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Heartbroken and alone

190 replies

Numptynoggin · 02/03/2010 09:48

haven't posted on here for ages, but badly need someone to talk to.

I am a single mum and met a wonderful man 3 months ago. We were suited on every level and he made love to me like I have never ever been loved before. now he has ended it to get back together with an ex, and I am utterly devastated. We still talk every day as friends, and he has continued to suport me emotionally through some difficult times, and I cannot do without his contact. But I cry myself to sleep at night at the thought she is in his bed, that he is making love to her, cooking with her, laughing with her.

I miss him so so much, and just don't know how to handle this. Trying to keep it together for the kids, but so hard. Hurting so badly.

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Numptynoggin · 04/03/2010 14:36

Just went onto fb, and thought,,, fuck him and had one last look at his pics (some of us together on there) before I blocked him. slightly masochistically turned to his teenager ones... never bothered with them before oh, and from the comments on them the child hood sweetheart had contacted him long before we got together, and she made it very clear in the coments she was interested.
so much for it being at the end of our relationship,

good luck to her.... still, not going to give him the satisfaction of telling him that I know.... or facing him lie his way out of it...better just to keep that one up my sleeve as part of my healing list.

still, he's blocked now, and I've changed my text tone so when it goes it doesn't remind me of him.

guess it will still hurt for a bit, but thanks again guys for speeding up the recovery.

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AnyFucker · 04/03/2010 17:36

good girl, numpty

he is a manipulative and unpleasant person

I am glad you are not going to be his emotional puppet on a string

what a shitty way to tell you not to text him..."going on his travels.."..yeah, right, straight up the girlfriend's birth highway...

and yes, BenHer was right, I lost my breakfast at the stroking hair, huggy text...he deserves to be out of your life for that alone eww was all I could manage at the time, I was on my way out the door to work and it just summed up the situation !

Numptynoggin · 04/03/2010 17:53

smiling at you.... now feel sick myself at the thought of birth highway, so guess we are even...

check me out with an embryonic sense of humour again....

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geekdad · 04/03/2010 18:04

Numpty, you're starting to make progress already. I can sympathise completely with what you're going through.

Just read through all the posts, and all giving good advice.

You might also want to try www.soyouvebeendumped.com/. Despite it's seemingly flippant name, it's an amazing site, particularly the forum. I found it really helpful in dealing with my current break-up.

Bascially, though, successfully getting over someone all boils down to establishing and maintaining No Contact, and No Snooping. Oh, and time - lots of time!

The only way out is through.

Numptynoggin · 04/03/2010 18:12

thanks geekdad, will have a look.... will not snoop again.. but in this case it helped, iyswim....

one more share, which will help me... the day before I posted this, still in the depths of the sadness I poked him as I was on fb, which is something we had always done to each other so we could chat, and he texted that he was engrossed in a book and would chat at sometime. at the time it hurt like hell, but now I am thinking... twat, how rude. no one likes to be lower down the list than a Tom Clancy novel....

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AnyFucker · 04/03/2010 18:57

no, numpty...he was on that birth canal highway...

Monty100 · 04/03/2010 18:57

You're doing great Numpty.

Geekdad - I read that as 'no shopping'

Numptynoggin · 04/03/2010 19:06

cheers, any,,,, still feel sick! chuckling quietly to myself... may treat myself to a g and t tonight...

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Numptynoggin · 04/03/2010 19:08

oh sorry, any, just got that.... no he really was alone... which makes it even twattier

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Monty100 · 04/03/2010 19:11

Numpty have you got a good friend to come and give you support?

Numptynoggin · 04/03/2010 19:26

no, sadly... new to here, still making friends... no one who I know well enough to ask to come round... esp not if I want a drunken wibble but virtual is cool.... guess that's why I bonded with him so much, not just the fuckship, but the friendship... but hey, compared to yesterday this is much better. cheers all

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Monty100 · 04/03/2010 19:51

Cheers Numpty!

Numptynoggin · 04/03/2010 19:54

clink!!!! bless you babe

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chippychippybangbang · 04/03/2010 20:22

numpty you are doing so well!! Now you've got to find a way of staying strong if he tries to re-engage you, and he will..

AnyFucker · 04/03/2010 20:25

yes, he will be back

with his dick still wet

do fuck hin right off, won't you ?

Monty100 · 04/03/2010 20:25

Yes Numpty, be prepared for that. You need to stay as strong as you have been today.

Clink!!

Numptynoggin · 04/03/2010 20:35

oh monty, that sounds fab, virtual fire and cosy sofa... yeah I guess... think I am stupid for wanting to do the bitchy 'see what you're missing and fuck right off if you are touching me again' thing on Monday?

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Monty100 · 04/03/2010 21:20

No of course I don't!

You don't want to look like someone who gives a shit!

Go girl.

Hope you're ok.

Numptynoggin · 04/03/2010 21:25

yes babe.... licking the wounds.... but much much better than 2 days ago.... just gotta not do the 'fuck what an idiot' stage I guess..... hugging you virtually

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Numptynoggin · 04/03/2010 21:25

blimey, one G and t and I am hugging strangers... chuckle....

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Numptynoggin · 04/03/2010 21:36

sensing mn sport here.... rather than block him, I should just post his texts on here to amuse and apall you all....

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scottishmummy · 04/03/2010 21:51

hes a bawbag and you are less of a lovesick pup now

so aye gie us aw a chortle

Numptynoggin · 04/03/2010 21:55

well he hasn't texted tonight..... so will have to delay that particular pleasure.... yes I am, mrs tough love so pat yourselves on the back for a job well done

sigh,,,,, back to the bloody rabbit.....

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Numptynoggin · 04/03/2010 21:56

(can you tell I don't drink much, ladies... sorry... far tmi)

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scottishmummy · 04/03/2010 21:57

your well shot of him.bampot,but he he had moooooooooves in sack so want all bad?

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