Sex Drive clash :o)

[Littleblue]

If anyone who was on a previous thread reads this..the ironies rather amusing!..I'm seeing a lovely man..he's everything i could want , funny ,attractive and intelligent..
We "sing from the same song sheet"?BUT...he is apathetic in bed...very low drive , and the sex we do have is invariably instigated and driven by me...I have a very redblooded sex drive.How likely (given we have been together only a couple of months)is this to be an enormous problem long term?..

always. duh.

I see your point sparkles..but thats approaching the issue from the wrong end..it all works,he just cant be arsed

JJD..that link you posted is 'educational'gawd!

pmsl...o_0 really shiny?

If he just can't be arsed, then you need to move back to being friends, from the sound of it. There a lots of women who also cba who might suit him better in bed. Women who post here. But let's face it- you can hardly set him up now...they are just going to be having visions of uncomfortably congested nostrils...

For the record...that was a joke

What does cba mean?

Going back to the whole point, here, what do you, Littleblue, think the long term effect of his cba attitude towards sex will be?

And having identified it, what will you do?

fwiw, I think Shiney's suggestion may get some form of immediate response.

otoh, if you connect so well with him in other ways, why can't you talk about this with him? See if there's some underlying ishoos? Could you be arsed to put in the level of time and effort it may take to re-educate him into being a love god? And having done so, live with your creation?

can't be arsed

haven't read entire thread but doesn't cycling make things worse? PS didn't realise that ball size are part of the deal, so to speak! We blokes must take that into account.

lol @ creation

like Frankensteins monster or summat

cba = cant't be arsed

"There a lots of women who also cba who might suit him better in bed. Women who post here." Who are these women??

me = types too slow

..of course!
Well JJD..theres a bunch of questions...he flits about in Rl from project to project..i suspect that includes me..once garnered..kept at what he thinks 'maintenance level'..i dont want/need a love god..i need a 'lover'

i think you should carry on seeing him, for our benefit.

PMSL!!!..frankenstein...you da mAAAAN!!..balls(bolts) of "shteel bebeh"

Ah, well, there's all the answers to my questions.

PMSL..now peppermint...behave (lol)

oh JJD?..his adhd tendencies?lol...scrub that add..the 'h' got lost somewheres...

Night all....thank you

update please

Nothing yet.....its what i can only assume is a stunned silence!