!] doesnt excuse all the horrible things of course, and doesnt mean we shouldnt try to change them at all. apologies.
and the blowjob thing...i think i concentrate too much on the 'should i withold sex if my DH doesnt get vasectomy' threads. i need to stay in on a friday night and read these bumsex threads.
apologies again, and sorry to hear you're all suffering.
fucking off now

AnyFucker · 12/05/2010 07:13

nice of you to come back and apologise BritFish x

Malificence · 12/05/2010 09:18

Fair enough Britfish, but read the right threads and you'll see there are a lot of BJ fans on MN.

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