Heartbroken and alone

[Numptynoggin]

haven't posted on here for ages, but badly need someone to talk to.

I am a single mum and met a wonderful man 3 months ago. We were suited on every level and he made love to me like I have never ever been loved before. now he has ended it to get back together with an ex, and I am utterly devastated. We still talk every day as friends, and he has continued to suport me emotionally through some difficult times, and I cannot do without his contact. But I cry myself to sleep at night at the thought she is in his bed, that he is making love to her, cooking with her, laughing with her.

I miss him so so much, and just don't know how to handle this. Trying to keep it together for the kids, but so hard. Hurting so badly.

Erm...all these texts are to ensure that you stay available in case the new relationship fails. Can you wish him 'all the best' in his new relationship but tell him that you need to move on? Sometimes it is true that men and women can't just be friends.

thanks diamond ladies.... off to polish my anger... (or just sleep... in reality)will have you with me tomorrow

Numpty I was trying to help. Obviously I haven't. I thought my advice was good but I guess you aren't ready for it yet. I'm very sorry if I made you feel worse, and if I came across as insensitive. I've been through some very low times and often found tough love worked better for me, but we're all different.

Best of luck in getting over him and getting stronger, I'll back away from this thread now!

sorry Bolter... was feeling oversensitive.... bless you for posting... profers small olive branch.... well, in 5 hours it will be over... and it is a lovely day, so just going to try and enjoy the sunshine....

Numpty, I wish you well today. Maybe don't go too mad with your appearance but just look very together.

I think Bolter is sending you tough love.

Lol at practicing anger. Grrr

Numpty, I think he is being really cruel by texting and sending these pictures. (Oh, rub it in why don't you). He's not being a friend. He should let you move on. I'm for you.

Again, I hope it goes well for you today, it's an awful thing to have to do. You'll probably be shaky after.

thank you Monty, you are being soooo kind.... I know she was, that's why i said sorry.

feel a bit sick actually - can't wait for it to be over. have settled on making sure my hair looks good, and just a pretty jumper and jeans... fmbs back in the cupboard...

Numpty, I just want you to get through this in once piece.

You will need to regard today's encounter as closure on this relationship. Don't entertain him at all.

He is a cad, for the want of a better word.

joined this thread late but just wanted to send some unmumsnetty hugs to the OP. stay strong, sounds like you have done really well. hope it went ok today, let us know how it went x

it;s done... I behaved... well, dignifiedly is too uppity, but was calm and friendly. He hugged me, but I just kind of accpeted it,,, didn't reciprocate, just stayed still until he let me go (only a second). Gave him his stuff. Told him it wasn't fair on the new woman to keep texting me, and when he said he was just trying to be kind, I said I know, but it was starting to erode the nice memories, and wished him well (through gritted teeth, but I do n't do scenes). and left

thanks for holding my hand. just off to have a bit of a cry....

Oh well done numpty. Have a big old hug x

"I know, but it was starting to erode the nice memories" ... perfect!!! Well done you!

any tissues there too?

FWIW I think he will be back in touch. You wouldn't want him back though, would you? Not now that you see how he just wants to keep you on his hook?

(can I go back and smack him for hurting me now?).... kidding......

the day I posted yes, I would have taken him back... made him grovel but taken him back... but then I thought there was no overlap. now, no. don't like being two timed.

dittany... wise words... have copied them out to prove it is ok to have a soft heart

its more than that.. he has been using you with the way he has kept you dangling. You deserve better than that.

good for you for staying so calm and dignified numpty!!!! i bet he so wasnt expecting that.

now you are free to find someone else who is worth loving and who loves you back just as much.

keep posting if u need to

Numpty - good for you. You did really brilliantly there. Don't answer any texts now.

I hope he rots in hell roos the day.

Here for you if you need it.

thank you all so so so so much. Think i will get a takeaway tonight and try and find a dvd which is funny but has no love story... any ideas?

well done numpty, you did really well!! keep strong and keep up with the ignoring of texts.

you deserve to treat yourself and i just hope he lets you go and stops trying to keep you as a 'back up'.

well done again and keep posting x

Well done Numpty, you're doin great!
Don't let the fucker back in, you're well rid!

thanks guys.... soo needed your encouragement... couldn't have done it without you... off to bed i think... might even lift my youngest in for a baby snuggle