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Heartbroken and alone

190 replies

Numptynoggin · 02/03/2010 09:48

haven't posted on here for ages, but badly need someone to talk to.

I am a single mum and met a wonderful man 3 months ago. We were suited on every level and he made love to me like I have never ever been loved before. now he has ended it to get back together with an ex, and I am utterly devastated. We still talk every day as friends, and he has continued to suport me emotionally through some difficult times, and I cannot do without his contact. But I cry myself to sleep at night at the thought she is in his bed, that he is making love to her, cooking with her, laughing with her.

I miss him so so much, and just don't know how to handle this. Trying to keep it together for the kids, but so hard. Hurting so badly.

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Numptynoggin · 04/03/2010 22:02

bampot???? you make me laugh.... but don't make me think about that...... counter productive.... peanut anyone?

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Numptynoggin · 04/03/2010 22:04

waht does bampot mean?

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scottishmummy · 04/03/2010 22:04

he's a bampot!ach at least you got a good winch.now mooooooove on,hes tacky

Numptynoggin · 04/03/2010 22:07

is that scottish for man of uncertain parentage? fuck it mrs tough love... I am...... can't you tell????????????????

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scottishmummy · 04/03/2010 22:09

bampot=headcase,silly,daft man or woman

Numptynoggin · 04/03/2010 22:11

ohhhhhhh... that sounds quite indulgent.... give me the gaelic for bastard

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Monty100 · 04/03/2010 23:01

Lol at SM. We made a good double act there girl.

I can do Nornirn gaelic but only phonetically as in scrag feggus an cuntai ort.

Got the drift?

NN all. xx

Will be keeping an eye on you Numpty. You're doing great.

scottishmummy · 04/03/2010 23:05

LOL M27,being weegie my learned gaelic was at uni,based on gie me a bevvy/get the chips noo/pass the irn bru/fancy a shag

must have jibberd on about bastard dont rememeber it though

Monty100 · 04/03/2010 23:32

Lmao SM.

Oooo no-one's ever called me M27 before. I feel like I'm on the road to something new. lol.

Hope you're all tucked up nicely in bed Numpty.

Numptynoggin · 04/03/2010 23:44

actually< I'm having a very random funny convo on fb.... so much so, haven't even checked the phone, even tho it has been bleeping at me... yay me!!!! night my girlies.... sleep well....

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Monty100 · 04/03/2010 23:52

You're a good 'un Numpty. You hear? You're a good 'un.

RESPECT.

NN. Take care.

Numptynoggin · 05/03/2010 11:00

Morning ladies... thanks for the chuckles last night.... doing ok ish today... had a grumpy text fm him this am saying he was annoyed cos I had blocked him on fb.... and he thought we had agreed to be friends....

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Monty100 · 05/03/2010 12:10

Hi Numpty, glad to hear you're doing ok-ish. Have you got his stuff ready to take to him?

He's grumpy because you blocked him on fb. Awww........ not.

Doing anything this weekend?

There's a thread about internet dating on loneparents (its at part 18), you might enjoy the banter on there even if you're not looking iyswim. There's a few of us on there that aren't looking. It usually heats up on the weekend/evenings.

Numptynoggin · 05/03/2010 16:04

thanks Monty..... sorry for the ignorance, what does part 18 mean? mn has changed so much since I was on it, I feel like a newbie.

yeah, it's all boxed up... ... I know I shouldn't be, but I am....

but then again, if I wasn't, then I would be forgetting the good times, and there were loads of them... ho hum, muddly numpty!

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Numptynoggin · 05/03/2010 16:07

oh, there is an M27 btw... near southampton< I think....

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Numptynoggin · 05/03/2010 17:41

Just had a flurry of texts from him saying he is sorry he has hurt me and asking me not to break contact with him as he wants us to be friends....

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Monty100 · 05/03/2010 18:22

Numpty, Part 18 means its the 18th thread since it was started lol. It's named Where Have all the Fit and Interesting Men Gone... or words to that effect.

You're bound to feel , of course you will. But stand up to the tosser, he has been appalling.

I've got to jump out and give dd a lift back laters.

Anniegetyourgun · 05/03/2010 18:28

You know, I bet his new woman wouldn't be at all sympathetic if she knew the lengths he was going to to keep a "friendship" going with his recent ex. Perhaps you should ask her how she feels about it?

scottishmummy · 05/03/2010 18:43

numpty,stop finding excuses to remain in contact with this man.he isnt your friend he is an ex-lover you had a thang for. who is in new partner bed,boffing her whispering sweet nothings.he doesn't just want friendship he wants you hanging about for his texts.being available. grow a spine.cease contact.best move on is you get over him gracefully

any way you cut this you are setting yourself for a hard time

Numptynoggin · 06/03/2010 00:32

ummm, Sm, I am not? just telling you what is going on.... as asked..... I have not contacted him apart fm to arrange to drop off his stuff..... and as I said, blew the suggestion of a meal out of the water, just doing it en route to pick up the kids, so it will literally be 30 secs... have blocked him on fb, not texted him apart from the detials of the stuff to be dropped off....

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Monty100 · 06/03/2010 00:35

Hiya Numpty, how are you?

I'm going to bed in a mo, was just checking in to see if you're ok.

You been doing anything?

Monty100 · 06/03/2010 00:41

Off to bed now. Hope you're ok.

NN.

Numptynoggin · 06/03/2010 09:55

Hi Monty, sorry I missed you. yeah, back to same old same old, but ex has the kids this am, so think I will go and have a long bath and a pamper.... hope you have a good weekend hun.

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Numptynoggin · 06/03/2010 18:20

not so much as a squeak today... either way... been very very quiet here....

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Numptynoggin · 06/03/2010 18:29

hmmmm... just been playing scrabble on fb, and always do the polite chat thing with people... but after the normal, hi good luck, what do you do, etc, the bloke I was playing said... 'you sound enchanting, and are really pretty, can I give you my number'..... ho yes, i think so..... nooooooot........

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